Sometimes the lessons we have to learn come through experiences that we rather not have to live. And yet, the lessons has to be learnt. And until that happens we repeat that experience. I learnt how to set boundaries with my great grand aunt. So she was my teacher for learning boundaries. I am keeping my end of the bargain for the teaching by actually keeping those boundaries. It is what is healthy for me once I've learnt the lesson. It gets persona. But vulnerability is an attractive quality that most of us have to learn, allow to surface and give it ha voice.