And the Trust Shall Set Us Free

By Dan Frye

This book and the author, Dan Frye, are passionately devoted to one purpose and one purpose only…to improve the quality of life for everyone. No matter where you are in your life journey at this moment in time, it is an absolute certainty that focusing on trust in all your relationships and endeavors will accelerate your path to happiness and success. Trust is the foundation for all things…love, friendship, leadership, professional success, self-improvement, and happiness. Inside this book, you will find three actionable strategies that you can implement today to improve the quality of your life. Before reading any other self-improvement book on any topic, please, please, please start right now focusing on unleashing the power of trust in everything that you do. And the trust shall set us free!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Page Publishing, Inc.
• Release date: Jan 7, 2022
• ISBN: 9781662461262

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And the Trust Shall Set Us Free

Dan Frye

Copyright © 2021 Dan Frye

All rights reserved

First Edition

PAGE PUBLISHING, INC.

Conneaut Lake, PA

First originally published by Page Publishing 2021

ISBN 978-1-6624-6125-5 (pbk)

ISBN 978-1-6624-6126-2 (digital)

Printed in the United States of America

Table of Contents

What Is Trust?

Two Critical Truths

The Building Block of Trust—Agape Love

Trust Is a Learned Behavior

The Evolution of the Community

Credibility and Trust

Success on Purpose—Building Habits That Become Culture

Trust Technique 1—Know Your Brand

Trust Technique 2—The Trust Bank Account

Trust Technique 3—Lead from Behind

Putting It All Together

Introduction

Countless books, videos, seminars, podcasts, and vlogs have been produced throughout history with the same purpose in mind…make our lives better…make ourselves better…make us happy. You may have looked at the title here and thought, Hey, another self-help course! If so, you are partially correct. During the next few hours, days, and weeks that we will spend together, my goal is to provide a foundation for every other self-help book or series that you will ever experience. I realize that is a bold statement and one that you don’t trust at this point. Well, to be clear, I hope to illuminate the value of trust in every aspect of your life to be a vehicle to success and happiness.

First, as with any concept or belief, I will have to convince you that trust is the foundation upon which all success and happiness are built. Once we are on the same wavelength, I will outline three distinct strategies to make trust a habit in your life…simply part of your culture of being. Along the way, I hope that we have fun discussing examples and concepts, and even if we don’t agree on everything, my sincerest hope is that you end this program feeling more prepared and empowered to be successful and happy in whatever life you choose for yourself.

My name is Dan Frye, and throughout my life, like you, I have been on a journey toward success and happiness. Like all journeys, it has had its twists and turns and a whole lotta life lessons, both good and not so good, along the way. I have always been goal-oriented and measure myself on how well I accomplish goals, either given to me or by me to myself. After fifty years, I look back on just how blessed I have been and how my hard work and focus have paid off. At this point in my life, I am at total peace with my life and absolutely love everything in it. I have a wonderful family who loves me and brings me joy every day. I play golf as much as I can to always remind me that I can always improve. I have a job that I love and have realized over the past few years that even if I could retire right now financially, I wouldn’t. I’m simply having too much fun. In no way do I want this to sound arrogant because, at the same time that I realize all these great things about my own life, I am also humbled by the thought that I don’t look at myself as having any special talents or skills that separate me from most people. I am not great at anything, and I definitely don’t think that I am better than anyone. I’m definitely not the most successful, not the most talented, not the smartest, not the most charitable, not the kindest, and not the most popular. But I am so, so happy and feel that my life has been an ultimate success so far, with much more to come.

How did that happen, you ask? Well, as I look back at my childhood through my formative years, into adulthood, and through to where I am today, there is one thing that I can say with certainty. I have always valued and prioritized trust in every situation and in every relationship. Without special talents and smarts to excel to the highest level in any particular area, my focus on trust must be the root cause of my happiness and perceived success in my life. By simply saying that and offering examples, ideas, and techniques throughout this program, I hope to expand my sphere of collaboration on the topic of trust. I hope that my experiences and ideas impact your life. I equally hope that they spark an environment where we can share ideas openly and expand on them together. While there are many vehicles to self-improvement out there to choose from, establishing trust as your most important value and habit will not only accelerate your growth to your own success and happiness, but it will also maximize the impact of any other self-help program you choose to complete. Trust is the foundation upon which everything else is built. I will repeat this many times because it is so true.

As I indicated, the rest of this program is divided into two main parts. The first part I will call the Come with me part. As I said, before you can move forward, you must buy in completely. So my first job is to convince you that trust is the foundation upon which everything else is built and show you that your success and happiness are accelerated exponentially with trust. The second part I will call the Help me help you, help me help you part. I will teach you three techniques that, if made a habit, will allow you to both recognize and build trust to your maximum potential. To be successful, this education must be interactive and creative, so I hope you are ready to actively participate in your own journey toward success and happiness. With that, let’s get started.

Chapter I

What Is Trust?

Webster says that trust is both a noun and a verb and is the firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something. I’d like to offer a deeper definition of the word as it defines our lives. Reliability, truth, ability, and strength are all subjective descriptions based on a person’s feelings and opinions. As much as trust is a feeling with different rules and manifestations for each person, trust is the confidence that two critical truths will be validated…that someone or something will make us happy and, at the same time, will validate our set of beliefs and values. And the level of trust is directionally proportional to the level of confidence. I guess if you are a glass is a half empty-type person, you could consider that one can also trust that someone or something will make them sad and not conform to one’s set of beliefs and values. Okay, you got me. But who wants to live in a world where trust is a negative thing? I sure don’t, so let’s ignore that side of the argument and focus on what will advance our lives and our society.

From an early age, we are all taught about love. Your parents say, I love you, and you are taught to love your family, including your dog Nugget or your cat Casey. You love macaroni and cheese and chocolate ice cream, and you definitely love snow days from school. Love is synonymous with so many emotions inside you, but what if I told you to think of love as a verb and not a feeling? I expect that many people would debate vigorously that I am wrong and that love is first and foremost a feeling that you have for someone or something. We have been trained and brainwashed to think so since birth, so I would probably lose the argument and lose a lot of readers of this book. So let me put it another way. What if I said that there was a feeling more important than love and the word that describes it is said more than a million times less a day around the world than love? What if this feeling was actually the foundation upon which all love is based? Yes, you guessed it. I’m talking about trust.

Trust is the foundation. Trust breaks down all barriers. It governs all our relationships. It is required before love can happen. True agape love is a verb, while trust is a feeling. Trust is required before political division can be resolved. It is required before any team can win. It is required before two people can love each other. It is required before learning can begin. Trust will drive global unity in the years to come. It will solve the identity crisis that is building in our culture. It bridges the divide between race, sex, culture, age, sexual orientation, marriage, and family. The purpose of this book is to teach real and specific techniques to elevate trust in your life and in the lives of those around you, even when surrounded by today’s changing world. You will learn how to consciously build trust with others and recognize trust in others to foster unity and community rather than division and isolation. Armed with simple strategies, you will improve your relationships and your entire outlook on the world.

If you can agree in principle that the meaning of life is happiness and the purpose of a community is to support each other and spread joy to others, then you must start with trust as the critical ingredient to a meaningful life. If you are ready for the ride in the coming chapters, we will discuss how to build and maintain trust to drive success and happiness throughout one’s entire life. The techniques explored in this book will provide a road map, but like most things, becoming an expert with trust requires focus and practice. There is no shortcut to greatness. Professional athletes, master chefs, successful entrepreneurs, and basically the elite in any walk of life achieve greatness through practice and hard work so that greatness is a habit. To be trustworthy and to inspire trust in others requires the same commitment and focus. It has to be a priority, maybe the priority, that drives you always. Throughout this book, you will be given three individual strategies that, if mastered, will drive success and happiness in your life and