Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman is a human psychologist who explores the depths of human potential. He’s a speaker and his TED Talks are extremely popular on YouTube. He’s the author of numerous books including Wired to Create and newest book: "Transcend: The New Science of Self Actualization." - A bold reimagining of Maslow's famous hierarchy of needs. It was just released April 7th. Go grab it to learn how to become the person you were meant to be! _____ Learn more about Dr. Kaufman: Website: www.scottbarrykaufman.com Go grab Transcend on Amazon! The Psychology Podcast: On iTunes and Apple Podcasts Listen to Dr. Kaufman: YouTube Twitter: @sbkaufman _____ In this episode: 5:33 - 6:06: How Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs is not actually a pyramid, life isn’t like a video game 6:10 - 7:06: ”The Oh Hell No mode” Tension between Growth and Safety + defenses against deprivation  11:51 - 13:09 : The Hierarchy of Needs - Sailboat metaphor, Being Love, Moments of transcendence  13:52 - 15:06: Self-actualizing by using piercing self awareness, self-honesty 25:57 - 26:34: Integrate, become greater than the sum of our parts  30:26 - 32:04 : “Explore your dark side” exercise Dr. Kaufman’s 3 things to get closer to his best self: 1. Get out into nature more 2. Listen more especially to people who disagree with you 3. Practicing love and kindness _____ If you enjoyed this episode, you'll love THIS EPISODE with renowned psychiatrist Dr. Mark Goulston - on How to Listen and Get Through to Absolutely Anyone!