Fight Faithfully: The Strength It Takes to Keep Fighting When No One Can See Your Pain
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I wrote this book with raw emotions and stories to show anyone facing an invisible illness of any kind that he or she is not alone. My personal conditions are centered on endometriosis, infertility, and loss, but that does not necessarily mean that you need to be experiencing the pain of those three for this book to help you. I have a dream that one day everyone can feel known, seen, and understood no matter what battle they might be facing. Everyone has a story to tell, and I wanted to share mine with the world with a prayer to help at least one person see that he or she does not have to go through the uphill battle alone. If you are anything like me, you have more people in your life that do not understand you than the ones that do. Cling to the ones that get you—the ones that really understand your pain and do not fault you for the uncontrollable things that may come your way. If I can pass down any advice, it would be two things. First, once you set your mind to something, stick with it. Stand strong and know that in times where you feel alone, all it takes is speaking up, and you will see there are many people out there not all that different than yourself. Second, do not try too hard to get empathy from everyone in your life. People can only give what they have. The same goes for empathy. Those who do not possess it cannot hand it out.
Always remember that the faithful fight really boils down to the strength it takes to keep fighting when no one can see your pain.
Melissa Marks
When she felt like giving up, she just kept going. She found out at the age of 22 that all of her pains could be summed up in one word; endometriosis. She went through years of procedures and treatment resulting in little to no relief. Endometriosis spiraled into infertility issues that surfaced at the age of 26. She suffered the loss of two children but with faith, persistence, and determination had a beautiful baby girl after her third and final embryo transfer. She continues to “fight faithfully” in all that she does and enjoys helping others who suffer invisible illnesses learn to advocate for themselves.
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Fight Faithfully - Melissa Marks
Copyright © 2021 Melissa Marks.
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ISBN: 978-1-6642-4332-3 (sc)
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WestBow Press rev. date: 08/31/2021
CONTENTS
Preface
Acknowledgments
Chapter 1 The Doctor Who Believed Me
Chapter 2 The Treatment That Tested Me
Chapter 3 The Losses That Devastated Me
Chapter 4 The People Who Inspired Me
Chapter 5 The Faithful Fight That Strengthened Me
Chapter 6 The One Worth Fighting For
I dedicate this book to every person fighting an invisible illness. I have learned in the past nineteen years while fighting my own battle that others barely have sympathy for what they can see, let alone for what they cannot. You are stronger than you realize. Life really is one step at a time even if you feel like the next step will be your last. Keep fighting that faithful fight and keep smiling. My hope is that this book brings you to a place where you feel known and understood.
PREFACE
There is a list a mile long of the invisible illnesses in our world—some that I have heard of, some that are foreign to me, and two that I unfortunately know too well. My personal battle has to do with endometriosis and infertility. Throughout this book, I am going to take you on my journey from when my pain began to the present. In the year this was written, I turned thirty years old. I have a lot left to my story throughout my life that is unwritten as yet. However, I feel like I have gone through experiences that some do not see in their entire lifetime, and I felt a tugging on my heart to share my story with you.
Looking back over the years, there is a lot that I wish was different for me, but it made me so much stronger. It sounds cliché, and I never thought I would be the person reflecting and honestly saying that I would not be the same if I did not go through the hills and valleys. In my book you are going to hear about a wide variety of topics. I hope if there is a piece of my journey that you can relate to, that it brings you to a place of feeling known and understood. There were too many times throughout my struggles where I felt like not a single soul on the planet could truly understand the depth of where I was coming from, and it terrified me.
I want this book to be the change for you so that when you open it, you realize that someone out there can relate. You are not alone in your pain. The struggle with invisible illnesses is that we do not talk about them enough. We bottle them up inside and try to deal with issues on our own. People need people. We are all human beings with basic instinct needs. You will never believe the impact when you start sharing your story. I found so many others like me when I began to open up, and I pray that one day that is the same for you. That being said, let us dive in together on this crazy rollercoaster of my own personal faithful fight.
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
If it were not for the unwavering and unfailing love of Jesus Christ, I would never be where I am emotionally and mentally today. I learned that His promises will always shine through even during my darkest days. While the love and support from others might be fleeting at times, He never left my side once.
Thank you to my husband, Chris, for showing up to every doctor’s appointment, researching with me, and always having a listening ear available for when I needed you. I dedicate this as well to all my family members who believed in me and helped to guide me through the hard and unbearable times. To my forever friends, thank you for never making me feel like an outcast and always embracing me with open arms just as I am. I love you all.
1
The Doctor Who Believed Me
T here are not many more infuriating feelings in this world than knowing in your gut you are 100 percent without a doubt right about something, yet no one believes you. Granted, the stubbornness that correlates with that at times can get in the way of one being correct. My personal story dates to when I was twelve years old. It is hard to imagine it has already been nineteen years. To fully understand where someone is currently, it helps to know where they came from. Before we jump to where I am currently in life, I want to take you on a journey through my past.
I grew up with parents who were present. I never once had to wonder if they loved me. I’ve lost count of the number of times I have heard both parents tell me they are proud of me. Despite their divorce, never once did I go without. Both of my parents worked hard to provide an incredible life for my brother and me. No one is perfect, and mistakes were made, but I knew then and know now that they always did the best they could. The one area that was a little different for me than some of my friends growing up revolved around doctors. My dad is a chiropractor, and I fully believe in chiropractic. Due to this, we were not a family that rushed to the doctor just for any ache and pain. This is not a bash on my parents for not taking me to the doctor sooner—who is to say that a doctor would have found my endometriosis earlier anyway. It is an invisible illness for everyone, including parents.
Throughout my childhood and into my teenage years I played softball. I absolutely loved putting my uniform on and getting out on the field. When tryouts began in third grade for my first Park District team, I joined, and we were asked what position we wanted to play. I always wanted to be the catcher, so I went for it. Other than being used as a utility player my sophomore year of high school, I caught every game I ever played in. My junior year was the last year that I ever played—partially due to the wear and tear on my knees but also due in large part to the pain in my low back and abdomen. I never really told anyone about the second reason for quitting my softball career because the reason behind leaving did not really matter; I was just done. I knew my time was up when a girl ran home from third base, slid into me, and cleated my inner thigh. I dropped the ball and fell over screaming. It hurt and left a mark, but the reality was that it was not nearly as bad as I was making it out to be. I used it as an excuse after that for the reason I wanted out. My body was spent. I was tired physically and mentally. I never stepped foot on a softball diamond after that game.
Part of me does not regret it, and part of me wishes I could have been honest back then about the reason I gave up. But how do you tell people that you want to be done with something that has consumed your life for years because of something they could not see? In my mind, the physical bruising made it easier for them to understand, and they did. My parents never once questioned me after that game. I told them my knees cracked every time I crouched down, and they could see the bruising on my body, and for them, that was enough. So, I was good with it.
After high school graduation at the age of eighteen, I finally convinced my parents that I needed to see a doctor. Never did I think postgraduation, while my