Let's Stay Together: The Untold Chronicles

By Dr. Marco Walder

Marco Walder is back with the sequel to Let’s Stay Together – Dating Made Simple for the New Millennium. In LST: The Untold Chronicles, you will get all the emotion you experienced in the initial book, but so much more. This time around, Marco wanted to really connect with the reader, so he speaks with you in a way that only he can, directly from his personal experiences and those of others.

LST: The Untold Chronicles is a compilation of articles that will stimulate you physically and mentally. In this self-help book, you are not only introduced to valuable information, but it has religious instruction as well. Marco allows his spiritual source to speak with you through him.
Marco gives you the techniques and strategies that he knows will motivate and inspire you to seek and await your lifelong mate and to grow within a relationship that you are currently in.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Dr. Marco Walder
• Release date: Jan 1, 2014
• ISBN: 9781310176982

Dr. Marco Walder

Dr. Marco Walder is an educator, author, mentor, and inspirational speaker. A native of Dallas, Texas, Dr. Walder earned a Bachelors of Science degree in Interdisciplinary Studies and a Masters of Education in Secondary Education from Alcorn State University. He also earned his Doctorate of Education in Sport and Athletic Management from Northcentral University. Dr. Walder is an advocate for improving the academic performance and higher education graduation rates of student-athletes. During his undergraduate matriculation, he was a four year letter winning football player.​Dr. Walder is a member of Phi Beta Sigma Fraternity, Incorporated and is an active member in his local community. Dr. Walder is a strong Christian and roots his message in a biblical foundation. He attends Concord Church under the leadership of Pastor Bryan Carter. When he is not delivering motivational messages and speeches, he volunteers his efforts and energy to the Heads Up Foundation of Dallas which serves the youth leagues of Texas. Dr. Walder expresses real life and real hope for today’s society.In addition to his latest children’s math book, “The Math Tales of Mathias”, Dr. Walder has authored several titles and numerous articles. A noted speaker, Dr. Walder has presented for Dallas Independent School District, the El Centro Community College TRIO program, the Brookhaven Community College Black History Month Expo, and at local schools including Maynard Jackson Middle School and Oliver Wendell Holmes. He has also ventured outside the state to various cities such as Lake Charles, LA and Gulfport, MS to share his positive and uplifting messages.

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Let’s Stay Together

The Untold Chronicles

Dr. Marco R. Walder

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Table of Contents

Acknowledgments

Introduction

Chapter 1: Emotional Intelligence

Chapter 2: You Cannot Change My Mind

Chapter 3: The Worth of Your Treasure

Chapter 4: The Stroke of Midnight

Chapter 5: The Question vs. The Answer

Chapter 6: The Power of Pain

Chapter 7: The New vs. The Used

Chapter 8: The 6 Stage Journey to Love

Chapter 9: The Short Term Pleasure

Chapter 10: The Lady within His Yard

Chapter 11: The Bankers Relationship

Chapter 12: The Distant Love

Chapter 13: The Band-Aid Brand

Chapter 14: The Animal Theory

Chapter 15: Love in a Mason Jar

Chapter 16: Looking for Truth with a False Eye

Chapter 17: It Must Add Up

Chapter 18: Is Chivalry Dead?

Chapter 19: How to Avoid Being Just a Need

Chapter 20: Have You Accurately Set Your LOVE GPS?

Chapter 21: The Real Meaning of Courtship

Chapter 22: Clichés That May Be Tanking You

Chapter 23: The Square vs. The Circle

Chapter 24: Speaking to Her Open Ears

Chapter 25: Bridging The Gap

Chapter 26: Reclaiming Our Queens

About the Author

Acknowledgments

I would like to first thank my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ for giving me the vision, motivation, and inspiration to create this writing.

Without the support of my family and friends none of this could have been possible.

I would also like to thank Lamia Ashley for her editing assistance and guidance. Thank you to all of those who have supported me and my movement as I aim to bring peace and love to the forefront of today’s society by leading, sharing, and teaching love one heart at a time.

The first step to making someone else happy; Is to first master how to make yourself even happier.

- Marco Walder

Introduction

As I sat and reflected on everything that I did not include in my first book, Let’s Stay Together – Dating Made Simple I became excited. I felt I needed to bring my readers into the life and times of my dating and relationship experiences.

The Untold Chronicles are unique because I have never been more transparent in my life, as many of these situations I personally encountered.

Many of these situations that you will read about have stirred and moved me to continue my search for a lifetime love. Other stories that I have comprised and included stem from the encounters of others. Each individual chapter is designed to provide you with confirmation and a heartfelt meaning that will allow you to flourish. I do not proclaim to be a relationship expert or guru.

However, the words on these pages will mentally stimulate your inner thoughts and provide you with a better external experience with

the hopes to uplift you as we continue to orchestrate the message of having a lifetime of love.

Chapter 1

Emotional Intelligence

The True Essence of Conversation

Have you ever said something to someone and later wished you could take it back? Are you one who often finds yourself referring to common phrases used by society, such as: it is what it is or we can just agree to disagree? Maybe you have been in a discussion and just shut down because you felt the other person just was not trying to understand your perspective of a situation. If so, you are at the right place, so get comfy because after you read this article you will never look at daily conversations the same way again.

Do you remember a parent, mentor or teacher saying, and think before you speak? Or how about, sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me? Definitely, let us not forget - actions speak louder than words. We have lived to learn that words can do just as much harm to a person as actions can. All of those phrases deal with ones EI better known as, Emotional Intelligence.

THE HISTORY

The term was coined by Salovey and Mayer (1990) as they updated Thorndike’s term, social intelligence by coining the term emotional intelligence as a label for skills that include awareness of self and others and the ability to handle emotions and relationships.

Interpersonal skills and emotional intelligence are vital because personal relationships are the central element of daily life. Many efforts to change fail; not because a person’s intention during the conversation is incorrect or insincere, but because the other person may be unable to handle the delivery, the social and personal challenges this change may bring or simply just cannot handle the truth.

Nevertheless, during conversation, both parties must be aware of their own EI. There are four dimensions of emotional intelligence. Two are internal (self-awareness and self-management) and two external (social awareness and relationship management). Self- awareness includes awareness of one’s feelings and one’s impact on others. Self-management includes a number of positive, psychological characteristics. Among them: emotional self-control, authenticity, adaptability, drive for achievement, initiative and optimism. Social Awareness includes empathy, (attunement to the thoughts and feelings of others), organizational awareness (sensitivity to the importance of relationships and networks) and commitment to service.

The fourth characteristic: relationship management, includes inspiration, influence, developing others, catalyzing change, managing conflict and teamwork. In part one of this two-part series, we will focus on the two internal dimensions of EI – Self Awareness and Relationship Management.

Self-Awareness - could be the difference between saving a marriage and destroying a marriage.

It could be the difference between enhancing a relationship