Why You Shouldn't Hate Small Talk

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Why You Shouldn't Hate Small Talk

FromThe Science of Happiness

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Jul 19, 2018

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Many of us avoid chatting with strangers – isn't small talk tedious and dull? Listen as our happiness guinea pig discovers its surprising benefits.

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Jul 19, 2018

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Learn research-tested strategies for a happier, more meaningful life, drawing on the science of compassion, gratitude, mindfulness, and awe. Hosted by award-winning professor Dacher Keltner. Co-produced by PRX and UC Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center.

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