The Healing Your Inner Child Workbook: Recovery From Your Childhood Trauma & Anxious Attachment Style, Set Boundaries + Stop Overthinking & Anxiety In Relationships

By Natalie M. Brooks

If You've Always Wanted To Reconnect With Your Inner Child, Break Free From The Chains Of Childhood Trauma And Anxious Attachment, And Finally Start Healing Then Keep Reading…

This book contains the exact steps that took me from drowning in the aftermath of childhood trauma and anxious attachment to reclaiming my inner child, setting boundaries, and achieving emotional healing.

The biggest difference between those two time periods? 

The profound healing and transformative methods encapsulated in this audiobook.

The problem is—most individuals, grappling with childhood trauma and attachment issues, don't know how to navigate the path to healing and establish healthy boundaries.

I wrote this book to be your guide on the journey to reclaim your inner child, break free from the shackles of trauma, and cultivate healthy relationships.

Today, I stand as a testament to the power of healing your inner child and building resilient emotional boundaries.

You see, you deserve to feel whole again, feel loved, and be able to love in a healthy, secure way. 

Inside you will find:

• The 7 Essential Ways To Reconnect With Your Inner Child And Heal From Childhood Trauma
• The 4 Key Insights To Establishing And Maintaining Healthy Emotional Boundaries
• 5 Coping Mechanisms You Are Likely Utilising To Manage Your Wounds & Function In The World
• 5 Harmful Myths Surrounding Childhood Trauma And Anxious Attachment That You Need To Dispel
• Time And Energy-Saving Techniques With Just One Simple Change In Your Lifestyle
• A Transformative Trick Used By Renowned Therapists To Heal Your Inner Child
• The Biggest Mistake People Make In Their Journey To Healing From Childhood Trauma
• The Top 3 Recommended Resources To Support You On Your Path To Emotional Healing And Healthy Relationships

And SO Much More! 

If You Want To Reclaim Your Inner Child, Break Free From The Chains Of Childhood Trauma, And Cultivate Resilient Emotional Boundaries Then Scroll Up And Click "Buy This Book" Today. 

• Language: English
• Publisher: Natalie M. Brooks
• Release date: Mar 19, 2024
• ISBN: 9798224714698

Book preview

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UNRAVELING THE MYSTERY: WHAT IS THE INNER CHILD?

When we start the journey of healing, knowing where to begin is key. You might have heard people talk about the inner child and wonder what it means. It sounds important, but what is it, really? Let’s pull back the curtain on this idea and see how it can help us in our lives.

The inner child is like a little version of you living inside your heart and mind. No, it's not a real child you can see or touch, but it's a way of thinking about the parts of you that are still like when you were young. These parts of you are full of life – they love to play, get amazed by the little things, and feel things very deeply, whether those feelings are happy or sad.

There was a smart man named Carl Jung, a psychologist, who talked about this a long time ago. He called it the 'divine child' because he saw how special and important this part of us is. The inner child, according to Jung, is a piece of your puzzle that shows how you grow as a person over time. Picture your personality like a beautiful tree that started from a tiny seed – that seed is your inner child, the beginning of you.

But it’s not all fun and games with the inner child, and that’s important to understand, too. When we were younger, not all days were sunny. There were times of hurt, confusion, and anger. Maybe someone said something mean, or you fell and scraped your knee, or you felt scared and alone. These moments stick with us, and our inner child holds onto them.

We see stories of the inner child everywhere in movies and books, and they can teach us a lot. Take the film Big, where the character played by Tom Hanks suddenly becomes a kid again. He's living in an adult's world, but with the heart of a child. It's fun for sure, but it also shows us how we sometimes wish to bring back that simple, childlike view of life.

Then there's Peter Pan, the boy who flies and never grows up. He's the picture of the kid who stays a kid forever, not wanting to step into the world of grown-ups with all its rules and worries. We smile at Peter’s adventures, but there's a bit of truth in there too. A part of us understands why he might want to stay in Neverland, where it's safe and everything is a game.

Thinking about the inner child can feel a little strange at first. After all, you're grown up now, with adult things to do. But there's something powerful about remembering that you have a childlike side. It's a part of you that needs love, care, and attention, just like any child does. By looking at it this way, you start to see that healing old wounds might mean going back and understanding what the child you once were needs to feel better.

Understanding the inner child is your first step toward healing because it's about understanding you, all of you, including the parts that have been with you since the very beginning. It's recognizing that maybe that child inside needs a hug, a playdate, or a 'you did great' to feel happy again. And when you start listening to and caring for that inner child, you might just find a joy and lightness in life that's been missing for a while.

THE ROLE OF THE INNER CHILD IN OUR ADULT LIVES

Deep within all of us, there's a younger version of ourselves. This part of us, often called our inner child, holds on to our feelings, memories, and experiences from when we were little. Even when we grow up, this inner child stays with us and shapes who we are. It's a part of our past that sticks around and has a say in our present choices and even guides how we think about the future.

Let's consider how this inner child can affect our day-to-day lives, particularly focusing on our interactions, job choices, and our mental wellness. Imagine for a moment, that when you were younger, you didn't feel very loved or maybe you were ignored. That younger you could still be looking for love and attention in a big way now. This might mean that, as an adult, you check your phone a lot, almost without thinking, just hoping for a message or a sign that someone is thinking about you. That constant search for love and approval from others can be exhausting and can make relationships tough to handle.

If your younger self heard a lot of harsh words or criticism, then criticism becomes a familiar presence in your life. As an adult, you might not think very highly of yourself and struggle to see the good in what you do. When someone tells you that you did a great job, it might not sit right. Instead, you might brush it off, thinking they're just being nice. Being criticized a lot in your earlier years could mean that now, it's you who's always tough on yourself, expecting more, and feeling like you're never quite enough.

But it's not all heavy and tough. The sparkle and fun of being a kid don't disappear forever. That inner child is also the reason why, sometimes, you might feel a sudden urge to dance in the rain, laugh freely, or get lost in a coloring book or building something just for fun. It's that innocent part of you that finds joy in small things, like the smell of wet ground after it rains, the sound of leaves crunching under your boots, or the magic in a good story.

This spontaneous and creative side is a gift from your inner child. It's what allows you to think outside the box, to come up with solutions that aren't straight from the usual way of doing things. At work, it could be the part of you that has the fresh ideas, the one that keeps the team energized. It's also what lets you experience moments of pure happiness, unburdened by worries, if only for a little while.

Our inner child matters because it's a deep and true part of us that holds onto our past joys and hurts. Recognizing this can help us better understand why we feel what we feel and do what we do. It can guide us to be kinder to ourselves, to heal the wounds that we may have ignored for a long time, and to embrace the joy and creativity that come from allowing our inner child to play and breathe.

As adults, if we can listen to and take care of this inner part of ourselves, we can have fuller, richer lives. We can work through the tricky things and also embrace the bursts of childlike wonder that make every day a little brighter.

WHY IT'S IMPORTANT TO UNDERSTAND YOUR INNER CHILD

Understanding your inner child might seem like a strange thing to talk about. What does it even mean? memories, and experiences from when you were young. It’s like a little kid living inside you who remembers every scraped knee and every gold star you ever got.

Alright, let's dig deeper into why it's so important to know this inner child to help heal some of the hurts you carry around. You know how you sometimes do things without understanding why? Like snapping at someone when you're actually just sad, or working late all the time instead of hanging out with friends? Sometimes these responses are because your inner child is driving the bus, making decisions based on old hurts or unmet needs.

When you were small and you skinned your knee, it hurt, but what also hurt was if someone you loved didn't seem to care. That's a scar on your inner child. Now, as a grown-up, you might find yourself working hard to get a Well done! from others, just like you wished for that caring hug when you were little. By getting to know this younger you, you start to understand these feelings better. It's like shining a light in a dark corner - you can finally see what's there.

Knowing all this helps in a huge way. It's like having the map to a hidden treasure. You can see the paths you've been taking without really choosing them. Then, you can start changing the map. You might ask yourself, Do I want to work late tonight, or am I trying to get that pat on the back I missed out on as a kid? Maybe there are better ways to feel good about yourself. Like trying a new hobby, calling a friend, or just being kind to yourself. This is you taking care of your inner child in a new way.

But it’s not just about healing old hurts. It's also about finding the fun and wonder your inner child holds. Think about the last time you did something just because it was fun. It’s easy to forget to play, imagine, or be silly when you're busy being an adult. The inner child remembers what it’s like to laugh until your belly hurts or how amazing the world seems when you find a cool rock. When you make friends with your inner child, you open the door to joy, creativity, and lightness that can make your days brighter.

So, how do you begin to recognize and care for your inner child? Start by listening to your feelings. When something bothers you, ask yourself what part of you is feeling hurt or scared. Is it something right now, or does it remind you of being little? Then, give yourself permission to take breaks, play, and do things just for fun, like you'd let a real child do. Over time, you'll notice you’re not just surviving day by day, but actually living with a full heart.

Connecting with and embracing your inner child can bring a lot of good changes. It can help you heal from the past and step towards a life that’s not just about getting through the day, but enjoying it too. Think of it as giving your inner child a high-five and saying, We got this, let's have some fun.

DECODING THE LANGUAGE OF THE INNER CHILD

In the heart of everyone, there's a little version of themselves – this is the inner child. It's the part of you that holds all your early feelings, memories, and experiences. Think of this part as a younger you that has been with you all along, even as you've grown up. This part doesn't chat with you like a friend might; instead, this inner child uses signs, reminding you in its special way about things it's been through before.

Let's start by imagining a day. You're walking into a room full of new people, and all of a sudden, your hands get sweaty, your chest feels tight, and you can't explain why you're feeling so nervous. It's as if a red light starts flashing inside you, and you don’t know why it's there. This anxiety can be the inner child's way of waving at you, trying to tell you something important. It may be recalling a time from when you were young that made you feel the same way. Maybe back then, you felt alone in a crowded room, and the feelings from that time are coming back to say hello.

Think also about the people you choose as your friends or partners. Have you ever noticed a pattern where these individuals tend to not share their feelings well or seem hard to connect with? If you keep ending up with people who aren't emotionally open, it might be because your inner child learned to cope with similar folks early on – perhaps a parent who didn't show much affection. These patterns are clues, kind of like breadcrumbs leading back to the younger you, who learned this was just how things are.

So, how can you start to understand this special language of the inner child? First, pay attention to how you feel in different situations. When a strong emotion comes up, or your body starts to feel different – like when you get that knot in your stomach, or your heart starts to jump – it's good to ask yourself, What might my inner child be trying to tell me here? It's a bit like being a detective, piecing together clues to solve a mystery, and the mystery is you.

When you notice these patterns or sudden feelings, take some quiet time to listen to what your inner child might need. Imagine talking to them, offer comfort, like you would to a scared child. By doing this, you’re giving that part of you a hug with your mind, saying, I see you, I hear you, and it's okay. This is how you start being kind to your inner child.

Speaking the inner child's language means you get to know yourself in a deep way. It helps you understand why you feel what you feel, and what you can do to feel better. Just like a leaf that falls from a tree and lands in a stream, your feelings drift into your now from long ago. But when you learn this language, it's like you're given a paddle to help gently guide those leaves, those feelings, along the stream.

Meeting the needs of your inner child takes time and effort, but it is a beautiful journey of understanding and kindness. It's about connecting with the deepest parts of yourself and offering the love and support that maybe you always needed. As you do this, you'll find that the adult you grow stronger and more whole, just like a tree that gets the right amount of sun and water becomes tall and healthy.

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CHILDHOOD ECHOES: UNRAVELING THE IMPACT OF OUR PAST

The stories of our lives begin in childhood. Think of it like planting a seed. Our childhood is the seed from which the tree of our adult life grows. This seed might be planted in rich soil, watered or it might struggle in less fertile ground. But no matter where it starts, the seed needs care to grow strong; this is true for us as people, too. It's not just about the memory of a