In this episode, I'm talking all about perfectionism - but probably not in the way you've heard it spoken about before. Perfectionism is often thought of as a personality quirk - a commitment to high achieving and having things a certain way. But when it comes to relationships, perfectionism can be a powerful protective strategy that keeps us from being seen and known as our authentic selves.  We cover:how anxiously attached people hold themselves to standards of perfection as a way to gain and keep someone's interesthow avoidantly attached people use perfectionism & criticism as a distancing strategy to avoid intimacy & vulnerabilitywhat happens when these strategies collide in an anxious-avoidant dynamicFurther Links & Resources Join the waitlist for the next round of Healing Anxious Attachment Download the free guide: Attachment 101 Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg & @onattachment Visit my website