Never Use Secret Tests in Your Relationship

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Never Use Secret Tests in Your Relationship

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Aug 30, 2021

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Ever used a secret test, like waiting for a partner to text you first, to assess the state of your relationship? Dr. Rachel Vanderbilt, the Relationship Doctor, explains why secret tests can actually be harmful to your relationship

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Aug 30, 2021

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