I Am Not the Cause of Your Problems

By D. Christina

You accomplish life goals, but your Aunt did not due to her failing to put in the work and now out of envy she blames you as to why she cannot accomplish any of her life goals. Your friend of 15+ years publicly disgraced himself, but turned around, and publicly erroneously blamed and defamed you for it. Many people are faced with being blamed for other people's shortcomings. Most of the problems that people face are caused by no other person but themselves. A lot of times it is easy to blame someone else for the cause of the problem rather than take responsibility for one's own actions. For some people it is easy to accept the blame if the blamer provides a compelling reason why their accusation is true and if the person being blamed is not confident enough to put up a strong defense against the accusation. I Am Not The Cause Of Your Problems serves to empower and encourage you when faced with situations of being falsely blamed for other people's problems by providing an understanding that you are not the cause for every problem that other people face and also how to remove yourself from such a situation. 

 

I Am Not The Cause Of Your Problems will help you to identify behaviors that try to deceive you into thinking you are the cause of other people's problems, to help you begin to stand up for yourself in such a situation, distance yourself from such a situation, recover from erroneously being blamed for other people's problems and to begin a life free from carrying other peoples weight around. You can gain the confidence to stand-up and firmly state: I am not the cause of your problems to anyone who tries to cast blame on you for their own problems.

• Language: English
• Publisher: D. Christina
• Release date: May 16, 2022
• ISBN: 9798201609368

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Introduction

You do not blame your shadow for the shape of your body: Just the same: Do not blame others for the shape of your experience.

-Gillian Duce

At dusk, a fisherman is returning home. The river is rather narrow. Suddenly, another boat is heading straight for him, getting closer and closer. He becomes agitated and begins to shout, Watch out! Turn!.

Nonetheless, the second boat collides with him. The fisherman becomes enraged and begins shouting louder and louder. Until he discovers no one is in command of the other ship. An empty boat collided with him. He is now much more unhappy since he has no one to blame.

Your life is full of stranded boats. And the majority of them are vacant. However, your mind distorts your perception. It begs you to locate the pilot. When things don't go as planned, you want to figure out who is to blame.

How do you react when unfavorable occurrences occur in your life? Do you have a suspect in mind? Or do you accept responsibility for what you can control?

Stop responding and pleading with people to compensate you for what they (supposedly) did to you. That is the essence of blaming. You will be able to stop pointing fingers after you have tamed your thoughts.

When something goes wrong, are you more inclined to own up to your faults or to blame