Hold Hands, Laugh, Make Love; Live BETTER and LONGER

By Tara Jane Manning

Hold Hands, Laugh, Make Love; Live BETTER and LONGER is a work in which the author seeks to educate and entertain readers as they learn about sex, relationships, and their bodies. Through a combination of advice, information, and exercises she hopes to help readers improve their health, relationships, and sex lives, and to help them realize the importance of sex in a relationship.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Tara Jane Manning
• Release date: Mar 31, 2010
• ISBN: 9781452357331

Tara Jane Manning

About the author:Tara Jane Manning has a degree in psychology from Purdue University, received in 1983. She spent 20 years of her younger adult life as a social worker. Most of her work was with women experiencing problems in their relationships and their lives in general. Of all the areas of life that she helped women with, the area that they were generally most perplexed by was their sexuality and issues surrounding sex. Sex was also the topic most difficult for them to explore, however, even when it was at the top of their list as far as what was bothering them.Tara Jane Manning is 51 years old, married, and has 2 grown children. The man that she is married to is her childhood sweetheart. They have been married for 32 years. In those 32 years they have worked hard to keep their lives, their relationship, and particularly their sexual relationship healthy and lively. They have visited places and taken advantage of experiences that they believe have contributed to opening their minds to ideas and concepts that most people don’t ever get around to imagining.Tara Jane Manning has, in the last few years, been unofficially researching sex and people’s thoughts on its importance to their relationships. What she is finding is that people, when they are even able to articulate their thoughts about this, want that question answered, but don’t seem to know where to find the answer. It’s not out there in the current reading. Much of what people say they are looking for is a comfortable way to explore and truly discuss sex and it’s meaning, as well as potential, in their lives, but there just isn’t an avenue for such.The premise of Hold Hands, Laugh, Make Love; Live Better and Longer that sex is basic, it’s healthy, we’re designed for it, and it’s FUN will be the start of a new way to answer the questions that we all still have about ourselves and sex.

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Hold Hands,

Laugh,

Make Love;

Live Better and Longer

By Tara Jane Manning

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Published by: Tara Jane Manning

Copyright 2010 by Tara Jane Manning

All rights reserved. Without limiting the rights under copyright reserved above, no part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in or introduced into a retrieval system, or transmitted, in any form, or by any means (electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise) without the prior written permission of both the copyright owner and the above publisher of this book.

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Contents

Hold hands, laugh, make love….

Sex should be considered the most important thing we do for ourselves….

Sex is basic (primal).

Animals do it.

Using the proper terms…

Sex is healthy.

Sex is like eating, sleeping, and being active.

Nobody dies…

We ARE designed for sex; good sex, even.

Let’s start with masturbation.

What if we allowed ourselves to think about sex like we do our food?

Get into the zones…the erogenous ones.

Erogenous zone exercises.

Orgasms.

So, don’t fake it, make it…happen.

Here’s how.

E-zones and O-moans.

Sharing.

Friends…

Partner….

More sharing.

Direct and honest communication really is important.

Sex can be FUN and entertaining. There’s nothing wrong with that.

The ‘rules’ are simple.

Hold hands.

Give compliments.

Laugh.

Kiss.

Make out. Not just kiss now, but really MAKE OUT. Like adolescents.

Make love. Make sexual activities of some sort a daily activity.

So, let’s start experimenting. Experimenting also has a few ‘rules’.

An open mind.

Lubrication.

Conversation.

Laughter.

Making stuff up.

Ideas for some FUN sexual experiments or experiences…

Have ‘Date Night’.

Shower or bubble bath ‘Date’.

Play games.

Play with toys.

Have fantasies and share them with your partner.

Sex. It’s basic, it’s healthy, we’re designed for it, AND it’s FUN.

Pass along the FUN and the benefits!

This book is dedicated to my beloved husband, who endured numerous occasions of interruption to our sexual relations while this book idea was being conceived. Wait, I have to write this down is not what one necessarily wants to hear while in the middle of a love making session. He gave me support, encouragement, and ideas for this book. I am grateful for that. I am also grateful to him for my ‘everyday’ partnership with him. And the sex. Especially the FUN sex.

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Hold Hands, Laugh, Make Love;

Live BETTER and LONGER

By Tara Jane Manning

The title of this book has a special meaning for me. I hope it does for you, too, after you are finished reading it. It might not be the same meaning for you as me, but that’s ok. And just in case it’s not clear to you from the title, this is a book about sex. I know there are lots of those out there already. This one is different. It is different because it is written from the perspective that not ENOUGH is written, discussed, understood, or embraced as far as why sex is extremely important as an everyday, normal, yet special, part of our lives. It is about the fact that good sex, FUN sex, even, is the most underrated yet most essential element to living better, longer and happier lives. It is not a book about romance per se, or how certain sexual positions are better than others. It is not a book about knowing how to be the ‘best lover’ or making your partner more sexually attracted to you. It is about why sex should be considered the most important thing we do for ourselves in our everyday life to make it the best life we can possibly be living. We tend to think it’s our diets, our exercise plans, our social lives, our religious selections, our emotional and intellectual strategies for achieving personal and professional success, our financial planning, and/or our family planning that leads us to be happy, and healthy, and prepared for a long and full life. While all these things are important, it’s actually sex that is the catalyst for how well those things work for us.

I can see the questioning look on your face, but really, think about it. Sex is the lowest common denominator in our lives; it’s how we all got here. In this respect, whether you look at it from a scientific or creationistic point of view, or both, it is OBVIOUSLY important. We tend to take this fact for granted. We don’t always treat sex the same as we do