Summary of Merle Bombardieri's The Baby Decision

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#1 The Baby Decision is a map that will help you make a decision that’s right for you and your partner. It will guide you step by step to a decision that you can live with happily.

#2 The five pieces missing from the decision-making puzzle are how to discover secret resources for decision-making, how to make emotion and logic allies, how to use the new emotional awareness as a guidepost to growth, and how to focus on potential happiness.

#3 When we decide to have a child, we cut ourselves off from the freedom and other satisfactions of childfree living. When we decide to remain childfree, we must give up the intimacy and joys of parenting.

#4 The three growth decisions are to have a baby, to remain childfree, or to agonize over your decision to remain childfree. In contrast, the three safety decisions are to non-decide to have a baby, to non-decide to remain childfree, or to non-decide to agonize over your decision to remain childfree.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Jun 7, 2022
• ISBN: 9798822532984

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Insights on Merle Bombardieri's The Baby Decision

Contents

Insights from Chapter 1

Insights from Chapter 2

Insights from Chapter 3

Insights from Chapter 4

Insights from Chapter 5

Insights from Chapter 1

#1

The Baby Decision is a map that will help you make a decision that’s right for you and your partner. It will guide you step by step to a decision that you can live with happily.

#2

The five pieces missing from the decision-making puzzle are how to discover secret resources for decision-making, how to make emotion and logic allies, how to use the new emotional awareness as a guidepost to growth, and how to focus on potential happiness.

#3

When we decide to have a child, we cut ourselves off from the freedom and other satisfactions of childfree living. When we decide to remain childfree, we must give up the intimacy and joys of parenting.

#4

The three growth decisions are to have a baby, to remain childfree, or to agonize over your decision to remain childfree. In contrast, the three safety decisions are to non-decide to have a baby, to non-decide to remain childfree, or to non-decide to agonize over your decision to remain childfree.

#5

The decision to have children or not is one of the most important you will make in your life. It should not be made lightly, by default, or by blind adherence to custom. Only if you consider the childfree lifestyle a valid option can you be certain that a parenthood decision is a valid decision.

#6

You are entitled to make your own decisions, take into account your needs, values, goals, and personality, and base them on your potential happiness rather than a sense of obligation.

#7

The exercises in Chapter 2, Secret Doors, will help you make a decision. You must live into the questions, and consider yourself and your partner. You cannot make a decision if you are confused or conflicted, so try to be as honest as possible.

#8

The book’s subtitle is How to Make the Most Important Choice of Your Life. Ruling out parenthood is an important choice that frees your energy, time, and money for what matters most to you.

#9

The word childfree is problematic, as it implies that someone is anti-child. Some people who decide to remain childfree after infertility prefer the word childless, as it reflects their sense of loss better.

#10

If you are undergoing fertility treatment, you can use this book to consider which alternatives might meet your needs. For instance, if being a parent is more important to you than genetics or pregnancy, adoption could be a solution that puts an end to the stress of fertility treatment.

#11

The questions in this chapter are those most frequently asked by couples when they first consider