The Investment Model of Relationships

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The Investment Model of Relationships

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Sep 6, 2021

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While it may not happen consciously, everyone does a cost-benefit analysis of their relationship in difficult moments. What considerations lead people to stay or leave their relationships?

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Sep 6, 2021

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The Investment Model of Relationships: While it may not happen consciously, everyone does a cost-benefit analysis of their relationship in difficult moments. What considerations lead people to stay or leave their relationships? by Relationship Doctor
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The Investment Model of Relationships

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