Compassionate Care Navigating Dementia Together
By L.E. Summers
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Take charge of caregiving: conquer daily challenges, communicate effectively, and transform behavioral changes with 9 actionable steps.
Dementia is a gut-wrenching, life-changing, beyond-devastating diagnosis for your loved one…and for you, who is responsible for becoming their primary caregiver by choice or default.
Suddenly, your fears rise to new heights, and you're confused about what to expect, how to handle the daily challenges, and whether you can improve your loved one's quality of life.
This leaves you wondering whether you can balance primary caregiving with work, personal relationships, and your needs. Let's not forget about your enormous financial fears.
No one prepares you for dementia, but no one prepares your loved one, either. The world has over 55 million dementia patients, which only increases annually. And not a single one of them was prepared.
But with the help of this guide, you can become more familiar with what to expect, how to care for your loved one in a loving and educated way, and ways to embrace the little things and bring joy to your and your loved one's lives.
In this book, here's just a fraction of what you'll discover:
9 steps caregivers need to ensure their loved ones or patients have an improved quality of life while balancing their own mental health and needs
How to deal with the diagnosis that changes everything, and discovering everything you must know about the seven stages of dementia, their symptoms, and early tests
The #1 step caregivers must follow to ensure every document is ready and how to manage the inevitable family feuds that follow
The brain-personality-behavior loop and how to use the DICE model to embrace the changes and help your loved one through each change
The most essential support providers, caregivers, friends, and medical experts your loved one needs during the dementia years with a visual tree
How to prepare an environment to protect your loved one from any harm with a comprehensive to-do list for bathrooms, kitchens, bedrooms, and the outdoors
The secrets to a new form of communication needed in each major stage of dementia and what you should avoid saying to your loved one
A complete guide to the 17 most common medical and mental health complications and how you can address each one at home while knowing when to seek help,
How to manage the 6 most essential daily struggles in dementia, including hygiene, nutrition, wandering off, recreation, and physical activity,
How to be the best caregiver by knowing how to balance work with life, practicing self-care, improving relationships, managing time, and facing the worst-case scenario.
And much more.
Being a full-time caregiver for a loved one or patient requires practical tools, which many books simply don't offer. Fortunately, you now have nine actionable steps with various tools, whatever stage of dementia your loved one may be in.
Don't let your fears and self-doubt make you second-guess your ability to be the best caregiver. Become an informed, thoughtful, and realistic caregiver by following the guidelines laid out in this book.
L.E. Summers
L.E. Summers is the author of Compassionate Care: Navigating Dementia Together. Their work, written primarily for caregivers, is focused on caring for loved ones through their old age, with a particular focus on dementia. They're passionate about readers maintaining their own health and quality of life as they care for their loved ones, and provide practical solutions to help them do this. Now retired, the former I.T. professional began their own caregiving journey when their father passed away. Summers' 85-year-old mother had been suffering from dementia for seven years and needed consistent care. They retired from their role and focused on learning about the disease and taking care of her, which they continued to do for the remainder of her life. Their experience and learning changed their trajectory, and they became passionate about sharing their knowledge and experience with others in order to make a difference to more people. This launched Summers into a whole new level of research. They realized that the experience of caring for their mother was unique, as is the case for many caregivers, and they widened their research to help more people, accommodating the vast array of experiences encompassed by caregivers. Summers has two grown children, of whom they are extremely proud. Now able to enjoy the freedom of their retirement, they're looking forward to traveling and spending more time writing. They're passionate about music and loves researching music history – as well as Native American archeology, with which they're fascinated.
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Compassionate Care Navigating Dementia Together - L.E. Summers
COMPASSIONATE CARE: NAVIGATING DEMENTIA TOGETHER
HOW TO BE CONFIDENT AND INFORMED IN THE CARE OF YOUR LOVED ONE, ACCESS TOOLS TO PROVIDE THE BEST QUALITY OF LIFE, MAINTAIN YOUR WORK-LIFE BALANCE
L E SUMMERS
CONTENTS
Introduction
1. Dealing With the Diagnosis That Changes Everything
What Is Dementia?
Dementia Symptoms
Normal Aging Versus Dementia
How to Measure Dementia
Chapter 1 Practical Exercise
2. Handling the Challenging Responsibilities and Legalities First
Family Ties
Dealing With Legalities
Planning for Money
Chapter 2 Practical Exercise
3. What You Can Expect After the Diagnosis
Why Changes Happen
The Emotional Impact of Dementia
Changes to Come
Methods to Handle Behavior Changes
The 6 R’s of Behavioral Management
The WANT Model
Chapter 3 Practical Exercise
4. Choosing a Support Network for Your Loved One
Choosing the Right Doctor
Getting a Nurse
Geriatric Care Manager
The Social Life of a Dementia Patient
Chapter 4 Practical Exercise
5. Getting Your Home Ready for When They Can’t Live Alone
When They Can No Longer Live By Themselves
Adapting Your House
Chapter 5 Practical Exercise
6. Discovering a New Form of Communication With Dementia
What Can You Expect?
Communication in the Milder Stages of Dementia
Communication in the Middle Stages of Dementia
Communication in the Late Stages of Dementia
Chapter 6 Practical Exercise
7. Common Medical Issues and How to Address Them
Fever
Flu or Pneumonia
Falls
Dehydration
Constipation
Diarrhea
Incontinence
Vision Problems
Hearing Problems
Dental Problems
Pain
Skincare, Bedsores, and Rashes
Medication
Dizziness, Fainting, Imbalance, and Loss of Coordination
Seizures
Hospital Trips
Chapter 7 Practical Exercise
8. Practical Everyday Care for a Loved One With Dementia
Hygiene
Nutrition
Exercise and Physical Activity
Recreation
Sleep Issues
Chapter 8 Practical Exercise
9. Don’t Forget to Care for Your and Your Family’s Well-Being
Time Management
Setting Limits
Overcoming Challenges
When the Journey Ends
Chapter 9 Practical Exercise
Afterword
Glossary
References
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DEDICATION
To my dearest mother,
This book is a tribute to your unwavering strength and the love that flowed through you. As I delve through the depths of dementia, I am reminded of our journey together—the highs and lows, the moments of confusion and clarity, and the unbreakable bond we shared.
You faced the relentless grip of dementia with courage and grace, teaching me the true meaning of resilience. Through your unwavering spirit, you taught me the power of embracing each day, no matter how challenging it became. Your unwavering love and determination inspired me to embark on this journey of understanding, to shed light on the complexities of dementia.
In this book, I strive to honor your memory and the countless others who have faced this formidable foe. I hope that by sharing our story, I can offer solace, guidance, and a glimmer of hope to those who are navigating this path.
Mom, your legacy lives on in every word of this book. You may have been taken from us by dementia’s grip, but your spirit endures in my heart. Through this book, I hope to raise awareness to help bring a world where no one faces dementia alone.
This dedication is a testament to the extraordinary woman you were—a beacon of love, strength, and resilience. Thank you for the indelible mark you left on my life, and may your light continue to shine brightly, illuminating the path for others who face the challenges of dementia.
I will always love you, Mom.
I would also like to take a moment to thank those important people in my life who helped me to create this tribute. A special thank you to my children Tyler and Miles, and to their mother Iseabail Lane. I don’t think I could have done this without their help.
INTRODUCTION
Being a caregiver is an act of love. You are offering your time, patience, skills, and often your own happiness to be there for someone else. In an ideal world, you’d be able to attend courses about dementia and talk to professionals about the best course of action. Not everyone can afford that, though. Caregiving isn’t an exact science; you should focus on learning from your mistakes and from those who did this before you.
Caregivers have to deal with several issues: Knowing someone you love is changing, and the dread of not knowing enough about dementia and how to handle each challenge. Of all caregivers who care for senior loved ones, 48% have to deal with dementia or Alzheimer’s Disease. Even with insurance, 70% of the lifetime costs of dementia fall on family members (ADI - Women as Carers: Gender Considerations and Stigma in Dementia Care, n.d.).
This can be an exhausting journey, and it will make you question things you used to take for granted. Family feuds arise during this period, but you need to consider what’s better for the person needing care. They need to fulfill their activities of daily living and can’t wait until the entire family comes together.
Don’t feel guilty if you’re not always capable of giving 100%. But knowing what lies ahead is the first and most important step toward making the best of the situation.
Whether you have a small or a big family, it’s nice to have people who you can count on during difficult situations. That could be financial help, someone you can talk to about your issues or someone who you can call to take care of the dementia patient when you are stuck in traffic. You will also find people who refuse to donate their time or their assistance, claiming they already have enough problems. These are usually the first ones who step forward to dispute any decision you make on your own.
I wrote this book to connect with people who feel overwhelmed, alone, and lost in their new role as a caregiver. Sometimes, coping with a loved one with dementia may feel like too much. I’ve been there, and understand the pressure to be taking care of someone, offering emotional and psychological support, while also managing your personal life. Bad feelings may arise at these moments, and if you let them take control, they will make everything even more difficult.
You will need to learn and adapt as quickly as possible. Things are going to change fast, and you have to adapt just as fast. I’m here to tell you it's possible to go through that entire process without giving up on self-care.
In this book, you will learn the most important steps for those who need to care for a loved one with dementia. The first stage is dealing with diagnosis, then learning the many stages of the disease. You will have to manage the work of nurses and other professionals, and other members of the family who agree to help. As you navigate through the different stages, you will gain practical knowledge that applies to the person you’re caring for.
Among all caregivers in America today, 70% are women who start out at the age of 49 (ADI - Women as Carers: Gender Considerations and Stigma in Dementia Care, n.d.). Dementia is more common among Hispanic and African-American seniors. People with different cultural backgrounds deal with dementia in their own way, which can affect care and family agreements. Depending on the previous relationship between the caregivers, that could become even more complicated.
A dementia diagnosis impacts family relationships, possibly leading to feuds and even legal disputes. Caregivers have their own life to balance, and their relationships with their children and spouses could suffer from that new arrangement, not to mention their professional lives. It’s difficult to meet deadlines and be diligent in your job.
The work situation can also turn sour because caregivers take a lot more responsibility into their lives when parents have dementia. Medical costs are also a problem, whether or not the parent has insurance. Family caregivers struggle to balance work and the new responsibilities, falling behind with deadlines, missing opportunities, and becoming less productive at work.
I’m here to tell you that you are not alone and that it’s possible to stay sane and happy while caring for a loved one with dementia. This book is my effort to share what I learned and provide much needed support to others who handle a dementia patient. As a 68-year-old family caregiver who spent over three years looking after my late mom when she had dementia, I have made many mistakes and learned from them.
Beginning about six years earlier, my father had gradually taken over the care of