The 7 Causes of Caregiver Guilt: And 8 Stategies that Give Caregivers Emotional Freedom

By Peter Mangiola

Here is everything you need in one place regarding elder care. This resource provides Caregiving advice, tools and more. It covers all stages of senior care for elderly aging parents or spouses.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Worldwide Publishing Group
• Release date: Mar 5, 2015
• ISBN: 9781312933699

Peter Mangiola

Peter Mangiola combines the compassionate care of a registered nurse with the knowledge of a successful business owner. Mr. Mangiola has operated a senior care assistance program in New Jersey where he provided personalized health care and advice to seniors and their families. Peter Mangiola, a registered nurse, received his degree from The University of Pennsylvania School of Nursing in 1980, and since has served in Emergency, Recovery, Cardiac Care, and Electrophysiology departments, including three years as an Oncology Director and eight years as Charge Nurse for a cardiovascular nursing unit.

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The 7 Causes of Caregiver Guilt

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Table of Contents

Foreword

Introduction

What is Guilt?

Guilt is Not Always Bad

How Negative Guilt Controls Us

Dealing with Elder Care Guilt during the Holidays Part I: Anger

Dealing with Elder Care Guilt during the Holidays Part II: Frustration

Dealing with Elder Care Guilt during the Holidays Part III: Anxiety

Dealing with Elder Care Guilt during the Holidays Part IV: Fear

Dealing with Elder Care Guilt during the Holidays Part V: Lack of Information

Dealing with Elder Care Guilt during the Holidays Part VI: Burnout

Dealing with Elder Care Guilt during the Holidays Part VII: Isolation

8 Strategies for Freedom from Caregiver Guilt

Strategy 1: Identify

Strategy 2: Were your Actions Wrong?

Strategy 3: Address Legitimate Guilt

Strategy 4: Stop the Blame Game

Strategy 5: Let Go of the Past

Strategy 6: Stand your Ground

Strategy 7: Brace for Fallout

Strategy 8: Don’t Fall Back

Peter Mangiola, rn, msnThe Elder Heath Care Expert Serving New Jersey’s Greatest Generation

FOREWORD by Roseann Vanella, Founder of Family Affairs

"More than 65 million people, 29% of the U.S. population, provide care for a chronically ill, disabled or aged family member or friend during any given year and spend an average of 20 hours per week providing care for their loved one." National Alliance for Caregiving in collaboration with AARP; November 2009

Caregiving is something I have had both the fortune and misfortune of experiencing firsthand from the time I was a young girl. I grew up in a very Italian/American family. All of us lived on the same block, so to say we were close would be accurate. Parents, children, aunts, uncles, cousins grandparents and even great grandparents, were just a backyard away.

I consider myself both lucky and unlucky to have had both experiences.

It had a definite and direct impact in shaping my future in becoming a Professional Family Mediator and a Community Advocate for a global online community, being able to help families through these difficult life changes. It also gave me lifelong lessons on what caregiving truly is and how it can both be the hardest job in the world but yet the most rewarding. This is why I say that I have been both lucky and unlucky.

In order to find the rewarding part of caregiving, we have to go through a long period of suffering which may include confusion, self-doubt and guilt. When I was a young girl, there were no senior experts or much assistance in the aging arena. Someone with dementia or Alzheimer’s were simply said to be senile and families were left on what seemed to be a deserted island to simply try and figure it