ASK DR LOUISE
SHE USED ME FROM THE START
Q My first wife died 10 years ago after a long battle with cancer. Five years ago I met a woman who’s 20 years younger than me and I was sceptical about the relationship because of the age gap, but she convinced me she was happy with me.I’m the director of a company and quite well-off, and from the time we got married four years ago she’s made financial demands on me – she wanted a new car, aA It’s an unfortunate fact that there are people who use others for their own gain without feeling any guilt or shame. Such people often display traits of an antisocial personality disorder, and it sounds as if your current wife fits the bill – she married you for your money, so she could have an easy life with her lover.The bottom line is, you deserve better. So divorce her as soon as possible. There is no joy for you in this superficial marriage. You will only become more and more angry as time goes by. Don’t be afraid of being lonely. As soon as you’re divorced, adjust your lifestyle to that of a single man – go on lots of interesting outings, make new friends and work on ticking things off your bucket list. Don’t simply sit at home feeling sorry for yourself.Loneliness can sometimes make one blind to the obvious. There are single, divorced or widowed women you could meet that would be delighted to spend time with you as a friend – and possibly more, if there’s a spark.
