BEING ME! Exercises And Techniques Of Introspection And Self-Knowledge

By Pedro E. Moya García

A self-help manual with twenty exercises and techniques for introspection and self-knowledge in which you will find an enjoyable and simple way for your personality, identity and conscience to collaborate to solve your problems. The author is a licensed psychologist who also founded and presides over the Asociación Pro Bienestar Familiar De Villarrobledo. He is also the author of other publications, both self-help and psychosocial fiction.
The book follows the problem-solving procedure of D'Zurilla and Goldfried (1971) with the intention of increasing the person's knowledge about himself and facing the situations he considers problematic with large doses of self-esteem and coherence. Most of the exercises and techniques have been designed by the author himself, although some of them are quoted in the text by internationally renowned psychotherapists.
Translated by author.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Pedro E. Moya García
• Release date: Jul 31, 2022
• ISBN: 9798201723156

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Can You Be Happy?

There is a question that is all too often asked in the office of a psychotherapist like the one writing these lines. That question is none other than the one that gives the title to this section and which we have all asked ourselves at some time in our lives: Can one be happy? The answer must be found in our own convictions rather than waiting for others, professionals or not, to tell us whether or not it is possible to be fully happy and what must be done to achieve it.

I know that right now, what you've just read, it's a little confusing. Isn't this supposed to be a self-help book? If the book talks about happiness, you have to tell me that I can be happy and make it clear to me all I have to do, how and when I have to do it to get it. Well, NO! Grow up! Evolve!... But you do it on your own. I can say it a thousand different ways more, although I don't think I can be any clearer.

The answers are in you, in your way of thinking, in your way of facing life and the vicissitudes it brings. You are the one who must adapt to the circumstances and not the circumstances to you.

And you're still wondering why I'm telling you this so clearly and in such an unsubtle way. It's clear! You needed a dose of reality already: raw and hard.

There is a lot of experts in nothing and specialists in selling smoke as a panacea for all your ills, what do I say to your ills, to the ills of humanity since the dawn of time and per sécula seculorum. The self-help manuals have left aside the SELF-HELP to become a repertoire of almost magical recipes spat out by tawdry gurus who now call themselves coaches.

If you had taken advantage of that expensive education your parents and the government have provided you with, you would have realized that the correct translation is coach, not God, not expert, not professional, not savior, or anything else that some of these individuals believe they are.

Most of these coaches charge you what is not in the writings for applying a couple of motivational techniques wrapped in nice talk from the persuasion and neuro-linguistic programming they have seen in their week-long mini-course curriculum they have done over the Internet.

They have no idea how to treat a person who needs help, therapy in most cases, and are only interested in charging you and leaving you satisfied with the energy boost given by the motivational techniques they have been subjecting you to intensively in their practice, their conference or, and this is cooler and therefore much more expensive, in the weekend living together in which you have been and for which they have charged you more than if you had lived a week in the most expensive suite of the most expensive luxury hotel in the world.

Now you know what the big lie of coaching is: telling you that wanting is power and that's enough (motivation). Then you get caught up in reality and get the biggest shock of your life, time after time, because you still believe that the answer to whether you can be happy is in the hands of others. No one knows your life better than you, just as no one knows how the consequences of your actions and decisions affect you better than you do.

If you are still waiting for my answer to the initial question, or if you are not waiting because you are not interested, I will share it with you anyway. If you are in the second group, you can jump to the rest of the content of the book directly, otherwise, keep reading.

You can be fully happy for a reasonable period of time and as long as you are in that period you will not realize that you are happy. Just as a fish does not realize that it lives in water, people do not usually realize that they are happy when they are happy.

Usually, we realize how happy we were before we lost whatever it is we miss now. For this reason, and just as Karina sang, any time past seems better to us.

We tend to reconstruct memories of more or less pleasant experiences by eliminating everything that is unpleasant so that it is even more pleasant to remember.

For example, if you've just become independent and you miss the potato omelette your mother used