Cheap and Miserly Men: How to Spot Them and Handle Them

By Lyn Kelley

New, updated edition 2022. Certified Relationship coach Dr. Lyn Kelley will show you how to rate men on the “cheapness scale.” She explains what cheapness really is, what causes it, and how to respond to it. Plus, the 12 most common mistakes women make that cause men to become cheap, and the only way to get any man to become more generous.
Here's what you'll discover:
Introduction: My Experiences Have Taught Me Well
Chapter 1: How Cheap Is He?
The Definition of Cheap
The Difference Between “Cheap” and “Miserly”
It’s Not Just About Money
Are Your Expectations Too High?
The Cheapness Continuum
Chapter 2: What Causes Cheapness?
Fear
Selfishness
How to Know If His Attitudes Are Unhealthy
Chapter 3: What About Moochers?
The Artist
The Contractor
The Self-Employed Hustler
Chapter 4: Can His Case Be Cured?
The Cheapness Scale
Chapter 5: How to Respond to Cheap and Miserly Behavior
Handle it Early and Swiftly
Why You Must Go Very Slow In Dating
What is a Real Date?
Why You Must End Your Dates First
The “What?” Technique
Let Your Intuition Guide You
Could it Be Your Fault That He’s Cheap?
The 20 Biggest Mistakes You Can Make
Chapter 6: How to Set Limits With Kindness
Why Taking Care of Him Will Destroy Your Relationship
It’s Never Too Late to Train Him Right
How to Love and Accept Him While Setting Limits
Chapter 7: How to Handle it Once and for All
Don’t Give Away Your Jewels for Free
Stop Paying Men to Have Sex With You
Don’t Be a Love-Sick Crack Addict
Don’t Be the Dead Deer on the Doorstep
The 10 Best Ways to Handle Him
Chapter 8: How to Leave With Love If Necessary

• Language: English
• Publisher: Lyn Kelley
• Release date: Apr 28, 2011
• ISBN: 9781458067661

Lyn Kelley

As a Motivational Coach and Speaker, my goal is "to empower people move to the next level of success in their lives." Many people have asked for more information about me and why I am qualified to motivate others. So here's a little bit about me and how I got here. It all started back in Fresno, CA where I was born and raised. As a child I knew I had a calling to help people be happier and live better lives. I knew this because I was keenly observant of people. I observed people and how they lived their lives. At age 10 a friend's family invited me to a musical show called "Up With People!" This show had a major impact on me, and brought up my passion to help people be happier. Although my parents didn't care about my grades, I received all A's in school except I always failed Oral English. I couldn't get up in front of the class and speak. What kept me going in school was my desire for a career in the helping/teaching profession, so I could help others become more successful. The females in my family were discouraged from going to college, so higher education became my way of rebelling. I earned my B.A. in Education from CSU Fresno. During college I had some wonderful professors who took me under their wing and encouraged me to speak in class. I learned that I enjoyed teaching and actually had a gift that had previously been repressed. I went on to get my teaching credential and taught Jr. and Sr. High School for 7 years. I went from a shy little girl who couldn't speak in front of the class to a big girl who couldn't STOP speaking in front of the class! Teaching adolescents was an amazing experience! I found that I wanted to work with them more one-on-one, so I went back to college to become a counselor. I received my M.S. in Counseling/Psychology from the University of Miami and became licensed as a Marriage & Family Therapist. Initially I set out to get a wide range of experience. I worked in a children's psych hospital in dual diagnosis, managed a residential treatment program for severely emotionally disturbed teenage girls, conducted biofeedback therapy for a pain management center, and worked in social services in the areas of foster care, child abuse and family reunification. Once I became licensed I worked in a private counseling practice for 7 years. I specialized in relationship counseling. During this time I realized that coaching, writing and teaching were what I really loved to do, s...

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This book is fabulous! Finally, someone gave voice to what I was thinking and wondering all along. It really helped to have someone define the different types of cheapness - which ones can be dealt with and which ones can't be. Before I read this book I fed into men's cheapness instead of handling it the right way. Now I know how to respond to the first signs of cheapness in a nice, polite, tactful way.

--Sara Gossenberg, Chicago, IL

"Dr. Kelley tells it like it is. I’ve read all of her books on relationships and feel I have grown by leaps and bounds due to her honest, straight, real information. She writes like she is talking to her best friend. All the strategies I’ve used so far that she suggests have worked for me! I feel so much more confident in dating now, and I’m not wasting time with men who are wrong for me. This was worth more than 100 times the cost of the books to me. I highly recommend her books."

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"Lyn Kelley has done a superlative job of explaining why people fail at their relationships and how they can stop this self-sabotage. She explains how to know which men are ‘manageable’ and which men are not. She gives concrete, simple ways to get even the most difficult men to surrender to you. She showed me how I was actually pushing men away from me rather than moving them toward me. I now know what I’ve been doing wrong and am committed to changing myself! I highly recommend this book."

--Michelle Rodriguez, Orlando, FL

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I just wanted to let you know how amazing and accurate your book is (10 Secrets to Getting Any Man You Want to Want YOU). This book answered all of my questions and I realized what I was doing wrong. Forget women are from Venus and blah blah blah. YOUR BOOK SAYS IT ALL! Thank you."

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Dear Jane Series:

Book 1: The 12 Biggest Mistakes Women Make in Dating & Love Relationships

Book 2: How to Cure a Commitment-Phobic

Book 3: How to Turn a Player into a Stayer

Book 4: Controlling and Manipulative Men: How to Spot Them and Handle Them

Book 5: Self-Centered and Narcissistic Men: How to Spot Them and Handle Them

Book 6: Addicted Men – Drugs, Alcohol, Porn and More: How to Spot Them and Handle Them

Book 7: Low Achieving Men - Passives, Wimps, Dreamers: How to Spot Them and Handle Them

Book 8: Cheap Men: How to Spot Them and Handle Them

Book 9: Men who Lie and Cheat: How to Spot Them and Handle Them

Book 10: Emotionally Unavailable Men: How to Spot Them and Handle Them

Book 11: The Romantic Terrorist: Protect Yourself from Stalking, Harassment, Bullying and Threats

Book 12: How to Get Any Man You Want to Want YOU

Book 13: The 10 Biggest Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Love Relationships

Book 14: How to Break Up, Survive and Thrive

Book 15: Bad Dick, Good Jane: How Good Girls Get Bad Boys to Behave, Fall in Love and Commit

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Bad Dick, Good Jane:

How Good Girls Get Bad Boys to Behave, Fall in Love, and Commit

Other Self-Help Books by Lyn Kelley:

How to Stick With Your Diet & Exercise Program

How to Motivate People! The 3 Magic Keys to Unlock Anyone’s Hidden Motivation

The 7 Self-Sabotages: Why People Sabotage Themselves and How to Stop It

How to Become Your Own Life Coach in 12 Easy Steps

Stalking 101: Everything You Need to Know to Keep Yourself Safe

How to Motivate Yourself: Secrets of the Motivational Superstars

The Magic of Detachment: How to Detach from Other People and Their Problems

Thousands of Angels: Your Guide to Spiritual Empowerment, Peace and Abundance

One Day She Woke Up and Decided to be Brave: A Woman’s Journey from Fear to Courage

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The Biggest Mistake Women Make in Dating and Love Relationships:

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Is He a Commitment Phobic?

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How to Stick With Your Diet and Exercise Program:

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The Magic of Detachment: How to Let Go of Other People and Their Problems:

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Controlling and Manipulative Men:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gc6LGkonSr8

Emotionally Unavailable Men:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yXUBBE7MgLo

Self Centered & Narcissistic Men:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5lMDvDF2r1o

Cheap and Miserly Men:

How to Spot Them and Handle Them

By Lyn Kelley, Ph.D., MFT, CPC

Certified Relationship Coach

Table of Contents

Introduction

My Experiences Have Taught Me Well

Chapter 1: How Cheap Is He?

The Definition of Cheap

The Difference Between Cheap and Miserly

It’s Not Just About Money

Are Your Expectations Too High?

The Cheapness Continuum

Chapter 2: What Causes Cheapness?

Fear