Just Another Sticky Mess

By J. William Laundre

Even today, with all the sex techniques manuals out there, there are still many women who find sexual encounters with men to be far from satisfying. This book contends that the reason for this is that we men usually engage in sex with women to only meet our sexual needs, goals...orgasm. This reduces women to no more than a warm place for men to masturbate and leaves women unsatisfied with only a sticky mess between their legs to show for their efforts. Women want and deserve more and if we men want to be sensitive lovers, we need to have the right philosophy of why we engage in sex with women. To be a good lover is not just technique but attitude. That attitude is simply that sex is, should be, a two person journey where each partner in the journey is committed to not only to reaching a goal but enjoying all the journey. In the chapters in this book, I discuss the practical and the philosophical aspects of how we men can be the sensitive lovers that women want and deserve.

• Language: English
• Publisher: BookBaby
• Release date: Jan 31, 2015
• ISBN: 9781495138904

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Epilogue

INTRODUCTION

Ladies, have you awoken up in the morning, looked over at the man you slept with, be it your husband of how many years or someone you just met last night, and asked yourself, Shouldn’t it be better than this? All that effort and all I am left with is just this sticky mess between my legs. Well, yes it is better than that, it should be better than that, and it can be better than that. But will reading this book help?

I know what many of you will say: Not another book on sexual techniques! I know there are a lot of them out there and admittedly, I have read NONE of them! In response, first of all, this isn’t a book on sexual techniques but rather it really is on how to give a woman pleasure and help her gain sexual satisfaction, which as sensitive guys, we should know goes beyond just technique. Not having read any of the other books, I don’t know if this one will be like all the rest or actually provide a different perspective on reaching sexual satisfaction. I hope so, but it will be up to you, the readers to decide. If you decide it is nothing new, of little use, so be it. However, if I can’t convince other women to read it, I will at least have put it together for my daughter. It is the kind of knowledge and advice I as a father, want my daughter to have. And I hope that for her at least, it will help her attain a wonderfully satisfying sex life that all women deserve.

Given all the books out there, one must ask…Why this book? Well even though there are all those other books on the market, all the talk, all the everything, either the guys are not reading or listening or these books, and everything else, are not providing the appropriate perspective. The reason I say this is that in my many contacts with women, on all levels, the common consensus is that men, in general, still are not satisfying their sexual partners. You would think that with all the information available, there would not be any dissatisfied, sexually frustrated women! Unfortunately, this is not the case and there still seems to be a lot of unhappy, sexually unfulfilled women out there, and it shouldn’t be so!!

Why the title? Well the title of this book come from the only piece of sexual advice my father ever gave me and I don’t think he even realized it at the time! Needless to say during the era I was growing up, parents did not talk much about sex with their children. This was the case in my home and what I know about parts and techniques I picked up the way most young boys did. But my philosophy about sex, what are my inner beliefs of what it should all be about, came from a rainy afternoon conversation with my father. As these conversations go, I don’t remember how it got started but for whatever reason we were talking about a friend of his that was going through a divorce. This in itself for the times was a traumatic experience for all involved. However, my father mentioned that one of the things to come out of the process was the wife’s assertion that after all the years of marriage and I forget how many kids, she had never experienced an orgasm with my father’s friend. Now I am not sure how truthful this declaration was since we know both partners in a divorce will say some pretty hurtful things. Be it the case or not, it distressed my father. I can still clearly see him sitting there, sadly shaking his head as he told me that if a women does not experience an orgasm during sex, it is just a sticky mess for her!

From this rainy afternoon and these few words, I formulated my lifelong philosophy regarding sex: the prime goal of a man in having sex with a women is to insure she enjoyed it, experienced the joy of an orgasm so that it was indeed not just a sticky mess for her. It is this philosophy that has guided me in my relations with women. Based on their comments, I have been able to give them pleasure and help them satisfy their sexual desires. In fact some have suggested I write this book! So, on their advice, I am writing my own personal philosophy about satisfying a woman and it is to them I dedicate this book. If this book does help to bring pleasure and satisfaction to other women, it is to these women they owe their gratitude. This book is for both men and women. For men it is about what they should do…give pleasure to the woman they are with. For women, it is about what they should expect…demand from sex…more than just a sticky mess.

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Chapter 1: Parts and things.

Usually, so I have heard, many books on sexual techniques begin with a detailed chapter on body parts. The idea, obviously, is that if your to play the game, you need to know the parts. It is a good idea, an essential one, and in fact, throughout this book I will be referring to body parts. However, it is not my goal here to teach basic body parts, so I will NOT have a chapter on them!! There are a lot of books and I am sure websites, ranging from techniques to basic biology texts that have explicit diagrams and information on all the sexual plumbing. Given all the readily accessible information, it still amazes me that not only do many people don’t know the basic plumbing of the opposite sex but often of their own bodies!! So to the potential readers (women and men) of this book that don’t know their parts, I implore you, put this book down, don’t read further, don’t even think about it until you have learned your parts and that of the opposite sex. Because it IS important to know your penis from a pickle or a labia from a libido! So, if you men want to satisfy the woman or women in your lives, know your parts (yours and hers!!). However, once you know them, return to this book.

Welcome back! Now knowing the parts, many feel that knowing how to manipulate them automatically leads to better sex… it does not!! It helps and can add to the pleasure of it all if you know what you are doing. This is what I am assuming most of the sexual techniques books are based