Cannot Swop Death

By Toyi Mthembu

Toyi Mthmbu teaches you how to live again after sailing across a stormy sea trying to find closure from losing a loved one?

I cannot swop death is a gateway to healing and accepting reality.

It's an inspirational and practical guide helping you understand and accept the pain of loss.

This book is filled with many valuable tools helping you accept the different levels of sorrow, and guiding you in finding closure as you are taken through the journey of grieving.

Shock
Reality
Reaction
Recovery

• Language: English
• Publisher: Toyi Mthembu
• Release date: Feb 1, 2014
• ISBN: 9781311611413

Toyi Mthembu

Toyi Mthembu, author and spiritual therapist, is a founder & vision carer of Qhudeni Skills Development cc, established in 2009. She is an independent motivational speaker and an active candidate member of the Professional Speakers Association of SA since 2007.In 2010 she became a Phenomenal Soul Woman of the year finalist hosted by Soul Magazine and has written numerous articles for various mainstream SA magazines such as Bona and Drum. Toyi's future vision is to launch a community development project that addresses youth mentoring, life coaching and skills development for needy children in her hometown of Mpumalanga Township in Hammersdale near Durban.

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CANNOT SWOP DEATH

By Toyi (NTZ) Mthembu

Published by Mind Power Publications

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DEDICATION

This book is dedicated to God, Lord, the Father, The Almighty. The Maker of Heaven and Earth, The Giver and Upholder of life.

Also dedicate it to all our loved ones, including your loved ones as you read this book. They are no longer with us but they are now vessels used by God in His Kingdom.

With Thanksgiving – Mercy! Rewrote my life once again.

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ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

I would like to acknowledge the fact that God always do provide support in one way or another. He sits at His Throne whilst making sure that we do have people in our lives that become pillars of our strength in times of need. When it all started, Victor Zakhele ka Mncube (aka Zakes) walked this road with me. On the 28TH July 2012 when my sister was first admitted at the hospital in Pretoria, I didn’t know who to call since the family is all in KZN. I him and told him. All he said was Where are you right now? I was in town and he told me that he was on his way to fetch me.

Arriving, I told him about my sister as we were driving home. Arriving at home, he parked the car outside, we sat in the car and we spoke. We then went inside the house where he made few phone calls informing some of their colleagues. An hour later, to be exact, it was after 19:30, my sister called asking for food and nighties and I offered to bring it to her the next day.

All he said was Organise everything that sisi Bongi needs and I will come back in 10 minutes to drive you to the hospital. I told him that the visiting hour is over and he said he will speak to them at the hospital and they will let us in.  He arrived as promised; off we went to the hospital.

The next day which was a Sunday, he took me to hospital again to visit my sister. Some of my sister’s colleagues were there as well and were all surprised as they were not thinking that she was that ill. When she was discharged on Monday the 30th, he fetched her from the hospital and took her home. He immediately called me to assure me that she was looking much better and that I must not worry, she as she was fine.

Amongst the few occasions that will always remain outstanding, the day in August when I had an attempted break-in. That happened just a week after my sister was admitted again in ICU at a hospital in Pietermaritzburg.

It was a huge trauma for me as I was left all alone in her house and the pain of her being in ICU. The logistics of attending to the attempted break-in which included the security company and the police services were complete and the neighbours have left, it dawned, he was the only person I was left with in that big house big yard and off course, greatest fear.

I cried, he held me, I sobbed on his chest, he held me tight with that assurance that I must not be afraid as he is here. It took me about an hour to recover from that shock, he finally had to leave. I prepared myself for bed and slept.  Every time when I think about it, I thank God for bringing such a person into my life. He did not and had never taken advantage of my vulnerability.

We sat in the house that evening for almost 2 hours, he listened to my fears, he counseled me and gave me an assurance that I will be fine and that things will be okay.

If we both knew that things were going to be fine for my sister; and that there was so much just around the bend waiting to happen.

This bend I am referring to would have been sharp and bumpy if and when he was not holding my hand but he made