Self Centered and Narcissistic Men: How to Spot Them and Handle Them

By Lyn Kelley

New revised edition 2021! Lyn Kelley, Ph.D. has 25+ years experience as a licensed therapist and certified relationship coach who draws from her own experience and that of her clients to give you all the information you’ll ever need to know about self-centered and narcissistic men. You’ll learn how “bad” he is on a scale from 1–10. You’ll know all the early warning signs, why you’re attracted to him, how to respond to selfish behavior, the 11 questions you MUST ask up front, the 3 C’s to watch out for and the 3 R’s cure. If there is any hope for your self-centered man, this book will give you the ONLY strategies that work to turn him into a generous, caring, giving man.

Chapter 1: What’s the Difference Between Self-Centered and Narcissistic?
Diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Symptoms of Narcissistic Personality
Treatment of Narcissistic Personality

Chapter 2: How “Bad” Is He?
What Causes Selfishness?
Levels of Severity Continuum

Chapter 3: Early Warning Signs
How to Know if He’s “Workable”
Charm and Charisma
Don’t Be Impressed
Better to be Interested than Interesting
When to Leave Him Where You Found Him

Chapter 4: Why We Fall For Them
When Two Narcissists Attract
Patty Pleaser
The Need for Challenge
Alpha Males
Emotional Roller-Coaster Addiction

Chapter 5: Why Narcissists are Often Commitment-Phobic
Uncovering the Wolf
Learned Selfishness
Freedom and Choices
Conflicting Behaviors
Keep Things On Your Terms
How to Deal With Inconsistency and Ambivalence

Chapter 6: How to Respond to Selfish Behavior
Identify His Selfishness
11 Questions You MUST Ask
How to Deal With Dishonesty
Always Have a Getaway Plan
Use Bold, Honest, Straight Talk
Why You Must Have Standards
Let Him Be the Fixer
Watch Out for the 3 C’s
Have Some Non-Negotiables

Chapter 7: The Golden Boy
The Pedastalized Child
I’m God, I’m Garbage

Chapter 8: The Venture Capitalist
Dr. Know-It-All
Mr. Dodge
Mr. Metro-Sexual

Chapter 9: The 3 R’s Cure: Respect, Reality and Reciprocity
Co-dependency
Respect
Reality
Reciprocity
The Misogynist

Chapter 10: When and How to End it
Idealization and Fantasy
How to Tell Him

Chapter 11: Should I (we) Seek Help?
Can Therapy Help?
Dealing With Resistance

• Language: English
• Publisher: Lyn Kelley
• Release date: Oct 27, 2010
• ISBN: 9781458054173

Lyn Kelley

As a Motivational Coach and Speaker, my goal is "to empower people move to the next level of success in their lives." Many people have asked for more information about me and why I am qualified to motivate others. So here's a little bit about me and how I got here. It all started back in Fresno, CA where I was born and raised. As a child I knew I had a calling to help people be happier and live better lives. I knew this because I was keenly observant of people. I observed people and how they lived their lives. At age 10 a friend's family invited me to a musical show called "Up With People!" This show had a major impact on me, and brought up my passion to help people be happier. Although my parents didn't care about my grades, I received all A's in school except I always failed Oral English. I couldn't get up in front of the class and speak. What kept me going in school was my desire for a career in the helping/teaching profession, so I could help others become more successful. The females in my family were discouraged from going to college, so higher education became my way of rebelling. I earned my B.A. in Education from CSU Fresno. During college I had some wonderful professors who took me under their wing and encouraged me to speak in class. I learned that I enjoyed teaching and actually had a gift that had previously been repressed. I went on to get my teaching credential and taught Jr. and Sr. High School for 7 years. I went from a shy little girl who couldn't speak in front of the class to a big girl who couldn't STOP speaking in front of the class! Teaching adolescents was an amazing experience! I found that I wanted to work with them more one-on-one, so I went back to college to become a counselor. I received my M.S. in Counseling/Psychology from the University of Miami and became licensed as a Marriage & Family Therapist. Initially I set out to get a wide range of experience. I worked in a children's psych hospital in dual diagnosis, managed a residential treatment program for severely emotionally disturbed teenage girls, conducted biofeedback therapy for a pain management center, and worked in social services in the areas of foster care, child abuse and family reunification. Once I became licensed I worked in a private counseling practice for 7 years. I specialized in relationship counseling. During this time I realized that coaching, writing and teaching were what I really loved to do, s...

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Dear Jane Series:

Book 1: The 12 Biggest Mistakes Women Make in Dating & Love Relationships

Book 2: How to Cure a Commitment-Phobic

Book 3: How to Turn a Player into a Stayer

Book 4: Controlling and Manipulative Men: How to Spot Them and Handle Them

Book 5: Self-Centered and Narcissistic Men: How to Spot Them and Handle Them

Book 6: Addicted Men – Drugs, Alcohol, Porn and More: How to Spot Them and Handle Them

Book 7: Low Achieving Men - Passives, Wimps, Dreamers: How to Spot Them and Handle Them

Book 8: Cheap Men: How to Spot Them and Handle Them

Book 9: Men who Lie and Cheat: How to Spot Them and Handle Them

Book 10: Emotionally Unavailable Men: How to Spot Them and Handle Them

Book 11: The Romantic Terrorist: Protect Yourself from Stalking, Harassment, Bullying and Threats

Book 12: How to Get Any Man You Want to Want YOU

Book 13: The 10 Biggest Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Love Relationships

Book 14: How to Break Up, Survive and Thrive

Book 15: Bad Dick, Good Jane: How Good Girls Get Bad Boys to Behave, Fall in Love and Commit

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Bad Dick, Good Jane:

How Good Girls Get Bad Boys to Behave, Fall in Love, and Commit

Other Self-Help Books by Lyn Kelley:

How to Stick With Your Diet & Exercise Program

How to Motivate People! The 3 Magic Keys to Unlock Anyone’s Hidden Motivation

The 7 Self-Sabotages: Why People Sabotage Themselves and How to Stop It

How to Become Your Own Life Coach in 12 Easy Steps

Stalking 101: Everything You Need to Know to Keep Yourself Safe

How to Motivate Yourself: Secrets of the Motivational Superstars

The Magic of Detachment: How to Detach from Other People and Their Problems

Thousands of Angels: Your Guide to Spiritual Empowerment, Peace and Abundance

One Day She Woke Up and Decided to be Brave: A Woman’s Journey from Fear to Courage

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Self-Centered and Narcissistic Men

How to Spot Them and Handle Them

By Lyn Kelley, Ph.D., MFT, CPC

Once upon a time, there was a boy called Narcissus. He was the son of a god and he was very, very handsome. Many women fell in love with him, but he turned them away. One of the women who loved Narcissus was a nymph called Echo. Echo could not speak properly - she could only repeat what was said to her, so she couldn't tell Narcissus that she loved him. One day, when Narcissus was walking in the woods with some friends, he became separated from them. He called out Is anyone here? Echo replied Here, Here. Echo stepped forward with open arms, wanting to cuddle him. But Narcissus refused to accept Echo's love. Echo was so

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