Understanding My Assignment: My Journey on Raising Champions, Trusting the Process, and Finding Who I Am.

By Dorian L. Evans

Being a mom isn’t easy, or for the weak. Parenthood doesn’t come with a manual and you never know if you’re doing it right. In Understanding My Assignment, author Dorian L. Evans shares her story of motherhood, of wearing multiple hats and parenting four children—three boys and a girl.

In this memoir, she narrates the details of her journey by trusting the process, raising champions, and figuring out who she is. Evans tells how she jumped, took a leap of faith, and left everything familiar behind for an opportunity to create a life she wanted.

A story of perseverance, faith, and unconditional love, Understanding My Assignment chronicles Evans’ laughs, tears, tests, and trials as she learned to live her life according to her assignment.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Archway Publishing
• Release date: Jun 20, 2023
• ISBN: 9781665737562

Dorian L. Evans

Dorian L. Evans is a graduate of Bowling Green State University and is a mom of almost twenty-eight years to three sons and one daughter. Evans lives and teaches in Central Texas. She enjoys traveling to watch her children compete, cooking, and being with her family and friends.

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CONTENTS

Preface

Chapter 1Redefine the Word Champion

Chapter 2#Winning

Chapter 3The Beginning of the End Was Really Just the Beginning

Chapter 4At the End of the Day, It’s Going to Be Okay

Chapter 5I Wasn’t the Person I Am Now, and That’s How It’s Supposed to Be

Chapter 6I Will Forever Be That Mom

Chapter 7Favor is Fair and It Is Good

Chapter 8Real Champions Serve

Chapter 9Champions Go with the Flow

Chapter 10I Know My Child

Chapter 11Parents, Just Stop

Chapter 12I Can’t Compromise Who I Am For Anyone.

Chapter 13Believe in Yourself

Chapter 14Let the Coaches Coach, and Let the Teachers Teach

Chapter 15Two Birds, One Stone

Chapter 16The Love You Give Is the Love You Get

Chapter 17Unpeel the Banana

Chapter 18Rest Is Not a Bad Word

Chapter 19The Process

Chapter 20We Aren’t Doing This

Chapter 21You Can’t Do What They Do

Chapter 22April 15, 2020

Chapter 23Am I Tired?

Chapter 24Keep Being You

Chapter 25The Ultimate Sacrifice

Chapter 26The Silence

Chapter 27Perspective

Chapter 28The Chapter That Almost Wasn’t

Chapter 29The Recruiting Process

Chapter 30It’s Hitting Me All At Once

Chapter 31You Can Take the Boy Out of the Game, but You Cannot Take His Heart for the Love of the Game, His Teammates, and His Coaches

Chapter 32Just Breathe

Chapter 33Leaving Omari

Chapter 33.5One Week Later

Chapter 34The New Me

Chapter 35The End, and the Next New Beginning

PREFACE

I cannot begin to tell you how many times I have said I don’t know to my children. It is okay to say, I don’t know. I don’t know are three of the most powerful and humbling words that you can utter to the universe. I don’t know translates to I don’t know how it’s going to get done. However, I am taking the first step in believing and having faith that it will get done, not through my own might, but through that higher power working behind the scenes to make everything work out for my good. I don’t know is also the first step in trusting the process of the journey that you are about to embark on.

I don’t know means admitting you don’t know something and that is okay. In not knowing, you begin looking for the answer, and it isn’t until we are searching for something that the answer is revealed to us. I don’t know exactly what this book is, or who it will reach, or how it will change you, but I know it will. I knew it had to be written, and I had to be the one to write it.

I know we don’t go through things in life for just ourselves. Everything that I have been through, everything I have learned along this part of journey, has helped me to trust myself more, question everything, fear nothing, and search for the answers with an open heart and mind. I may not know how it is going to get done, but I know it will. I may not know how something is going to be paid for, but it will. I know in asking, we receive. I hope you enjoy reading the stories that I have experienced with my children; if they sound familiar, then know you aren’t alone in raising children to be champions.

One of the most important I don’t knows is the fact that I didn’t know me or who I was. I knew I was mom, a wife, a daughter, and everything anyone else needed me to be. However, I didn’t know myself, what it was I wanted out of life, or who I had become. When asked, Who are you? I would always reply with I am the mom of four beautiful children, three boys, and one girl. It was a very textbook, robotic answer that came with a smile and a head cocked to the right. Well, not anymore. While I am a mom, I am so much more. I found myself in the chaos of life, and I love who I am. This is my journey on trusting the process, raising champions, and figuring out who I am in the midst of all of the madness. Join me on the journey to figuring out your assignment.

CHAPTER 1

Redefine the Word Champion

In today’s society, when we hear the word champion, we think gold medals, championship trophies, rings, and going to Disney World. A champion is not just an athlete who wins the game. A champion is somebody who gets up every day and decides to keep going.

I have four champions, and yes, one of them is a scholar athlete. He is very good because