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    The Courage to Love: Surviving and Thriving in Your Relationship: A Practical Guide for Couples in Distress from Dr Colm O'Connor, a Clinical Psychologist and Couples Therapist
    The Courage to Love: Surviving and Thriving in Your Relationship: A Practical Guide for Couples in Distress from Dr Colm O'Connor, a Clinical Psychologist and Couples Therapist
    The Courage to Love: Surviving and Thriving in Your Relationship: A Practical Guide for Couples in Distress from Dr Colm O'Connor, a Clinical Psychologist and Couples Therapist
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    The Courage to Love: Surviving and Thriving in Your Relationship: A Practical Guide for Couples in Distress from Dr Colm O'Connor, a Clinical Psychologist and Couples Therapist

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    Dr Colm O'Connor, a clinical psychologist and couples therapist, has for over twenty years explored the emotional lives of couples and researched hundreds of cases of couples in distress.
    Looking beneath the surface of everyday complaints, The Courage to Love reveals those insights and shows how we seek solutions to life's most essential questions in close relationships. It answers common questions that we often ask such as: 'Why do we constantly argue about trivial things?' 'Why do we have to win an argument at all?' 'Why is it that we often forget what it is we end up fighting about?' 'How is it that love can deteriorate into abuse?'
    In answering these kinds of questions, Dr O'Connor shows what is ultimately at stake for people in winning an argument, starting a fight, proving a point, triumphing in divorce, or abusing a lover, and presents a range of solutions that are not about how to control relationships but how to inhabit them.
    Painting a dramatic portrait of love as a heroic response to human vulnerability, The Courage to Love shines new light on how relationship breakdown happens and provides a guide for getting back on track.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherGill Books
    Release dateMar 8, 2013
    ISBN9780717158171
    The Courage to Love: Surviving and Thriving in Your Relationship: A Practical Guide for Couples in Distress from Dr Colm O'Connor, a Clinical Psychologist and Couples Therapist
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    Colm O'Connor

    Dr Colm O’Connor has 25 years’ experience as a clinical psychologist, family therapist, clinical supervisor, workshop presenter and author. A graduate of UCC and Lutheran General Hospital in Chicago, he was a co-founder of the Cork Domestic Violence Project and the Association for Agency-based Counselling in Ireland. He is the author of The Courage to be Happy and The Courage to Love. He can be contacted through his website at www.drcolmoconnor.com.

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