Have you gone long periods of time without hooking up with someone and thought to yourself “What am I doing wrong?” Have you ever compared yourself to your friends who always seem to pop from one relationship to the next and you think "why aren’t I?" Have you ever wondered if you were EVER going to find “the perfect match” or maybe it seems like it’s never going to happen? Listen here folks, if there’s anyone that gets it… it’s ya boy BOBBBAAAAY!   I’m here to reassure you beautiful people that you’re smart, you’re unique and it’s NOT YOU… it’s the world buying you more time for yoooself!   Today I want to talk about what I learned from going 1000+ days without hooking up with any woman.   Topics : 1000+ days of celibacy created the space for me to double, triple & quadruple down on myself Every ounce of time, energy & emotion was reinvested into my ideas and what I thought I wanted to do with my life Some of the biggest lessons I learned :  (1) Sex Is Cool, Chasing Dreams Is Better : I sacrificed short-term pleasure for long-term purpose driven fulfillment and I wouldn’t have it any other way because it gave me the space, time & energy to double down on myself. (2) Our Happiness Is Not Found In Someone Else : Having that significant other should only enhance our happiness… it shouldn’t be our lifeline or the only way to put a smile on our face. Taking the time to find what makes US happy will allow us to then share it with a special someone when the time is right. (3) We’re The Creator Of Our Story : We control whether we see a moment or situation in our life as something negative or positive. Instead of thinking I was unattractive or not intelligent because I wasn’t attracting women to me, I flipped the script and realized I was just busy doubling down on myself.   Challenge for the listeners Did any lesson resonate or sting the most? Pick one, grab a piece of paper / open your notes app and get reeeeeal What changes can or should you make to better yourself & where you’re headed?   Questions from The BMC Sofia Kunz - Can “personal growth” be a subconscious defense mechanism to a romantic relationship? Src4.03 :  Topic = balance. How much is one willing to sacrifice? External influence helps shape one’s growth   Review of the Week Dhajaka   Book Recommendation - Relentless by Tim Grover   Got a topic / question you want me to cover? Hit me UP on IG @Bobbbaaaay Sign up for my new Weekly Bearded Wisdom Newsletter! You wanna help blow this podcast up? GREAT! Here’s how: Leave a 5 star review on the podcast app with your hot take of the show Share out the episode on your IG story tagging me @Bobbbaaaay —- Follow The Bearded Man! Instagram : @Bobbbaaaay YouTube : @BobbyHobert Twitter : @Bobbbaaaay Website : ItsTheBeardedMan.com