The Secrets of Successful Marriage and True Love! Find Out What You've Been Missing

By Life Solutions and Life Solutions Investments

This book on love and marriage seeks to give some tips on enjoying the marriage institution. It covers a range of subjects to bring a holistic view of love relationships. You will benefit from this book's coverage:

Marriage will be explained. Marriage will be viewed in the right light, which will bring a proper perspective on the matter. The purpose of marriage will be discussed to bring clarity. In this book, we will outline the important functions of a husband and wife. Marriage conflicts arise and tips on managing them will be shared. There is also the issue of in-laws, dealing with them will be examined. One of the things that causes problems in marriages is handling money. This is an integral part of the discussion. The importance of raising children who will represent a godly heritage will be considered. Sexual issues are also discussed as part of celebrating love in marriage. Communication is key. Serving God together in church will be explored as well as serving the community together as a couple. Practising these marriage tips will ensure success.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Elphas Sipho Mdluli
• Release date: Jul 10, 2023
• ISBN: 9798223587682

Book preview

Preface

Many things have contributed to the troubles in marriages.

This is partly due to the decay in moral standards in society. The decline in embracing godly values has made husbands and wives to be married or stay together for convenience instead of love.

Why this book? This book has been written due to the observations made on how marriages have lost the true values God meant for them. There is no longer true expression of love between some lovers. This marriage institution initiated by God no longer serves the initial purpose. Therefore, this book is an answer to the problems now viewed as normal in marriages in our societies.

There is an increase in divorce rates as if it is the norm. Children are now raised by single parents due to the marital problems. This book advocates that we go back to the right foundations of marriage as per God’s initial purpose.

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As a marriage counselor and Pastor over the past years, I shall give you tips that can greatly contribute to your marriage and help restore the true values. With those truths, your marriage will start working properly. If there are current problems, it will help you solve them.

For those who still have good functioning marriages, this book will help you prevent problems that might occur in future and also revive your true love. For those who are not married yet, you will receive knowledge on how to prepare yourself for a great marriage. I pray that the great God who created the heavens and the earth richly bless you as you read this book.

Rev. Elphas Sipho Mdluli is the right person to help you since he has been a pastor for many years. He was trained in pastoral work, marriage counseling issues and has observed and seen causes of marriage problems and how they can be solved.

Introduction

Many people do not clearly understand what true marriage is all about. One cannot fully appreciate something that he does not understand. Marriage needs to be clearly explained and that is one of the purposes of this book.

A wrong perspective or view of marriage leads to imbalance and abuse of marriage. One needs to have a right perspective.

Everything has a purpose in life. This includes marriage.

Marriage has purposes to fulfill. It takes two lovers who understand it for such purposes to be fulfilled. This book explains the purposes of marriage, which will help couples to enjoy its benefits.

A husband and wife have different roles in a marriage relationship. Failure to understand and execute these roles leads to confusion and death of a marriage relationship. But if properly performed, marriage will be an enjoyable life journey.

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Where there are two or more people involved, there are conflicts that arise. In marriage there are also conflicts that arise along the way. Conflicts do not mean there is lack of love. They just need to be managed. You will learn therefore, as to how they can be properly managed while you enjoy your love relationship.

When you enter into a love relationship, it is not just about the two of you. Family members are also affected by your marriage. They become part of your life. That includes your in- laws. You need to understand how to deal with the in-laws.

That will help you manage unnecessary issues or problems that can be prevented or managed.

Studies reveal that one of the primary causes of marriage breakdown is finances. Finances are good when handled properly. But if they are not handled properly, they can lead to divorce and that is not what you want. You will therefore learn on how to manage your finances for the success of your precious marriage.

As you celebrate and climax your love with your spouse, you will bear children. Children need to be properly taken care of. Otherwise, they can also cause marital problems. You will be empowered in this book on raising your children who are a godly heritage.

Another exciting part of a marriage relationship is climaxing your love with sex. This is one of the critical aspects of marriage that needs to be understood so that it can bring the joy and enjoyment it was meant for. If not done right, divorces occur. Learning about sex is therefore critical.

Communication is also key in marriage. It links many aspects of the love relationship. It avoids unnecessary problems. If well enhanced, all the other areas of a love relationship will be better handled.

Another missing element is serving God together in church. This is a place where couples get spiritual insights from the pastor, other couples, and members. Serving God together in church becomes one of the pillars needed for a marriage to survive the storms of life. Learn how this can enhance your marriage.

The last but not least is the issue of serving the community together as a couple. We have been called by God to serve. This book will help you understand the importance of becoming part of a community serving it together.

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Let us not wait any longer. Why don’t we dive into the book now? I believe God will bless and empower you as you learn the secrets of marriage and true love. Now, it is time for you to find out what you have been missing.

Chapter 1: What is marriage?

Marriage is a wonderful relationship between a man and a woman. However many people do not fully understand what marriage is and what it is all about. That is the number one reason for its failure and the numerous divorces. For a marriage to be strong it must be based on true love. True love sustains all relationships.

DeKoven, (2017:11) noted that the generation we live in has many conflicting value systems and philosophies. These advocate for different marriage forms, which include contractual, communal, living together and others. As a result, such marriage forms result in a number of problems.

Misconceptions about marriage lead to high rates of divorce, suffering children, and disease just to name a few. Failure to acknowledge God’s original purpose of marriage leads to unnecessary sufferings and pain.

When some people think about marriage, they only think about sex. Sex is a small part in the marriage though it is very important. There is more to marriage than sex.

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Heward-Mills, (2005:13) defines marriage as an institution ordained and ordered by God. He asserts that marriage is the only institution established by God before sin entered the world.

Mahlangu, et. al, (2008:13) define marriage as the authorized union of man and woman primarily for production of the offspring, which involves intimacy and sharing by husband and wife in all areas