HOW TO ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANTPODCAST #393
Asking for what you want is a confidence skill that can transform every element of your life. The more you practice this 4-step process, you more proficient you will be at asking. Most people don't know how to ask for what they want because they don't know what they want and because they don't feel capable or courageous enough to ask. In this podcast episode you'll learn the framework you need to start feeling confident enough to courageously start asking for what you really want in life. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/393
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
Why we chicken out when we want to ask for what we want How to figure out what you actually want anyways4 steps to start asking for what you want
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Perfect balance of faith + self-helpby LeahRKole
For those of us with inner demons that try to sabotage our potential, Trish is the voice and guide that cuts through all the lies and recenters you in truth. Thank you, Trish, for your unique perspective in all areas of confidence, success, sports + fitness, female leadership, and living the vibrant abundant life we were all made for. I have so appreciated your vulnerability and your confidence - especially in speaking about faith and the hope of heaven. It's hard to find speakers and coaches who walk the tightrope between self-help and Christian faith and you do that so incredibly well! If you need a pick-me-up or a life-makeover, Trish is your gal!

If you want to achieve greatness, stop asking for permission!
The first step to getting what you want is to have the courage to get rid of what you don't. -Zig Ziglar
Go for it now, the future is promised to no one. -Wayne Dyer
I'm a big believer that life changes as much as you want it to. -Martin Freeman
Not getting what you want either means you don't want it enough, or you've been dealing too long with the price you have to pay. -Rudyard Kipling
The most effective way to do it, is to do it. -Amelia Earhart
You can't just sit there and wait for people to give you that golden dream. You have to go out there and make it happen for yourself! -Diana Ross
The world needs dreams and the world needs doers. But above all, the world needs dreamers who do! -Sarah Ban Breathnach
The great secret of getting what you want from life is to know what you want and to believe you can have it. -Norman Vincent Peale
You only get in life what you have the courage to ask for.
We don't get what we deserve.We get what we design.
Confidence is at the root of being able to get what you want in life, in your relationships, in your career, and in your opportunities.
WHAT HAVE YOU BEEN WAITING FOR TO HAPPEN?
Are you waiting for permission?Are you waiting to be called out?Are you waiting to be ready?Are you waiting for someone to tell you you're enough?Are you waiting for the right time?Are you waiting for "other reasons?"
Other reasons ...-I'm not supposed to ask-Who I to think-Why would they discount that for me-Does that opportunity even exist-What if they think I'm pushy-Will I come off arrogant or ungrateful
Maybe you want to ask for a raise, an opportunity, for a chance, for a mentor, for a discount, for help, for support, for chocolate milk for breakfast ... you will only get it if you dare to ask for it.
Maybe it feels too hard, or you feel lazy, or you've convinced yourself that your "woe-is-me" storyline is just too strong...whatever it might be, you are only ensuring that nothing happens.
STEP ONE:WHAT IS IT THAT YOU ACTUALLY WANT?
Most people don't know what they want because they are so afraid of being disappointed that they won't even give themselves permission to think of all of their possibilities and potential.Be emotionally and creatively brave with yourself as you answer this question:
What is it that I actually want? What is it that will increase my happiness? What is it that will make me feel deeply rooted and significantly progress...