A recent conversation in our Shameless Mom #everydamnday Facebook group stopped me in my tracks.  One Shameless Mom posted that she only got a couple hours of time to herself each month.  And that her partner thought this was an appropriate amount of time – he didn’t see why she might need anymore.  I found this disconcerting. But more disconcerting was the chorus of moms who commented saying they too didn’t get much if any, time to themselves on a regular basis. MAMAS.  This is NOT ok.  Time to yourself is essential.  Time spent serving no one but you is crucial. Sacrificing regular time to yourself is sacrificing your true self and your basic need to cultivate your identity outside of the roles of mother and wife. Whether its taking a bath, going out with girlfriends, getting a massage, sitting alone reading in a coffee shop, going to book club, taking a photography class, joining a knitting circle – you need time just for you.  And this time should not be a gift from your partner.  This time should be a requirement of your relationship.  In this episode, I dig into these 4 steps to getting more time in your life: Make it a requirement, not a reward Ask for support, not permission Work in small doses #everydamnday Opt out and unscheduled whenever possible Thank you to our sponsors: Homesick Candles: Save 10% off any order over $50 and get free shipping at Home Sick when you use the code SHAMELESS at checkout.