UPDATE First Edition: The Online Dating Guide of the 21st. Century

By Brittany Marini, Angel Lopez and Deontrae Jackson

Buckle up for a thrilling ride through the maze of modern romance! "UPDATE" is not your typical self-help dating book—it's a dynamic expedition into the uncharted territories of authentic connections. Brace yourself for an exhilarating forewarning: this book is not about playing by the rules but tearing them down and redefining the game.

In the pages that follow, expect a rollercoaster of self-discovery, heart-fluttering revelations, and jaw-dropping insights. This isn't just a guide; it's a daring call to revolutionize your approach to love. Get ready to challenge the norms, break free from the mundane, and embark on a quest to find the love that sets your soul on fire.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Lulu.com
• Release date: Feb 16, 2024
• ISBN: 9781304610966

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COPYRIGHT

Copyright © by [Deontrae Jackson] All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, distributed, or transmitted in any form or by any means, including photocopying, recording, or other electronic or mechanical methods, without the prior written permission of the publisher, except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical reviews and certain other noncommercial uses permitted by copyright law. For permission requests, write to the publisher at the address: [imprint: Lulu.com] This book is a work of fiction. Names, characters, places, and incidents either are products of the author's imagination or are used fictitiously. Any resemblance to actual events or locales or persons, living or dead, is entirely coincidental. Published by [Lulu.com]] First Edition: [Febuary,16,2024]

ISBN:978-1-304-61096-6

Table Of Contents

COPYRIGHT

Proclamation

THIS BOOK WILL WORK

INSPICE METUM

The Back Story

Chapter 1 How to get over a Break-up

Types of Endings

Top 10 Experienced Situations

The Out-of-Date Stages of the Ending Process

The Up to Date Stages of the Ending Process

Acencion Methods Checklist

The Psyche Hike Challenge 

Psyche Hike Computation Scale:

Chapter 2:Discovering Someone New

Finding a Dating App & How to Use It

REASONS to Be 100% Honest 

 THINGS PEOPLE LIE ABOUT PRIOR TO DATING 

The Cliff of Lies 

Contestants

SHOW AND TELL

 Photo Goals 

Synthetic Thoughts

Elevate Your Magnitism

What Do You See?

The Match Box Challenge

Chapter 3: Your Preferences

(Frequent Daters) Basic Preference Standards:

Pure Perspective

The PreGame Challenge

Chapter 4: Interactions 

Embracing Rejection

Crypto Complexes

A.I (Artificial Impulses)

Inspect With Your Gadget

Common Denominator 

Generating an Online Conversation

Jumpers Creative First Sends for Immediate Responses

Navigating Conversation After Getting a Response

Text Savvy Prompts to Remember

After Getting a Response

Fumbling Conversations

Styles of Communication

Oversharing

Alternatives

Become the Crush

The Currency Exchange  Challenge

Chapter 5: Quality Time

10 Ways Daters Waste Time 

Do You Feel That?

Don't Wait Until Valentines Day?

Every Day is Valentines Day

Amend! Before You Spend!

Budget Friendly Date Ideas

Extravagant Date Ideas

Wrong Turn

 The Make Me WEEK Challenge

Objective

Chapter 6: Sex Sex Sex

Depths 

Top 10 Sex Questions in the Dating World

Privileged Intimacy 

Effects of Engaging in Sex Before Commitment

Abstienence

After Sex

The Torrid Sauna Challenge

Chapter 7: Entitled

 COMMIT TO YOURSELF 

Types of Progressive Relationships

Levels of Trust

Don't Get Bullied into a Relationship

Before You Mention The Word Relationship

Guess What it is!

The Bricks that Built the Castle

The Icebreaker Challenge

 Challenge Questions

Conclusion: You Have the Game Plan

Part 2 Chapter 8: THE PLEASE DON'T READ SECTION

Technology  

Hook-Up Culture:GENIALITY

Signs Your Entertaining The Wrong Person

Toxicity

Infamous Red Flags

Sabotoging Yourself 

Quality Over Quantity

Dating Someone with Paranoid Personality Disorder

Dating Money

Astrological Dating

Dating A Single Parent 

Redating Someone That Hurt You

Dating Someone with a Criminal Record

Dating An Addict

Dating Someone with no Experience

Dating Someone with a Reputation

Dating Poly

Dating a Cheater

Dating A Player

Sneaky link 

Before You Ghost Anyone

Gelid Withdraw

This compilation is nondenominational to include all gender and non- identifiable genders as a whole. This excerpt is accumulated from all different realms of life to help people find what they are looking for efficiently through truthful dating. There are no sex denominations, ethnicities or religious standards admitted in this publication.

This book is dedicated to those who have weathered the storm of loss,

yet found the strength to navigate through the darkness. 

To those who have felt the weight of sorrow and emerged resilient,

 carrying the memories of loved ones in their hearts like cherished treasures.

 In honoring the profound journey of grief, 

may these pages offer solace, understanding, and the gentle reminder that even in the midst of pain,

 there exists a quiet strength that binds us all. 

This dedication is a tribute to the enduring spirit that rises from the ashes of loss, 

a testament to the indomitable human capacity to heal, remember,

 and love again.

Proclamation

THIS BOOK WILL WORK

HIC LIBER ERIT OPUS:

ANTEQUAM LEGITUR

Before you start reading, identify your goals.  

The Book will address with your ambitions.

NOLI TIMERE

Don't be afraid! Be fruitful toward mindfulness.

Nurture your present, moot the past, annunciate the future.

IANUA

Be open! EMPOWER YOURSELF and your senses that change is possible. Resonate with your true identity.

NEBULA

Question Everything! Challenge the ideals of circumstances, decisions, and consequences, to develop the ability of comprehension.

APERI OCULOS TUOS

Seek new knowledge and perspectives that engage in solidifying your learning. 

PEREGRINATIO

ADAPT AND RIENFORCE!  Align pursuits that evaluate your progress. 

LA POTENZA

YOU HAVE THE POWER! Focus your energy on the things that contribute to your sense of freedom.

INSPICE METUM

Fear is a chameleonic emotion influenced by factors, including biological, psychological, and environmental components. Brain exposure to a fear-inducing stimulus (independent variable) and the activation of the amygdala (dependent variable) frame negative associations. Fear mainly sustains the way you process traumatic memories and instilling chronic coping mechanisms.

Fear can affect cognitive processes, leading to impaired concentration, difficulty making decisions, and a constrained focus.

xenophobia or neophobia, constitute the fear of the Unknown.

 Fear is your only flaw!

We never take the time to notice that the unknown has bought us so much independence as well as happiness. For example, when you find your favorite food, your favorite song, your career choice, or your best friend; The unknown is a powerful thing to embrace. No longer will you be a product of your fear because it causes an indefinite state of solitude.

Fear Will Fear You!

There is Nothing that is out of your reach.

The Back Story

When I started exploring online dating, I was battered, superstitious and still unclaimed. I signed up for any and every application I could find. I wrote extensive biographies about myself, submitting pictures that made my life seem more appealing than it actually was. Once I realized that mimicking the profiles of my peers pushed me further away from meeting my person, I took a chance and tried something different, and then it finally happened. What can I say, as funny as that may sound? We met on a dating app! It was an experience that I will forever be grateful for. The interactions we both engaged in while we were signed up for countless platforms were unforgettable. 

 Until we finally met and discussed what we didn't want in a partner, that led to us spending countless hours together, teaching each other and making memories. Our friends and families noticed the difference in our personalities almost immediately. People started to notice us out and about and compliment us on our vibes. Finally, we invested ourselves in each other's lives completely; that is how we came up with the idea of this Self-Sustenance book. The only genuine advice we could offer when people ask how they can find what we have is...

  Once you find someone who is worth your undivided attention, delete the dating apps together and see where it goes.

Chapter 1 

How to get over a Break-up

Do Break-Ups Really Exist?

Break-ups occur for a powerful number of reasons rooted in the complexity of human perception. Communication breakdowns, where misunderstandings accumulate and needs go unmet, can lead to dissatisfaction. Irritation emerges when fundamental differences in values, goals, or lifestyles become noticeable over time. Trust issues, whether stemming from betrayal or dishonesty, erode the very foundation of a relationship.

 Recognizing the diverse natures of relationship challenges is critical, as it allows for a more understanding of why break-ups happen.

From this point forward,