Will My On-Again Off-Again Relationship Work Out?

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Will My On-Again Off-Again Relationship Work Out?

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Sep 20, 2021

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Ever wanted to give a relationship a second chance? In this episode, Dr. Rachel Vanderbilt, the Relationship Doctor, explains the risks of on-again/off-again relationships.

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Sep 20, 2021

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In a world filled with swipes and empty calories of connection, we need someone to help us navigate what it means to be in a present-day committed relationship. The Relationship Doctor is filled with practical tips and advice on how to kindle and keep the flame burning, whether you’re single, coupled, married, or somewhere in between.

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Will My On-Again Off-Again Relationship Work Out?

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