Stop Anxiety In Its Tracks
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Learn how to de-stress, get past negativity, and stop overthinking.
Stress and worry are the biggest causes of anxiety. Stop the continuous head noise. Stay present and keep your mind off things that don't matter, and never will.
Learn how to create your own breakthrough of bad thinking.
Stop Anxiety In Its Tracks is a book that know how difficult life can be when you can stop stressing over every little detail or when you are overwhelmed with worry. Acclaimed author Xolani Kacela guides you through an in-depth understanding of the causes of anxiety and offers dtailed and proven hacks to help you restructure your thinking, and more importantly, your actions and mindset. What else? The book will provide you proven approaches to overcoming the negativity in your life.
Break free of unhelpful patterns and years of life-threatening conditioning.
Xolani Kacela was raised in a military and entreprenurial family. During his college years, he learned the power of mental re-conditioning. He never looked back. Over the years, he earned four degrees, including his Bachelors in Accounting from Morehouse College and his Ph.D. in Counseling from Texas Christian University.
Proven methods to live worry-free and lead a life filled with happiness.
-Mindfulness and the Anti-Anxiety Formula
-Person-Centered Therapy and Adopting a Therapist's Mindset
-How to Create Instant Chill-The Power of Your Three Best Friends
Liberate your inner power and start living.
Stop negative self-talk and the negativity of others. Get a full night's sleep by stopping ruminating thoughts. Rewire your brain to achieve more, feel healther, and unleash your inner power. Learn to live in the here and now.
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Xolani Kacela
Raised by an atheist father and a deeply religious mother, Reverend Xolani Kacela began early seeing the world through a lens of many faiths and beliefs. His broad experience helps him appeal to a wide audience, both secular and religious. He serves as minister of the Unitarian Universalist Church of Las Cruces, NM, and has been minister at four other Unitarian Universalist churches as well as the United Methodist Church. He grew up a member of the African Methodist Episcopal Church (AME). As Chaplain in the U.S. Air Force and Air National Guard, he served in New Orleans following Hurricane Katrina, as well as in Guam and Iraq. He holds a Ph.D. in Pastoral Theology and Pastoral Counseling from Brite Divinity School. His many publications on spirituality, faith development, grief, and relationships include articles, “Being One with the Spirit: Mysticism of Howard Thurman,” “One Session is Enough: Counseling African American Families,” and “Mature Religious Experience in the Midst of Death and Dying”; his book chapters include “To Wake, To Rise: Meditations on Justice and Resilience” and “Art and Wholeness in Church Life.” His blog, masteringyourownfaith.com with an audience of thousands, explores issues ranging from maximizing one’s potential to race and politics. He contributes to NPR and community radio in Las Cruces, NM, and newspapers and radio in the Southwest. He believes that everyone has the foundations for living a great life, using their own faith convictions as the cornerstone.
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Stop Anxiety In Its Tracks - Xolani Kacela
Stop Anxiety in Its Tracks
20 Hacks to Destress, Avoid Negativity,
and Stop Overthinking
By
Xolani Kacela, Ph.D.
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Dedication
To Tamara.
Table of Contents
Introduction
Avoiding Added Anxiety
FEAR – False Evidence Appearing Real
Scenario-Building
Taking On Other People’s Anxiety
The Secret Ingredient: A Made-Up Mind
Gleanings
Chapter 1
What Causes Stress and Anxiety?
Nature and Nurture
Worry: Evolution’s Gift for Self-Preservation
Adverse Experiences and Epigenetics
Your Three Best Friends
Dealing with Cognitive Dissonance
The Problem with Isms
Consequences of Anxiety
Gleanings
Chapter 2
Mindfulness and the Anti-Anxiety Formula
The 6 Stages of Anxiety
Anxiety Journal
The Stop Method
The Upside of Epigenetics: Inherited Resilience
Person-Centered Therapy and Adopting a Therapist’s Mindset
Gleanings
Chapter 3
Self-Maintenance and Time Management
Self-Care 101
Addressing Mind, Body, and Spirit
Identifying (And Sticking To) Your Values
Learning to Live in Balance
Be the Boss of You – ABCD Hack
Create Lists
Use Gap Theory Planning or Create SMART Goals
Gleanings
Chapter 4
How to Create Instant Chill
Be a Non-Anxious Presence
Guided Meditation
Yoga
Gleanings
Chapter 5
You Pack Yourself
Be You Wherever You Go
Stages of Competence
Using Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy: Revamp Your Self-Image
Practicing Self-Differentiation
Take the four-minute test
Self-differentiation defined
How to improve your self-differentiation
What One Person Can Do, Another Person Can Do
Gleanings
Chapter 6
New Ways of Being and Doing
Mindset 1: Concentrate on the 1% you can control, not the 99% that never happens
Mindset 3: Concentrate on what you know, not where your mind drifts
Mindset 4: Concentrate on what is real, not the unreal or imagined
Mindset 5: Concentrate on your breath; return to your center
Gleanings
Summary Guide
Introduction
Picture in your mind’s eye a woman, Susan, who is a nice and hard-working person. Susan might be working too hard. Susan is worried about getting all the things she needs done today before she runs out of time. She wakes up with her mind moving 100 miles per hour as she completes her mental to-do list. She has a habit of doing things as she thinks of them, but sometimes gets distracted in the middle of a task and forgets her intention midstream.
Sometimes Susan gets text messages or phone calls from her work at odd hours and doesn't know whether to answer them immediately or wait until the workday begins. She gets upset, wondering what is expected of her. She has started avoiding looking at her phone for fear of being asked to do something during the precious off hours that she reserves for herself. Her friends and family text her, but often she doesn't see the texts because she's so stressed about the possibility of an incoming work text.
On top of all that, her 25-year-old son has picked up the habit of calling to ask for money, which further stresses her out. She promised herself she wouldn’t enable his unhealthy habits by taking his calls or entertaining his stories, which sometimes sound made-up. Still, she wants a good relationship with her son and would like to stay in contact with him on a semi-regular basis. Her constant worry about him—and about how to deal with him--tacks on another level of stress for her.
These days, she constantly arrives late to important meetings and sometimes misses meetings altogether. Her boss has encouraged her to keep her meetings on her cell phone calendar, but she often forgets. Then, when she does put it on the calendar, she’s not in the habit of checking to see what meetings she’s scheduled.
Part of her stress is tied to all the online accounts that she has, each of which has its own login and password. Susan yearns for the days when she could get by with a single password for her e-mail, but now, with 30-plus accounts, she can rarely remember any of them. She is afraid to write them down for fear that someone will find her list and hack into her accounts.
When her stress gets terrible, she doesn't feel like doing basic tasks, such as going to the grocery store. That would mean creating another list so she can remember what she needs to buy. She has occasionally gone to the store without her grocery list only to get home and remember something important she forgot.
She also has a secret. She has put off going to the doctor for a long time because she is afraid of what she’ll learn. Her mother died at a relatively young age, and she is approaching that same age. She knows she should get checked out, but she can’t bring herself to do it.
She feels like her stress level is strangling the life out of her. She desperately wants to get a hold of her life so she can feel more control of day-to-day living. All the stress has caused a mountain of anxiety for her.
Does any of this sound familiar?
You know that stress and anxiety have taken over your life if:
You feel nervousness and even strain in your body
You often forget what you started within a few minutes time
You feel overwhelmed the moment you wake up in the morning
Your to-do list is long, and you rarely seem to get through it
You avoid listening to voicemail for fear of someone asking you to do something or receiving unwelcome news
You don’t feel relaxed on your days off from work
You are constantly checking email when you’re supposed to be with your family and/or friends
You have trouble falling asleep
Negative thoughts prevail where there used to be positive thinking
You’re unaware of how your thoughts affect your actions
You find yourself overthinking an issue, but not actually solving problems
You crave more peace and joy in your life
Stress lives on the surface of your life, but the underlying problem is often anxiety. One sure way to get a handle on out-of-control stress and anxiety is to take a comprehensive picture of your life and analyze what's really affecting you from the outside and what is going on inside of you. This book will help you understand what you’re feeling and show you how to lessen both stress and its toxic enabler, anxiety.
Admitting that anxiety is a dominant force in your life helps you gain control over it. Taking that first step toward managing anxiety is the right thing to do to restore wholeness and to become more mindful.
Avoiding Added Anxiety
Living every day is stressful and worrisome. There is stress from your job, child-rearing, caring for your health and wellness, political divisiveness, environmental concerns, bills to pay, being overworked and underpaid, pressures to go to church and/or spend time with your family and friends, the constant inflow of e-mail and voice mails and text messages that must be answered, nosy neighbors, inflation, the rising price of gas, and your rude coworker who is constantly saying politically incorrect things. You may not be able to do anything about the existence of those stressors, but you can change how you navigate and manage them.
As a taste of what’s to come in this book, right here in the Introduction, I’m going to help you identify and avoid some key added sources of anxiety that none of us need:
FEAR – False Evidence Appearing Real. The world can be a scary place. Crime and violence plague many communities, and wars and civil unrest scattered across the globe. Here in America, mass shootings have taken on a life of their own. We have many well-placed fears.
But there are fake fears, too. We call that fear False Evidence Appearing Real.
That fear is the apprehension you feel when you psyche yourself out of real-life opportunities. Say there’s a job opening for a position you longed to move into. But instead of applying for the job, you get into negative self-talk. They don’t want someone my age.
They’re probably looking for a person with more experience than I have.
Or I’m not good at interviewing.