Roar of the Tigress: The Real Self-Defence "For Women Only"

By Danny Gee Goju

This book highlights certain basic rules in life; which if you do not follow, will always end you up on the losing end. You will have to use your common sense and imagination to adapt what I teach to suit yourself; so that you are never in a position whereby you will be attacked, used and abused.

Most women are attacked because they either leave their guard open or are unaware of the potential dangers; and this allows the attacker to succeed. A man attacking a woman goes against a fundamental rule laid down by nature; which says that because a female is a potential child-bearer, she is vital to the survival of the human race and therefore needs to be protected, respected and cherished. This rule is frequently abused because the modern woman is now much more than a child-bearer; and has become every much as competitive as the modern man. It is this conflict between the sexes that is the main cause of women not being treated with the respect they deserve.

• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse UK
• Release date: Feb 8, 2023
• ISBN: 9798823080644

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Published by AuthorHouse  02/08/2023

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Dedicated to:

Every woman who reads this book. Thank you.

Stay strong; stay safe; stay healthy and stay happy.

CONTENTS

Chapter 1     What is the Real Self-defence for Women?

Chapter 2     The Value of a Man

Chapter 3     In the Nightclub – Beware!

Chapter 4     Date Rape

Chapter 5     Mental Rape

1. Emotional blackmail

2. Silent treatment

3. Sexual blackmail

4. Emotional starvation

5. Belittlement & verbal insults

6. Fear of reprisals

7. Imbalance in a relationship

8. Financial blackmail & bribery

9. Abuse of your feelings

10. The workplace

Chapter 6     Armed robberies – Why me?

A. Money/valuables

B. Flaunting wealth

C. Debts, swindling and offending

D. Security

Chapter 7     Outside your home – How safe are you?

1. Shopping/Bag snatching

2. Dressing/Male attention

3. Witness to a crime

4. Going out…

5. Public relations…

(a). Reception

(b). Shop

(c). Restaurant

(d). Office

(e). Public transport

(f). Double-dealing

6. Driving

(a). Accidents

(b). Road rage

(c). Safety Measures

7. In a crowd

8. Abroad

Chapter 8     Is Your Abode A Fortress?

1. Young children

2. Fire safety

3. Burglary

4. Security tricks

5. Business premises

6. Strangers

7. Friends/flatmates

8. Boyfriends/lovers & one night stands

Chapter 9     People! – Can you trust them?

1. Patronising men

2. I’m as good as any man…

3. Sexism

4. Dating…

(a) The Internet

(b) Dating agencies

(c) Speed-dating

(d) How do you get rid of a boring date?

5. The Police

(a) The Police Station

(b) The Courts

(c) In Prison

Chapter 10   Beware of the Conman

1. Confidence tricks as an art form

(a) Pressure sales

(b) Hole-in-the-wall scams

(c) Credit card theft

(d) Identity theft

(e) Simple scams

(f) Investment fraudsters

(g) Loan sharks

(h) Religious conmen

(i) Voodoo

(j) Third World Scams

2. Counterfeit

(a) Automobiles

(b) Electronic Equipment

(c) Credit cards, Traveller’s Cheques, Notes, Coins and Tickets

(d) Designer attire, perfumes and jewellery

(e) Food and Drink

(f) Property

(g) ‘Rogue Traders’

3. Christmas: Season of goodwill (or is it?)...

Chapter 11   The Real Self-defence is Common sense

1. What does this book mean for women?

2. The Roar of the Tigress song

Appendix

1

What is the Real

Self-defence for Women?

Self-defence for women! Ha! Ha! Ha! Yes, most men will have a chuckle; because like it or not, we still live in a male-orientated society. Although there has been some improvement in the female situation over the years, it is still not easy being a woman. Many are regularly used and abused by their male partners and opportunists; not to mention attacks by rapists, muggers and thieves. What I say is; there is no need for any of these attacks to happen! Most self-defence books only explain the physical side of self-defence: a kick here...a punch there...a throw, hold or choke where it hurts! That may work in some cases, but a high standard of martial arts is needed, and most women don’t have that. These books also fail to mention that a lot of the techniques are illegal. If for example, you kicked a man in the groin or poked him in the eye, he could sue. You might find yourself in the dock, accused of attacking him! But he started it! you might proclaim with indignation. All well and good but; did you have to blind him or ruin his marital life? To you, he was just a drunken groping nuisance who needed to be taught a lesson; but to his possible wife and children, you are the bitch who hurt their dear father and husband!

Although few women are equal to men in the physical sense; it is possible that after many years of training, a woman can become as tough and as strong as many a man. Some have been known to beat up men in fights; but that is not the norm. Women have other and probably more effective ways to defend themselves because their best self-defence is their sex. By nature; men will always go to the aid of a woman in trouble. Some countries do not allow a woman on the front lines in a battle; mainly because it would distract the attention of the men if she were shot or wounded. No nation wants to see their mothers, sisters and daughters arriving home in body bags! Society has much more sympathy for women who are attacked, than they do for men; and many hardened criminals would prefer not to injure women, when committing crimes. In all prisons, a convict is never safe from the other inmates...if it is found out he attacked, injured or raped a woman. He may have to be put into protective custody in case he is stabbed, cut up or killed! So you see ladies; you still have a lot going for you! You have to realise this and use everything to your advantage because in my Goju system, anything goes!

Realistically; self-defence for women is mostly common sense and following a set of rules. Problems usually arise when these rules are either broken or not taken seriously. Fighting only works, if she is able to escape or receive help after hurting her attacker. This means her attack must work at the first attempt or she could be seriously injured. Beating up an attacker is one thing, but trying to fight an angry or embarrassed opponent who she has tried to injure, is a completely different proposition. Only a seasoned martial artist will be able to deal with such a scenario. The best female martial artists usually have a father, husband, boyfriend, brother or close male relative who is also in the martial arts and introduced her to the art. Not many women are so lucky. For the majority of females, self-defence is something other women need. Attacks and rapes are what you read about in the papers or see on the news. This is why many women have a nonchalant attitude to life and its dangers. "Oh, I can defend myself easily when I’m attacked. Just gouge his eyes out or kick him in the balls. If that fails; I’ll scream till the cops come!" That may work or it may not. What if it doesn’t? In some areas, where are the police when you need them? If it does work and you do hurt him seriously, are you prepared to go through life looking over your shoulder for possible revenge from his loved ones? Statistics have shown that women are attacked more often than men; therefore sooner or later, most women might become or know someone who will become a victim of a rape, a mugging or a domestic attack.

A lot of martial arts teachers deceive women and let them believe they can beat up men so that they continue to pay the somewhat exorbitant fees some clubs charge to teach techniques they know will not realistically work. So I say; why take the chance of fighting a man, when you can beat him more effectively without touching him? The fit woman kicking the punching bag looks good on the television and in magazines, but it sends the wrong message and causes a lot of amusement amongst men, who will always believe it will never work on them! The male pride will never accept a beating from a woman. That makes him more dangerous because he feels he has to come out the winner, by any means at his disposal. Many women are beaten up and raped, simply because of this factor. They tried to physically fight back! Confused? Welcome to the real self-defence for women!

If a woman cannot beat a man physically, other methods will have to be used. And that is the purpose of this book. There are other methods…lots of them! Men in the worldwide sense are still richer and more powerful than women and therefore have a great advantage over them. In most walks of life, men get what they want by the sheer power of their affluence and influence. The aptly-named boys club or gentleman’s gang, is a fact of life because when push comes to shove, men will stick together and team up against any woman trying to break into their arena. The few women, who do manage to get in, still have to play by rules laid down by men. It is a harsh and competitive world in which we live. That is why most women have so far, done nothing about their plight. Some would rather fight each other, in order to gain the approval of the male, rather than join forces and fight him! Men devised most of the laws without real consideration for the female. And there is still an on-going struggle by women, to get the archaic ones changed. Those men, who cannot get what they want by pressure or money, will resort to force and (sometimes armed) violence. As if that is not enough, some women have to endure rape, mental humiliation and physical beatings. Few women are brave enough to report their mistreatment, because to do so, would rock the cherished foundations of their existence and alter their way of life for ever.

The real self-defence for women is not only about the obvious attacks like rape and bag snatchers, but also about defence from less visible threats like those from a loved one, usually boyfriends and husbands. For example; you need money for the children, or to buy food for the family. He refuses to give it to you; but would gladly spend it elsewhere, with the boys in the pub, or God forbid, with one of his numerous girlfriends! What do you do if he is richer than you and you have to demean yourself by begging him for every cent? In most countries he is legally the man of the house, so you cannot argue with him. If you do, you will be branded a troublemaker. You’d be surprised at how many of your own female friends could turn against you. It could be worse! At least he does not beat you up! You don’t know how lucky you are. He bought you a brand new car for your birthday, didn’t he?! Look at all the jewellery you’ve gotten from him! You dare not use sex as a weapon because he could and most probably, will rape you. (Remember, not all rapes are physical. I will discuss mental rape later on in this book.)

With little chance of prosecution, husbands literally get away with whatever they want, in a marital home. A wife finds herself bending over backwards, just to please her man; at the expense of her own dignity, self-esteem and happiness. There is not much any woman can do about her marital woes, without baring her whole life and soul to public scrutiny and possible ridicule. She can refuse to cook; but he will simply waste the money in restaurants. Even worse; he could go to his girlfriend, who will be only too glad to cook for him and listen to his tales of what an ‘evil wife’ he has at home. If she stops washing his clothes, he will just buy new ones. Doesn’t clean the house, and she would be shooting herself in the foot because her friends would visit and blame her for keeping an untidy house. Her own female instincts would eventually force her to clean up the mess. Yes, it can be horrible being female. Because most women are loving and kind-hearted, they don’t complain and just get on with it for the good of the family! I am now telling you, it is not good self-defence to sacrifice personal integrity, self-esteem, dignity and happiness for altruism. You should never put up with anything that hurts you or feels wrong when you do it; because you will always live to regret it. Once you fall into a muddy ditch, it will be difficult to get yourself out, without getting dirty. This book will help make sure you do not fall in!

Most of the examples mentioned in the above paragraph, might not necessarily refer to the financially independent woman or one who lives alone; but don’t throw this book away just yet. It does not matter how wealthy, successful or ‘independent’ a woman is; because her problems could be worse. Ninety percent of women in the world are not self-sufficient and still depend on their husbands, boyfriends, fathers and lovers for financial or emotional support. A rich, controlling father is as bad, if not worse, than a boyfriend; because the threat to write her out of his will, can reign in the most rebellious female. The toughest financially independent woman will still have female instincts, which means she has a heart! The clever male or female in her life could take advantage of this and inflict the most horrendous mental rape on her that would make the physical rape seem like a walk in the park! Financial independence always leads to emotional dependence because the richer and more successful a woman is, the greater her emotional insecurities. She will always need someone she can trust and depend on, and it is that same person who could hurt her the most.

Some of you will be forgiven for asking the question, Defence against what? I am in control of my life! Who cares about anyone else? That could be true; but the few women who are in control of their lives, usually arrived there through bitter experience. I would hate for you to go through that as well. This book will help you avoid most of the pitfalls that can make your life hell; but more importantly, it will put you into a frame of mind that will allow you to enjoy your life and never be taken for granted, used and abused. The real self-defence is about defending you from the daily hassles in life. You know; men with groping arms; those with their brains between their legs; over-zealous con men; bag-snatchers; drunks in nightclubs; philandering husbands; calculating ‘friends’ pretending to help you with all your problems; troublesome teenagers etc. Never a dull moment being female! Every man thinks he is a brilliant lover and would like to prove it in the only way he knows how. What makes it funny is that some of them have such big potbellies and look so unhealthy and unfit that you must wonder what they are bragging about! They probably need a mirror, in order to see the instrument they intend to satisfy you with! This belief in their sexual prowess can make men behave in stupid and childish ways which can amuse and sometimes annoy the female. Sorry girls; I must apologise for my sex. Our brains are truly between our legs. This book is your chance to give it a good kick when we misbehave!

Don’t get me wrong; because not all men are like that. Some are polite and decent; but with a general lack of understanding of the female by most men, the so-called perfect man is a myth. Men always have a hidden agenda. They are usually nice to you, until they find they cannot get what they want from you; and then they will move on to their next prey. Married men who cannot easily move on, (because they are stuck with you by marriage and the kids) will sulk and behave like spoilt children, until you cave in to their selfish wishes. Just go shopping and you will notice the ‘polite’ shop assistant, who is more interested in you than selling you things and quickly acts like you don’t exist, when you refuse to give him your phone number. A female hitchhiker will have come across the lecherous rat, who stops to give her a lift and then insults her; dropping her by the wayside because she refused to go to that ‘nice hotel’ for a drink. The insults to the female integrity are numerous. While most women have their own ways of dealing with each situation, the cancer will never go away, so long as men continue to believe that a smile from a woman means more than it does, and a No! means Yes. This book is an attempt to defuse the war of the sexes with simple, sometimes humorous, sometimes emotionally violent ways of ‘letting him down gently’! In the end; there will be only one winner in your life...you!

I will try to deal with most of the mental and physical attacks experienced by the female population. I will also show you simple tactics against people who, more often than not, are friends of yours who just want to get friendlier. Most physical self-defence techniques will not work unless you have been practising them for many years. They may also be illegal; and that is why this book will not show any. If you want to learn the martial arts in the conventional sense, it would be better for you to join a club. I’m sure if you look hard enough, you will find some good ones around, which won’t deceive you. This book however, can be useful because you do not have to fight to defend yourself! It is to help you make sure the attack never takes place! Fight without fighting is how women can be at their most dangerous; but in order to succeed, a drastic change in her way of thinking might have to be made by some of the women reading this book. You only need to watch television or pick up the newspapers to be told of attacks made, not only in lonely places, but also in the cities and in private homes, to understand the need for knowledge of the real self-defence.

There is one basic principle in self-defence. You must use your most effective weapon, as quickly as you can, against the most vulnerable part of your opponent. This can be divided into three categories. Firstly, your most effective weapon is your female sense and intuition; through which you can avoid trouble before it is allowed to happen. If it doesn’t feel right...it isn’t right; and nobody should convince you otherwise. Women are intuitively clever at ‘feeling’ if something is wrong. How many times have you got dressed to go out, only to go back and change because the dress doesn’t ‘feel’ right? Everyone else seems to think the dress is nice, but nothing will make you go out in it. That is the feeling I am talking about; so respect it, and it will save your life! Always rely on your gut feminine instinct, which can never be wrong, simply because an instinct is based on who you are and will make you feel terrible, if you go against it. Believe me; if something is not right for whom you are, it will hit you like a ton of bricks and you should never go against it. Secondly, you need speed and timing, so that you act before it can happen; and if it does, knowing how to react quickly and effectively. Finally; you have to know the place to attack or counterattack your opponent, where it hurts most. In most cases, this will be first on his ego. If he does not get the message, the next step will be in the police station with the law firmly on your side, so that he does not think of trying anything on you again.

The real self-defence for women will not only teach you to avoid trouble, but will also show you what to do when trouble will not leave you alone. It will serve as a guideline for you to devise your own tactics and help you make the world a safer place for yourself. At the end of the day, it is your life; so love and defend it any way you can, because nobody will do it for you. A kick in the groin might work for you; while on another occasion, a few choice words, screams or tears will suffice in calming down and defeating the opponent. This can only happen, if he leaves you alone and will not bother you anymore. If you live in the States or Europe, you will obviously have to act differently than if you lived in a Third World country, where rights for women are still in their infancy. There are times you will travel, so your tactics may have to change slightly to suit the environment; but the end-result remains the same...your mental and physical self-preservation. I will try to show as much as I can in this book, bearing in mind that you do not have a high standard in the martial arts and you do not want to go through the many years of training required, in order to achieve it. The rest will be up to you!

If you are ever attacked, it is usually your responsibility, I am sorry to say. You see, with women more so than with men, an attack is usually coerced; which means she consciously or unconsciously attracts the attack. Not many men attack women without some sort of provocation. No man jumps on or attacks a woman on the streets for no good reason because he will feel the full force of the law! (Women probably have more to fear from random physical attacks from other females than they do from a male!) The attacker usually knows the woman, even though she may not remember ever coming across him. Failing to act on your suspicions of a man you felt uncomfortable with, to either a friend or the police, is why I insist it is usually your undoing! There are always subtle patterns and warning signs before any attack, and you have to train yourself to spot them before they are allowed to hurt you. Once you begin to understand and value your self-defence, they become easier to spot. If you are about to cross the road, you still look left then right and left again, even though it may seem safe enough to cross. That is what you were taught as a youngster and it has stuck with you ever since and become part of you. You are instinctively aware that if a car knocks you over, you will be seriously injured or may die! I want you to value yourself in the same way, so that protecting yourself becomes of the utmost importance; and nothing should detract you from that aim.

The real self-defence concerns a lot more things than you could ever imagine. It concerns your body; your property; your loved ones; your reputation; your integrity; your self-esteem; your dignity; your job; your country; and anything else you care about; which, were you to lose or damage, would drastically change your way of life and in some cases, make your life not worth living. If you ever feel your life is not worth living, it is as bad as, if not worse than, a physical beating. Physical violence could soon be a thing of the past because of the legal problems it would cause the attacker. Nobody wants to go to prison, so new ways have to be devised, in order to beat an opponent! If someone arranges for your house to be burgled; harms your children; dupes you of your hard-earned cash; spreads a vicious rumour against you; denigrates and insults you in public; causes you to lose your job; abuses your religion, ethnic origin or sexual proclivity; then he/she would have as good as beaten you up...without touching you! The main drastic change in your way of thinking has to be that with this new meaning of self-defence in mind, you have to take full responsibility for the things you care about and be ruthless in making sure you will not be intimidated or beaten. You would not allow someone to grab your hand and slowly break your fingers, without a fight; would you? In the same way, you should not let anyone steal your property; harm your family; damage your reputation; bully your integrity; trample on your self-esteem; mock your dignity; ridicule your job; affront your sexuality; disrespect your religion and ethnicity; or insult your country; because it hurts. Yes ladies...it sure hurts!

There are millions of beautiful, honest and upright women who go through their lives unmolested, simply because they know the A-Z of staying safe. There is no luck or bad luck in self-defence. You dig your own grave. The police in every country tell women what to do and what not to do in their area, with pamphlets and leaflets (don’t go out alone at night – make sure your doors are always locked – don’t get too drunk – don’t allow anyone into your house after a night out, if you have no intention of sleeping with him - etc.). Therefore, if after a night out she is raped, either at home or in a dark alley, why should she blame anyone but herself? Nobody forces drink onto you, so why would you want to get blindingly drunk? Blaming a man for raping you after the event isn’t much help to you, is it? You cannot expect the police to be everywhere at once just to look after you! If you take a job, don’t just look at the salary. Think! Weigh up all the pros and cons. On occasions, will you have to walk home alone at night? What precautions are you going to take? Etc. Treating self-defence as a lifestyle is the way to prevent unwanted attacks and molestations. Learning to fight properly may take too long and requires a discipline few women have the time for, so the only option is to plan each day like a military campaign and leave nothing to chance. Besides; fighting in public is so ungainly and unladylike isn’t it? Not so twenty-first century!

In this world, a lot of trouble can be avoided, if only you use your head. Basic common sense is all that is required. Being female, you still have the advantage of people rushing to your aid, if you are ever molested on the street. A scream, a few tears at the right moment or a report to the police station, can scare off most molesters on a busy street. You are female! Nobody will call you a coward, if you report someone to the police. However, I must stress again that it would be better to avoid trouble than be forced to act after it has happened. In a scenario where you cannot walk away from trouble, you will have to be smart and leave no stone unturned. Like a chameleon, a woman has to be able to blend in with her environment and the situation at hand. This means she has to know how, where, why and when to be intelligent; deliberately stupid; devious; cunning; clever; manipulative; strong; weak; slow; fast; compliant and sexy; in order to defend herself. She does not need to apologise for using what will work for her, in order to keep her safe. She has to learn how to swerve, bob and weave herself out of everyday situations without getting entangled. Above all; she must be true to herself and allow no one to upset her apple cart. That is the secret to the real self-defence for women only; and this book will show her how.

I will discuss many things, which might seem obvious to you because they are simple common sense advice. But you would be surprised at the number of (especially younger) women, who take life for granted and do not bother to follow, what the police call basic safety rules. Every woman is different; and it is no use pretending otherwise. I have therefore deliberately generalised in the following chapters because I know you are clever enough to realise which parts of this book concern you, and which parts don’t. By taking only what will work for you, you should easily be able to formulate your own self-defence strategy. If you add this recipe to what you already know, it will make you one helluva tough cookie to crack! You will also notice that I have repeated certain advice, several times in this book. Please don’t get bored because it is to make sure it sinks deep into your consciousness and becomes part of you. That way you will never forget it! (Look left, look right and look left again!) I have also used terms and language which some women might find offensive, rude, patronising or sexist. I apologise in advance, but I am not a diplomat and this book is not a fairground ride. It embodies some serious topics and drastic ways to deal with them! Bearing that in mind; you will notice that such language is only used to make a point and is nothing personal. A rapist about to rape a victim is going to think of and use derogatory language like bitch or whore on her.

The minute most men realise their partners are doing self-defence, there is a chuckle and a smile as if to say, Well it’s okay, so long as she doesn’t use it on me; and if she does, it won’t work anyway! Men on the whole don’t take female self-defence seriously and that is the reason for the title of this book. ‘Roar of the Tigress’ is my way of telling these men that deep inside every woman, is a tigress waiting to explode; and when she is angry, she will roar and bite back in ways one can never predict. For women only! was designed for two reasons: To make women feel they have something for themselves and to make men curious. When a man sees the title, he will wonder why it is ‘for women only’ and will definitely take a peek. What he will see in this book will not make comfortable reading for him. He will realise that behind that beautiful smile of yours lurks a determined female who will not be messed with. It is okay for you to join a gym or try to lose weight because he stands to benefit from the new-look, new shape and slimmer, healthier you. But