Wounded Women but GOD Heals

By Suzanne Allen

In the midst of so much pain and wounds in the world today, of which women are not spared, is the voice of God, saying out loud, "Let me heal you." While some wounds and pains are the result of what others did to us, some are self-inflicted. However the wounds come, they will get healed if we are willing to be healed. Our wounds and pains don't bring God joy. He hates it when we are being verbally, psychologically, physically, mentally, or emotionally abused. He is so concerned about us. Hebrews 4:15 says, "For we do not have a High Priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses." God's will is for us to be in good health, be prosperous, and have a good relationship with him. It is almost impossible to go through life without having your moment of pain. What you do in such situations, how you react to those circumstances, matter. Will you, like some, resort to alcohol, sex, drugs, or other social vices to "ease" your pain? Or will you handle the pain the right way? This book will lead you to God's healing!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Christian Faith Publishing, Inc.
• Release date: Jan 3, 2020
• ISBN: 9781098003531

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Chapter 1

Identity

Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.

—2 Corinthians 5:17 (KJV)

One of the most significant challenges many of us have had to face is that of finding our true identity. We live our lives unsure of what we are doing right and what we are not doing right. We set standards for ourselves, and soon enough, we drop those standards for another set of standards, thinking they will bring the fulfillment we desire. Thereafter, we face the disappointment of finding out we still have not found out who we really are and who we need to be.

In discovering who we truly are, it is essential to realize there is a difference between what we do and who we are.

This means that I will not define myself by what I do. You can find yourself in a particular field, doing a specific thing, but that is not what defines you. You are not first of all a professor at a prestigious university; you are someone with an identity who lectures at a university. You are not first of a housewife catering for the needs of her husband and children.

Many times, in the hustle and bustle of our day-to-day activities, we experience dissatisfaction and unfulfillment because something seems to be wrong somewhere. We may not be able to place our finger on it at first, but gradually, we realize it borders around questioning our identity and whether or not what we are doing reflects who we really are. That is when we are faced with the question of who we really are. Of course, there are the obvious answers: we are women, daughters to our parents, wives to our husbands, and mothers to our children. The ones we are not so sure about are the not-so-obvious ones like How do I define myself? or What defines me really?

A lot of us have had to ask ourselves these questions at one point or the other. All may seem to be going well with us—no problems at work, no friction in the family, no unpaid bills or drowning debts looming—yet we still face the presence of that void. We go to bed feeling very mechanical because everything is going on fine, but the nagging question of Who am I really? remains.

Now it is essential I make clear at this point that your desire to know who you are should not get mixed up with what you do. You should not define yourself based on what you do. You should realize that you are before you do. Your identity comes to play before whatever you do. This is a very vital fact to note. That you are a professor lecturing at a university does not define you, and neither does being a full-time housewife. You are firstly defined by who you are before what you do.

You first need to realize who you are before focusing on what you do. Many times, when we discover who we are, it helps us decide what we want to do. When we do what we have to do with a conviction of knowing who we are, things become different. No longer are things mechanical. No longer is it just a daily routine. What we do begins to have meaning to us. We start to derive joy from them, not only temporary happiness but also long-lasting pleasure that comes with fulfilling a purpose.

Until you fully realize this, you will keep setting standards for yourself in the hope that you will attain fulfillment when you have reached those standards. Have you, at any point, made plans to do something and lived your life revolving that particular thing because you were sure you will be fulfilled when you do it, only for you to eventually get to that point and you are faced with the disappointment of not feeling the desired satisfaction? Usually, that comes with our lack of identity. We do not know who we are, so we assume we know what will bring us joy. Sometimes it could be what we have seen people around us achieve. Perhaps you have siblings who have also faced the identity problem but found themselves after attaining a particular feat, and you think the same would work for you. Like marriage, for example. Maybe a friend of yours claimed to have found herself after she met the man of her dreams, so you begin looking forward to finding your prince charming, hoping you will experience the same thing. Eventually, you find the man who’ll fit into that picture perfectly, but you realize that you still haven’t found the peace you were looking for. You think it is because you are not married yet, so when he pops the question, you jump at it. Now a year into the marriage, and you still have not found your sought-after peace.

Sometimes we resort to horoscopes and temperaments. We try to define ourselves the way horoscopes view us. We live our lives based on how it describes us. We conform ourselves to the weaknesses they say are peculiar to us and live with them. They tell us what our strengths are, and we capitalize on them. The same applies to temperaments. We closely follow what they say about us. We even justify our actions (negative ones) based on our temperaments, and instead of taking responsibility for our actions, we insist that it is our nature and we cannot help being that way.

Some people go years living in this lie, not realizing that these are just tools that divert our attention from helping us understand who we really are. As Christians, however, we cannot find our identity in such ephemeral things. They are too shallow to help define us. It is said that the manufacturer of a product is in the best position to talk about what the product is for. You do not just buy a product until you know what it is for.

While some products are elementary and straightforward to discover what they are meant for, some are more intricate and need a user manual to be adequately understood.

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