Maximize Your Marriage: The Biblical Foundations for Marriage
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This is a book intended to assist couples in identifying what the Bible has to say about marriage. It is not intended to represent the opinions of the author, but simply to provide a structured and concise view of what the Bible has to say about marriage. Since God created marriage, He is clearly the one to know how best to live out married life to accomplish the purpose for which God created this institution. Most couples who have been exposed to this teaching have felt that their eyes were opened to Biblical truths that were previously unknown to them, or not discerned as applying to marriage. The purpose of the book is to strengthen current marriages (even mature ones) as well as better prepare young people entering into a committed relationship to help them start off on a strong and solid foundation of truth and understanding of the roles of a man and a woman in this wonderful institution ordered and blessed by God.
Donald Wikoff, M.D.
Don Wikoff, M.D. has been a urologist in Paris, Texas for 30 years and is a life-long Bible student who has been teaching a couples Bible study for more than 35 years. He has diligently searched the scriptures to identify every contribution that the Bible offers to explain the purpose and plan of God for this institution called marriage and was initially motivated because he was a victim of divorce more than 40 years ago.
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Maximize Your Marriage - Donald Wikoff, M.D.
CHAPTER ONE
To understand the foundations of Biblical marriage, one has to start with the institution of marriage, understand by whom it was instituted, and for what purpose. The characteristics of marriage as intended by God are described for us in the book of beginnings, the book of Genesis. So let us begin to cultivate our understanding of marriage by seeing what God had to say about marriage when He first instituted it in the Garden of Eden. As you probably know, Genesis is the first book of the Bible, and the first book of the Pentateuch. The Pentateuch is the first five books of the Bible as written by Moses. The foundations for all of our Christian beliefs are formed in the Pentateuch, particularly Genesis. Let us begin our search for understanding in Genesis 1:26–28, NIV.
26 Then God said, Let us make man in our image, in our likeness, and let them rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air, over the livestock, over all the earth, and over all the creatures that move along the ground.
27 So God created man in his own image,
in the image of God he created him;
male and female he created them.
28 God blessed them and said to them, Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and over every living creature that moves on the ground.
First, notice that it reads, Let us…,
so who is us? This is a plural pronoun, and is the first indication in the Bible of the trinity. We are given to understand in the rest of the Bible that the trinity is composed of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Thus, the collaborative decision was made in heaven to make man. And how was he to be made? In the image and likeness of the members of the trinity. To be made in their image and likeness means that we share the characteristics of all three. It means that we can be identified as coming from them because we bear their characteristics. Next, God, through Moses, shares the assignment for man. It is to rule. Rule over the whole of all living birds, fish, and animals. God then gave a directive that in addition to ruling, males and females were to utilize their sexuality to have children and to fill the earth with mankind. Man has seemed to do a pretty good job of this command, as there are now 7.5 billion people on the earth. So, in the Garden of Eden, in a place of utopia, God had a purpose for males and females, to be fruitful, to multiply, to fill, to subdue, and to rule. He gave more direction in Genesis 2:15.
Gen 2:15-16
15 The Lord God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it.
So man was given work to do! Yes, in the perfect environment, in fellowship with God, and living in a place of unspoiled beauty, God intended for man to work! This is before the fall, and it is evident that work was a privilege and a blessing as directed by God.
What does this have to do with marriage, you ask? The answer is that God gave Adam a task too big for him to manage by himself. God declares in Genesis 2:18:
Gen 2:18
18 The Lord God said, It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.
Was it not good for man to be alone because man was not created adequately? Was Adam somehow a flawed creation? Actually, God tells us in Genesis 1:31, the day he made man and woman, that not only was his creative effort that day good, it was the only day of the six days of creation which God ended by saying it was very good. So, no, Adam was not flawed as though his creation was lacking in some respect; rather, God was more proud of his creation of man and woman than he was of the rest of creation.
God has acknowledged that despite a world of different animals, of birds and sea creatures, Adam did not have a suitable companion. So God declared He would make a helper suitable for him. Notice the word, "helper."
Gen 2:20-21
But for Adam no suitable helper was found.
God therefore made woman, but He did so differently than he had all other living beings up to that point. Up to that point, every living thing had been created from the ground (soil) of the earth. Genesis 2:21–23 tells us this part of the story.
Gen 2:21–23
21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
23 The man said,
"This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man."
Notice that woman was not made from the ground (soil) of the earth, but was made from the man! This made woman unique among all of creation. And also notice that when God made woman from the body of the man, He did not make her from the head of Adam, as though to be the head of Adam; nor did He make her from the foot of Adam, as though she was made to be tread upon; but no, He made her from the side of Adam, from one of his ribs, that she might walk alongside him, that they might be equals. And what was God thinking when He made woman by creating Eve? Genesis 2:24 gives us the answer.
Gen 2:24
24 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.
Because God made woman from man and made her to be a helper, God intended that man would leave his father and mother and, becoming married, the man and the woman would become one. This tells us that you can’t choose your mother or your father, but you can choose your wife. God’s intent is that you will then become one. One in every way that she might become your suitable helper. God intends that this oneness includes all of what makes us human beings, what sets us apart from the entire rest of the created realm. And what does this oneness include? It includes emotionally, physically, spiritually, and intellectually! How do we know that? Because God revealed through His son, Jesus,