Do we ever have the right words after a break-up?  A break-up feels so personal, because it is. Depending on the level of pain and hurt the you feel, you may dissociate a bit from it in order to get through it. A break-up shuffles your thoughts. I tend to retreat from others in order to process my sadness, and grief. I also would ask myself what I could have done differently. If you ask yourself that questions too, don't come from a place of guilt and shame. Because then you're already bias to making yourself wrong. As if it is your fault. That is crazy-making and inefficient. I don't recommend it. Use a different viewpoint. Could I have done something differently?  Healing is a process. Recovery is a process. I used to put myself under a lot of pressure when it came to healing an emotional wound. I would say things like: I should be feeling better by now. Something's wrong with me. What's wrong with me? Like there was something wrong with my healing timeline. Know that it takes as long as it takes. Gift yourself that time. What else is there more important to do? :-)  Because the resolution of this process will lead you to your next one.