The Psychology of Personal Growth and Better Relationships: Manga for Success

By Toshinori Iwai

LEARN SKILLS THAT WILL LAST A LIFETIME WITH MANGA FOR SUCCESS!

Do you want to get along better with people? Overcome negative thought patterns that are holding you back? Or are you looking for a basic understanding of the popular ideas of Adlerian psychology? Whatever your reason for picking up this book, The Psychology of Personal Growth and Better Relationships: Manga For Success makes psychology concepts easy to understand using practical examples and situations. You’ll read about:

• Self-determination and self-encouragement
• Dealing with emotions in interpersonal relationships
• Having courage during difficult conversations

The story follows Yukari, a 28-year-old area manager of a bakery chain who finds her career gridlocked by frustration and adversarial relationships. Luckily for her, Adler’s Ghost appears to teach her how to turn the situation around. As her communication improves, she builds relationships of trust, and her career begins to move forward smoothly. Applicable in both business and personal life, this book has the potential to change your life for the better—and you’ll have fun reading it. Find out why the Manga For Success series—now available in English for the first time—is so popular in Japan, Korea, and beyond.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Wiley
• Release date: Apr 25, 2023
• ISBN: 9781394176083

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Table of Contents

Cover

Title Page

Copyright

Preface

Prologue: What Is Adlerian Psychology?

Story 1: The Little Ghost I Met in the Warehouse

1 Grasping the Whole Picture of Adlerian Psychology

A Forerunner to the Psychology of Self‐Development

Expansion and Breakthrough from the Field of Education into Personal and Organizational Development

2 The Main Components of Adlerian Psychology

Self‐Determination: Psychology That Makes You the Protagonist

Teleology: Every Human Action Has a Purpose

Holism: A Person's Body and Mind Are a Single Unit

Cognitivism: Every Individual Views Things through Their Own Subjective Lens

Interpersonal Relationships: All Human Actions Require a Partner

Encouragement and Social Interest

Column 1: Alfred Adler, the Man

Part 1: If You Change Your Perspective, Your Life Will Be Easier

Story 2: The Store Managers' Rebellion!

1 Lifestyle and Life Tasks

What Is Lifestyle?

The Elements and Effects of Lifestyle

What Are Life Tasks?

2 From an Etiological Approach to a Teleological One

The Three Patterns of Discouragement

Searching for the Cause Does Not Lead to the Solution

3 Cognitive Theory and Basic Mistakes

What Is Private Logic?

Basic Mistakes

Three Ways to Guide Yourself Back to Common Sense (Our Shared Sense)

4 Self‐Determination

You Have All of the Judgment Criteria

Physical Inferiority, Feelings of Inferiority, and Inferiority Complex

Column 2: Adler, the Feminist

Part 2: Understanding the Role of Emotion in the Formation of Lifestyle

Story 3: The Secret Behind the Discarded POP Displays

1 Reason and Emotion

The Lie Behind I Know, But I Can't Quit

Anger as a Secondary Emotion

Note

2 The Formation of Lifestyle

How Is Lifestyle Determined?

General Personality Tendencies Based on Birth Order

Jockeying for Power

3 How to Develop Courage

Four Points in Developing Courage

Column 3: Adler, Who Began a New Era

Part 3: From the World of Assumptions to Common Sense

Story 4: Why Wasn't I Chosen?

1 What Is Cognitivism?

Everything Is a World of Assumptions

2 What Is Empathy?

Caring About Your Partner's Thoughts, Feelings, and Current Situation

The Difference Between Empathy and Sympathy

Methods to Train Your Empathy

3 How Do I Adopt New Patterns of Behavior?

The Three Cycles

How to Overcome Being Consciously Unskilled

How to Avoid the Contingency Trap

Column 4: Adler, the Encourager

Part 4: Interpersonal Relationships and Emotions

Story 5: Christmas, the Final Battle!

1 What Are Interpersonal Relationships?

Every Action Needs a Partner

Four Guidelines to Building Good Relationships

2 Emotions That Pull Us Apart and Bring Us Together

The Definition of Emotion

Can you control your emotions?

3 Jealousy's True Identity

Jealousy Arises from a Certain Relationship

4 What Are Feelings of Inferiority?

Feelings of Inferiority to Oneself and Others

Healthy Reactions to Feelings of Inferiority

Column 5: Adler and America

Part 5: What Is Encouragement?

Story 6: I'm Going to Deliver the Photo!

1 Encouragement in Adlerian Psychology

The Basics of Encouragement

The Difference Between Praise and Encouragement

2 Self‐Encouragement

The Three Keys to Encouraging Yourself

How Do I Encourage Myself?

3 Encouraging Others

The Three Levels of Encouragement

How to Encourage Others

Column 6: Adler's Twilight Years and Passing

Author's Profile

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