Relationship Research is WEIRD—Here's Why

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Relationship Research is WEIRD—Here's Why

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Oct 11, 2021

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Why is it that some relationship research doesn't resonate with you and your experiences? In this episode, Dr. Rachel Vanderbilt, the Relationship Doctor, explains why some relationship data is just plain WEIRD.

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Oct 11, 2021

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