In today's episode, we're talking all about why avoidant partners tend to struggle with defensiveness. While defensiveness is far from being the exclusive domain of avoidant attachment, many people will attest to the fact that avoidant folks are often quick to become defensive in response to relational tension or ruptures - and that this can form a key piece in the negative cycle of many anxious-avoidant relationships.We'll cover:why defensiveness is a natural response to feeling attackedhow avoidant partners can perceive relational needs and concerns as personal failingsavoidant attachment and emotional expressivenesshow you can start to relate to a partner's defensiveness with greater compassion rather than judgment and blame✨ Click here to join the 28-day Secure Self Challenge ✨Further Links & Resources Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Join the 28-day Secure Self Challenge ✨ Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE) Save $150 on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg & @onattachment Visit my website