The Myth of Love Languages

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The Myth of Love Languages

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Oct 25, 2021

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Love languages have been a pop culture sensation for nearly 30 years—but are they based in any actual science? In this episode, Dr. Rachel Vanderbilt, the Relationship Doctor, explains why love languages are not scientific, but why they may be useful anyway.

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Oct 25, 2021

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The Myth of Love Languages

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