Podcast #474
 
HOW TO STOP DREADING THINGS AND STOP PROCRASTINATING
 





 
When you dread things, those things become harder. Dread is just an emotion, resulting from a mismanaged thought that leads to procrastination and avoidance. This podcast episode will teach you how to identify what you are avoiding, when dread shows up, and how to start making those tasks and important things in your life easier to accomplish and more enjoyable to do. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/475
 
In this episode, we're coaching on


How to look forward to what you previously dreaded - and understanding how dread is making your life so much harder What things you might be dreading / avoiding without knowing it How to stop dreading things or putting them off - even it it's goal setting for next year :)






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HOW TO WRITE CUSTOM AFFIRMATIONS



Sign up at www.trishblackwell.com/affirmationsworkshopWednesday, December 29th at 6PM ESTI'll be teaching you:



Why affirmation work, and how to use them successfully in your life to have more joy, more peace and more confidenceHow to write your own custom affirmation; including how to incorporate your faith and scripture into themThe top three mistakes people make when incorporating affirmations into their lives, nd what to do instead






 
THINGS THAT WE DREAD / PROCRASTINATE ON


Little Things:



Meetings



Doctors appointments



Chores



Grocery shopping



Making decisions



Big tests



Asking someone out 



Meaningful Things:



Setting Goals / Changing Habits



We put too much pressure on themWe want them to be perfectWe over-emphasize our past failures and fear we can't do it



Conversations that might have conflict



We avoid themWe make conflict mean that there's a problemWe play small and sabotage our real relationships



Thoughtful Ideas



Random gifts to neighborsHand-written cardsReviews for people who encourage us



Adulting Things:



IRS / TaxesOrganizing an area of our home that bothers us



Creating / improving our professional systems 



Menopause / aging 



Risk-taking



Emotional Things:



Loneliness



Change



Failure



Rejection



Uncertainty



Something bad happening



Getting hurt



Being judged



Inadequacy 


WHAT DOES DREAD TO WHEN IT DOES UNDETECTED AND UNADDRESSED? 
It creates a baseline of negativity in our cognitive atmosphere.
It makes things 10x harder than they actually are.
It makes us behind and drives us to overthinking / procrastination.
It creates mountains out of molehills.
It slows us down and incites buffering / self-sabotage
It causes us to second-guess ourselves and to pay too much attention to our emotions
HOW TO STOP DREADING THINGS - 10 THINGS YOU CAN DO


(Even if it's goal setting)



Identify as an action-takerUse the 5-Second RuleShow up for your future-self as a friend todayBelieve in a different future than what you've experienced in the pastCreate better self-care reward systemsGet accountabilityCalendar everything (don't give yourself a choice)Cultivate the emotions you want that will lead to easier and more confident actionUnderstand how long the task / thing really is - make it not a big dealBe honest about the cost - and write down your real desire


 
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