A Reflective Journey of a Loved One’s Passing
By CK Brashares
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CK Brashares
CK Brashares worked for many years in banking but is retired now and enjoys her hobbies of sewing, hand and machine embroidery, working puzzles, and reading mystery books. She is deeply spiritual and follows a nature-based religious path. Brashares and her husband of fifty-two years have lived in Jackson, Michigan, most of their lives. They have two children and five grandchildren.
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A Reflective Journey of a Loved One’s Passing - CK Brashares
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Balboa Press rev. date: 09/15/2023
CONTENTS
Prologue
Chapter 1My Experience
Chapter 2The Diagnosis
Chapter 3The Waiting
Chapter 4The Call
Chapter 5The Funeral
Chapter 6The Epiphany
Chapter 7Aftermath and Moving Forward
Chapter 8The Stages of Grief
Chapter 9Will vs. Living Will vs. Doing Nothing and Paying Taxes
Chapter 10Is Hospice Right for You, Your Loved One, and Your Family?
PROLOGUE
In our society, we are by social norms conditioned to view death as something to ignore, to dismiss, and to avoid discussing. I am sure that most people will not want to read this journey of death. I, for one, did not give the process much thought even though I went through a part of the process when our dad died. My siblings and I were with him in the hospital for a week as he lay in a coma, and we were there when he passed. Although the process of burying our dad fell on our mother’s shoulders, had we known how emotionally and mentally challenging that process was, we would have offered our mother more help. It is my hopes that by reading this booklet, it will help you through this trying time and give you a look into what dying and death entail. It is important to remember not to deny your feelings: you are human, and you need to express them. At one time or another, you may feel angry with the person who is ill, you may feel like you cannot continue anymore, you may feel depressed, and you may feel deep sadness. However, instead of hiding from your feelings or stuffing them down inside yourself, which is well known to make you feel worse, express them in an appropriate way. If you have someone with whom you can talk about your thoughts and feelings, you will feel better and be more able to handle the end of your loved one’s journey.
38784.jpgThe idea for this book was born from my experience with my mother’s journey into that good night. At 93, she found a lump in her left breast. Her oncologist found it was cancerous and that she also had cancer in both lungs. The doctor wanted to do a lung biopsy to confirm whether the breast and lung cancers were the same. However, he warned that the lung biopsy would be invasive and painful, and that chemotherapy was not recommended as it would likely kill her before the cancer did. He gave her six months to live. After taking in the doctor’s findings and deciding she did not want to feel sicker, mom chose to do nothing. She said, I want to enjoy my remaining days, doing what I love and remain as pain free as possible.
I now wish I had asked the hard question: How did she feel about the death sentence?
. From what I saw of her reaction, she just shrugged her shoulders and stared blankly at the doctor. She did not cry or seemed to react adversely to the news. To be fair, in her last few years, she often said she did not feel well and had been telling us since her late eighties, that she was ready to go
. Personally, I was glad that she chose not to have the biopsy or chemo. From what the doctor said, those procedures might have prolonged her life, but she would have been in pain and miserable. She lived two more years and passed away in August of 2021.