The Adventures of Saram: Insight into the Male Psyche

By Robert Elias Najemy

The Adventures Of Saram
An Immortal Soul
& Insight into the Male Psyche

A story of Persona Reconciliation

Saram is confused – plagued with inner conflicts.

He wants to do what is «right» but cannot always do so.

Each of his subpersonalities seem to have its own mind and will.

As he matures, his various personas tend to group.

In one group we have the disciplined ‘positive and correct’ ones.

In the other group we have the undisciplined and revolutionary ones.

Within him he experiences what is common to all humans and as thus described in our story:

“They want to do something, but they also do not want to do the same thing.

“They make a promise and then they do not keep it.

“They love something and hate it also.

“They need something and fear it at the same time.

“They are so confused and discrepant, and yet they have not realized that their personalities have split and that they are many ‘beings’ living in the same body.”

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Through this story, you will discover how your own inner personas develop and interact, as well as how they come into conflict and how you can reconcile them.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Robert Elias Najemy
• Release date: Sep 3, 2013
• ISBN: 9781301305254

Robert Elias Najemy

Robert Elias Najemy is the author of over 30 books, 600 articles and 600 lecture CDs and DVDs on Human Harmony. Download FREE 100's of articles, find wonderful ebooks, guidance, mp3 audio lectures and teleclasses at http://www.HolisticHarmony.com. His books Dealing with Testing Times, The Psychology of Happiness, Free to be Happy with Energy Psychology and six others are available at Amazon and http://www.armonikizoi.com He is also a life coach with 40 years of experience, has trained over 300 Life coaches and now does so over the Internet. Info at: http://www.armonikizoi.com

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The Adventures οf Saram

Insight into the Male Psyche

Robert Elias Najemy

DEDICATION

This book is dedicated to all the personas in all of us.

May you be united so that we may all become whole.

Copyright 1996 Robert Elias Najemy

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

Introduction

Chapter 1. Saram’s Previous Incarnations

Chapter 2. Ran’s Beginnings

Chapter 3. Maturing

Chapter 4. The Great Disillusionment

Chapter 5. The Search For Meaning

Chapter 6. Discovering Creactivity

Chapter 7. Ran’s Relationships

Chapter 8. Ran’s Further Education

Chapter 9. Back In Moor

Chapter 10. A Short Stay In Aland

Chapter 11. Living In War

Chapter 12. Creating A Center

Chapter 13. Premababa

Chapter 14. Persecution From The Church

Chapter 15. The Revolution

Chapter 16. The Crisis

Chapter 17. Healing

Chapter 18. A Second Chance

Chapter 19. Ran Calls A Conference Of All Personas

Chapter 20. The Conference Continues

Chapter 21. After The Break

Chapter 22. The Universal Child

Chapter 23. At Peace With His Selves

Chapter 24. Methods Of Reconciliation

Chapter 25. Roles And Personas

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Introduction

I hope that this book will, in an entertaining way, give each reader insight into the functioning of his own mind, and will help him in the process of inner reconciliation allowing him or her to become one.

Each of us has parts of our personalities which we need to meet, understand, accept and reconcile.

In response to early childhood experiences, we develop various inner emotional responses in an effort to maintain a feeling of security, self worth, personal freedom and self-expression. These responses grow in their own separate ways, manifesting as parts of our personality that have their own personal beliefs, logic and identity. We can call these roles personas or subpersonalities.

Each persona has its own core belief which creates and sustains its existence in our larger identity. This core belief will have something to do with the need for security, pleasure, affirmation or freedom, or in a few special cases, other less common needs such as the need to be useful, or for salvation or enlightenment. In some cases, the basic needs may be distorted and in conflict with survival or growth, such as the need to harm ourselves or others.

We are often not aware of the dynamics of these subpersonalities which develop gradually within us as we seek to cope with a world full of insecurities and simultaneously our own differing needs. (not the best phrasing – as we seek to cope with our own differing needs in a world full of insecurities??)

The wide variety of our needs, from the basic needs to survive and have safety, to the needs for love, growth and expression, cause different parts of ourselves to sometimes come into conflict concerning what to do in certain situations, how to spend our time or how to live our lives.

The subject of how these personalities develop and sometimes conflict is covered in chapters 24 and 25.

I believe, however, that it will be useful here to reprint the same list of possible conflicts that you will find again in chapter 24, so that you can have in mind the types of conflicts we are talking about, because surely you will have at least one, if not many of them.

Some Sample Conflicts

Let us look at some examples of the inner conflicts which may disturb our peace.

1. One part of ourselves may feel the need to spend more time in our professional life, while another part may believe that we should be spending more time with our family.

2. On the one hand, a part of our selves may want to open up to a conscious love relationship, while another part fears being abandoned or hurt, suppressed, manipulated, or not being able to say no.

3. One part of ourselves may want to give those around us (children, spouse, friends) total freedom to pursue their happiness in their own ways, and another part may fear losing control.

4. The part of ourselves which wants to please others, which may come into direct conflict with our own needs.

5. We may on the one hand, want others to support us, but on the other, feel that they restrict us with their support or advice.

6. One part of our selves may want spiritual growth, while another may feel the need for material security.

7. We may on the one hand want to help a loved one or friend, but on the other, feel that perhaps we are doing them harm by bailing them out continuously and not letting them solve their own problems.

8. One part of our selves may feel a need to protect the planet through a simple life with very little consumption of energy and products, while another part may want to enjoy all the comforts of an energy consuming, pollution-producing life style.

9. We may on the one hand want to take or leave a job that we have, while another part of our selves wants the opposite for different reasons.

10. One part of ourselves may believe in cooperating with others, while another finds it difficult or unnecessary.

11. We may have a desire for various objects or situations as a source of pleasure. Another part of ourselves may feel, however, that this is a sin, or that we are not spiritual if we partake in such pleasures. Or it may feel that this type of pleasure seeking is a waste of time and energy considering our spiritual goals. Thus these two aspects of our own being conflict.

12. One part of our selves may feel the need to have an exclusive relationship, in which our happiness and security depend on another person (usually a mate). Another part of our selves may find this an obstacle towards our need for independence, self-dependence, and freedom.

13. Similarly there may be a conflict between the need for personal love and the need to develop universal love.

14. The need to forgive may conflict with the need to hold on to negative feelings towards someone.

15. The need to employ various disciplines may conflict with the need to feel free to do what we want when we want to.

16. The need to follow our inner voice in some cases conflicts with the need to be like the others and be accepted by them.

17. The need to express our feelings as they are can conflict with our need not to hurt anyone.

18. The need to express our real feelings and thoughts might clash with our need to have the acceptance of those around us.

19. The need to follow a spiritual guide might conflict with the need to rebel against all types of advice or control.

20. The need to control persons and situations in order to feel secure and the need to let things flow and allow others to act freely.

21. Our need to never show weakness can come into conflict with our need to share our weaknesses with others.

22. One part may need not to askfor anything from others while another may need to have their help and support.

23. A part of us might need a stable routine for our balance and growth while another might need variety and change.

24. A part of us needs to play our familiar emotional relationship games while another part wants to get free from them.

25. One part of us wants to face and overcome our fears and blockages while another prefers to avoid them and hide from them.

There are certainly conflicts which we haven’t mentioned, but most will fall into these categories.

At the end of the book you will find two chapters concerning how we can discover, analyze and reconcile our personas or subpersonalities. Some readers may want to first read those chapters and then the story. In this way they would have a deeper psychological understanding of how the hero’s subconscious is developing.

Other readers may prefer to read those chapters after reading the story.

May you be well.

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Prelude

The Most Painful Moment In His Life

The Circle Of Judgment

Ran’s heart was pounding. He was in pain. He had never felt worse in his life. He sat humbled and ashamed before the thirty people he loved most. He knew these faces so well. He had counseled them innumerable times. Until now, they had respected and loved him. Until now, they had been so grateful for all that he offered them.

He had, in a few short hours, been transformed in their minds from their beloved friend, guide and teacher to their disgraced, betraying, two-faced enemy. Their faces now displayed none of that love or gratitude. They showed a wide variety of emotions ranging from pain and confusion to hate, but also including betrayal, spite, hurt and perhaps relief that he was not perfect.

No, he was not perfect. He never said he was. They wanted him to be. He tried to be so for them and for himself. He believed that being perfect was a prerequisite to being loved and accepted.

He wished he could turn the clock back just one day and change what had happened. He had done what he had taught that one should ever do. He had created a double relationship. He loved two women simultaneously. Although married, he was seeing another woman. He had not yet consummated the act of love with her, but their erotic play amounted to the same.

Now he sat before his wife and closest friends – many of whom who considered him their teacher – as they waited for some explanation as to how he had done this, how he had failed to live up to his own values and teachings.

He began to read to them his apology written an hour earlier. He was afraid perhaps that, in the waves of emotion, he would forget something he wanted to say. One-line phrases rushed through his mind, incongruent and often not clearly connected.

The Confession

My head is spinning.

So many feelings flood my mind simultaneously.

I feel hurt and misunderstood.

I feel sad and guilty towards all those whom I have caused to become disillusioned with the spiritual path.

I feel weak and helpless against the forces of my subconscious mind.

I feel horrible for the pain I have created for my wife Issabella, and for so many others.

Yet, I feel love for all who come to my mind. I feel love as my broken heart opens.

At last, I am humbled. Finally, (today) comes my release from the role of the teacher, and my need to be perfect, not for myself but for others.

It was as if a part of me had gone crazy, and proceeded towards total destruction of all that I had created.

It is as if I had decided to destroy it all, as if God has planned this moment...

(or one quotation in the beginning and one at the end)

How did this happen?

It was now time for him to leave everything that he loved so much. Everything he had spent 18 years creating.

How did Ran end up this way after so many years of effort? How could he make such a catastrophic mistake? What were these contradictory and conflicting forces working within him? How had he become so spilt within himself – two persons living in one body?

The answer lies in the fact that Ran is not one person, but rather a composite of many personas living in the same body. Each persona or sub-personality has developed throughout the thousands of years as his character evolved from one life to another.

In the process of evolution, we develop various roles or personas which gradually begin to separate themselves from our control and develop along their own lines. These personas separated themselves from Ran’s central identity, functioning through separate, and often conflicting roles such as the child, the parent, the teacher, the victim, the unworthy one, etc. We might liken this to believing ourselves to be separate from God and developing various characteristics which are foreign to, and temporarily independent of, their central Divine Self. Disconnected from our central nature, wecreate inner conflicts. These types of conflicts were occurring within Ran, as his subpersonalities had different needs, values and beliefs and were struggling for control or his time, energy and lifestyle.

Each persona, at some point in our character’s evolution, seeks to separate itself from the central soul Self, becoming egocentric in an attempt to satisfy its own needs, regardless of the needs of the other personas or the spirit-centric Self.

A prerequisite to wholeness is to discover these personas and unite them, enabling them to live in harmony rather than in conflict with each other and with the soul. This is the purpose of spiritual life.

Externally, mankind's further evolution would manifest as the process of unifying all men and women as they became united under their one collective spiritual Self, God. This unification process eventually would encompass all beings, including animals, plants and insects as well as the elements of nature.

Our life purpose is to move towards unification. First, however, we pass through the awareness of separateness, of our separate identity(-ies), before we evolve to the conscious choice of unity through acceptance and love. This unification process is obviously necessary on an external level, and must now be equally applied to our internal conflicts between personas.

Ran’s Evolution

Let us follow then the evolution of Saram’s (Ran’s soul’s name) personas throughout his lifetimes on planet Earth culminating in his incarnation as Ran on the planet Alithea, a dimension of the universe in which the personas and their inner dialogues become even more distinct.

Let us begin.

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Chapter One

SARAM’S PREVIOUS INCARNATIONS

After many incarnations in the planet Earth, the immortal being Saram incarnates on the planet Alithea in order to resolve his inner conflicts.

We follow his evolutionary process through his various incarnations and childhood experiences witnessing each persona as it develops and manifests as part of his personality complex.

Saram said Actually it is the same on the earth, but they have simply not understood this very fine point. They think that they are one person. But this person they think they are has no consistency. It is so incongruent.

They want to do something, but they also do not want to do the same thing.

They make a promise and then they do not keep it.

They love something and hate it also.

They need something and fear it at the same time.

They are so confused and discrepant, and yet they have not realized that their personalities have split and that they are many beings living in the same body.

No persona ever dies completely until it is destroyed in the great fire of truth by the intense energy created by the awakening of the central being. Then the central being, free from identification with the personas, acts spontaneously through each persona without, however, being controlled by them.

Through this book, discover how your inner personas develop and interact. Discover the dynamics of interpersonic relationships and how they might be resolved.

Iasos The Farmer

Saram watched as his parents-to-be made love. As they reached orgasm, he singled out, from his father’s immeasurable selection, the particular sperm cell which offered the specific chromosomes needed to produce the body he had designed for this incarnation.

This time the body would be a rugged male body, designed for farming. A strong, durable body free from weakness or illness. This body would work the hard unyielding soil on the Greek Island of Santorini.

Saram watched as the sperm cell penetrated the recently released ovum. After verifying that the operation was successful, he disengaged his awareness from the Earth plane.

During those nine months, he occasionally «peeped in» to see how the embryo was doing. He witnessed millions of years of evolution of nature take place before his eyes, as this cell multiplied, developed into a fish, reptile and eventually into mammal and a human being.

He thought, «How much we have evolved from those days of one celled beings and lower life forms. Now what took billions of years takes only nine months.»

He was not at all anxious to be once again limited in a physical body, but he knew he had no choice. Evolution had to go on. He also knew that the moment he got into that body, he would forget his previous reality and live in total ignorance of his greater being. This forgetting was most painful.

Once he forgot, everything would become meaningless, fearsome, dangerous and unjust. However, there was nothing he could do. The laws of nature and evolution were greater than he.

Iasos was his personality’s name. He matured into a no-nonsense man. He had no need for a wife, nor for children. He lived with the earth. He learned self-dependency. He developed a one sided, antisocial character. Had few words for anyone. Work was his life. He worked from daybreak to sunset, ate and then slept. This was his life.

He criticized those who sat and philosophized, who built imaginary realities, or who lived in theories and words. These seemed a waste of time to him. He was a practical man; an efficient man. A man who created results from hard work. He rejected those who did not work as hard as he. It was in this incarnation that the Efficient Worker persona was born in him.

He did, however, occasionally communicate with his brother (his parents died when he was twelve). One day his brother managed to persuade him to take a walk up to the crater. They sat there in silence, watching smoke bellow up from under the earth, sensing the power which lay under the surface where they were perched.

They were in awe. It was the only moment in his life in which he realized that there was something else except work.

He had never thought about where he came from or what might be the purpose of his existence. Now these thoughts began to slowly simmer in his mind. They were not so much clear-cut thoughts about what life is, or who am I. It was more like a cloud of confusion which developed as his belief system began to evaporate, without his knowing why and without it being replaced by any concrete thoughts. He experienced wonder for the first time. He wondered at what he saw and felt.

However, there was no time for further development. The mountain began to shake slowly at first and then with rapidly increasing, undulating waves. He and his brother were thrown into the volcano. His last thought as he was falling was, I should never have stopped working.

Saram left his body while still falling. He watched his body fall into the volcano and disappear. At first he tried to race after it and save it. But in his new subtle body he had no control over matter. He hovered over the crater which was overflowing with volcanic ash. He watched on as hundreds died in the ensuing flow. He had no emotions.

It was a slow process for him to remember his true identity. He was dazed and confused. His thought forms still had a powerful hold over him. His mind was the same even though he no longer had a physical body.

Since, however, he had no body to work with, he was in a state of limbo. He did not know what to do. A Being of Light appeared beside him. Saram hardly noticed his presence, as he had hardly noticed anyone's presence throughout his life.

The Being of Light spoke gently and assuredly, Saram you are dead now, your body has died. It is time for you to move on. Come, let me guide you

My name is Iasos, he answered, why do you call me Saram? Who are you?

The Being had now become light without form, I am your guardian angel. I am assigned to help you, to protect you and to guide you.

Saram began to awaken to the truth. As he did so, his mind was flooded with images of his life just lived. He saw himself objectively, saw his mistakes, his strengths; he realized that he still had much to learn. (or without ; and a , realizing he still had much to learn)

He then became aware of his previous existences and all that he had done and learned in them. He followed the light now as Saram, of which Iasos was now only a small part.

Karan The Essene Cook

In his next incarnation, Saram was Karan, once again male – a cook in an Essene community. There he learned to combine food essences for taste, health and spiritual awakening. He enjoyed working in the kitchen. He preferred this to working hard in the fields, or even to being in a position of responsibility over others.

While cutting vegetables or sweeping the floor, he would experience the joy of creating, of offering, of serving his brothers, or serving the God in his brothers. He often chanted while working, or silently spoke with God, offering up his work, his life, and his self. Life was simple. As in his previous incarnation as Iasos, he was not a philosophical type. Nor was he very sociable. He liked to work. He enjoyed serving others. He communicated with others through the food he offered them. His food was his expression of love. In this incarnation the Cooperating Server persona and the Holy Pure Monk persona were developing as Karan found meaning and joy in serving and seeking God through prayer and a simple life.

No one paid much attention to him and he preferred it this way. He liked being the invisible servant. He enjoyed the unity which he felt when cooperating with the other brothers. He held the ants and bees as examples to be followed. This was the extent of his philosophical wanderings. As he often shared with others, if we could only be as cooperative and as selfless as the bees and ants, who work incessantly for the good of whole, we could create paradise on earth.

He died a peaceful death, with a few brothers at his bedside. They chanted as he departed. He slipped out of his body unnoticed. They continued chanting for another hour. He remained in his spiritual body and listened to them for some time and then ascended on their melodies into the spiritual realms.

His simplicity and peaceful state of mind allowed him to recognize the Being of Light immediately. He readily examined his life and continued with his evolution.

Shala The Erotic Dancer

Saram’s next incarnation was as Shala who was a full-grown woman at the time of Christ’s march into Jerusalem. Shala was a dancer, a woman of questionable repute. She loved lifting others’ spirits through her often erotically expressive dancing. She danced without thinking. She never bothered with technique, but depended on her inner instinct and inspiration. She would become lost in the ecstasy of movement, becoming one with the music. She had developed into an organ for the transmutation of music into form.

Her endless variety of flowing motions and gestures made the music visible to the audience. This form permeated their minds, loosening them, relaxing them, helping them release their tensions and experience joy, even if only for a short period of time. This was her offering; her way of helping. In this incarnation, the Erotic Dancer persona became a member of Saram’s persona complex.

Many, especially other women, condemned her as unethical, and it was true that she would make love to men when she felt close to them. She didn’t seem to be obstructed when, in some cases, the men were married. If she perceived them as unhappy, and felt a connection with them, she would make love to them. She never took money for this. She saw it as her service to those who were unhappy or lonely.

When Christ arrived in Jerusalem, she decided to go and see this miracle man they were all talking about. She fell in love with Him immediately, not with His body, but with His gentleness, His freedom, His love for all, His ability to help others, and most of all for His teachings.

A simple person who could never understand the complicated teachings of the priests of the time and who rejected their pompousness and hypocrisy, she was swept away by Jesus’ simple teachings. She loved Him for teaching love. She loved Him for putting this above all other laws.

She loved Him for not condemning anyone (except for hypocrites). She loved Him for his selflessness. She loved Him for His fearlessness and His strength in facing powers apparently so much greater than He. She loved Him most for his ability to forgive in every case – even those who persecuted Him.

She cried deeply at His crucifixion. When her tears paused for a moment, she avowed to serve Him. To serve Him by loving and serving others, by forgiving others, by gradually becoming like Him. She vowed that she would never condemn others as she had been condemned and as He had been condemned. She would always return hate with love. She would be strong and serve others selflessly.

She was eventually able to manifest this promise, to a modest degree, during the last few years of her life. She approached His disciples, confessed and asked for forgiveness. She gave up her previous way of life and lived in one of the first Christian communities.

Those living in these communities came together and, under the apostles’ guidance, sold their fortunes and possessions and lived a humble communal life together, trying to put into practice Jesus’ commandments to them to love, share and serve each other as He loved them.

Shala spent the rest of her years cooking for the community, a skill which she had abhorred until now, but which strangely came very easily to her. She felt the need to dance occasionally but would do so by herself, imagining that she was dancing for Him. At the moment of death, this was the image she held as she left her body – dancing with Him.

As Saram disengaged from Shala’s personality, he realized his larger self again, and passed through his examinations, realizing the weaknesses and strengths manifested in that incarnation. He had some guilt about her sexual promiscuity, but was left with no choice but to accept it as a learning experience.

Babu The Prankster Indian Monk

Saram was now called Babu – an elderly ascetic wandering the