The Triple C Method®: Gain Clarity, Boost Confidence & Build Courage So You Can Live Life Lit!

By Ryan Spence

WARNING: This is not an 'inspirational' book. It is a total transformation toolkit.

Suck it up. Rise and grind. Think of the money.

No matter how big the salary, or how prestigious the name, living your life on someone else's terms is probably not how you envisioned spending 40+ hours of your week. Spoiler alert: if you've

• Language: English
• Publisher: Take Flight Publishing Ltd.
• Release date: Apr 26, 2022
• ISBN: 9781739722913

Ryan Spence

Ryan Spence is a life coach, author, and speaker, helping corporate professionals design a life that's Lit! A first-class law graduate of the University of London, Ryan's prestigious eleven-year career in BigLaw involved him in deals that won the Finance Deal of the Year at the 2018 Asia Legal Awards and the 2019 UN Global Impact Award. When Ryan realised that each rung of the corporate ladder he reached was taking him further from where he wanted to be, he took a leap of faith. Driven by his own experience of corporate life, Ryan has become a passionate leader in the business mindset sphere, coaching professionals to find their version of fulfilment, meaning and joy. Having resided in Singapore for seven years, Ryan now lives in Sheffield in the UK, with his wife and their two children.

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Preface

Do you have a long-standing dream of doing something bold and audacious? Maybe something that’s been on your bucket list for a while that scares and excites you in equal measure?

Writing a book has been a long-standing dream of mine. But it was always something I would do later when I had more time. So, like many people’s dreams, my ambition to become an author existed as more of a hopeful wish than an intentional goal.

So what changed?

I did. Or, more specifically, my mindset and attitude changed. See, what I discovered on my personal development quest is that time is relative. We all have the same amount of time in a day, and many of the things we say we want to do but don’t have time for, actually don’t need to take that long. To achieve anything you want, you need to convert it from a hopeful wish to a promise – a statement of intent. A commitment to yourself that you’ll get the thing done, no matter what life throws at you. In writing this book I refined this idea into a simple three-part framework for achieving your goals. It’s called the D.I.D. framework, which stands for Decide, Inscribe, Describe.

Decide what your goal is. Decide why you want to achieve that goal. Decide to become the type of person who achieves that goal.

Inscribe your goal. Write it down and place it somewhere you’ll see it every day like your office, your refrigerator, your bathroom mirror, or all three. The more you see your goal, the more embedded it becomes in your subconscious mind.

Describe your goal. Tell people what you’re trying to do and why you’re trying to do it. It’s a scary thought, particularly when you don’t have it all figured out yet, but there are three key reasons why telling people what you’re striving for will help push you towards achieving the thing that you want.

Reality. When you tell people about your goal, you speak it into existence. It becomes something real instead of a vague idea floating around in your head.

Accountability. If people know you’re up to something, they’re going to ask you about it. And when you know people are going to ask you how it’s going and how much progress you’ve made, you’re going to want to get shit done to avoid the embarrassment. (I know we shouldn’t care about other people’s opinions, but let’s face it, we all care a little.)

Support. When people know what you’re doing, they’re going to want to support you. It’s a lot easier to move forward when you have a squad supporting you, willing you to succeed and cheering you on from the sidelines.

Another thing I learned in writing this book is that achieving the goal isn’t really the point; it’s what you learn and who you become in the process of trying to achieve that goal that truly matters. Committing to the process, even when things aren’t going the way you’d like – even when, as in my case, you read the first draft of your first book and it makes you cry with how bad it is – is a masterclass in personal development that no course or book can prepare you for.

Because, as I’ll share with you in this book, what I’ve learned through my experiences of leaping into the unknown is that there’s no substitute for taking action. To find out who you are and what you’re capable of, you have to be prepared to step into the arena, leave behind the veil of comfort and security, and trust you have what you need to figure things out along the way.

There were times in writing this book when I wanted to stop writing. I felt it was too big a task to write a book and get it out into the world. That inner critic that we all have inside of us sowed seeds of self-doubt in my mind with questions like, Isn’t this just a waste of time? Do you think anybody actually wants to read this? C’mon, does the world really need another book on personal development?

You know what kept me going? It was the knowledge that the message included in this book needed to be heard. Too many people are living the life they think they should want, accepting that surviving, rather than thriving, is the natural order of things. That it’s just the way things are, the way things are meant to be, and you need to just suck it up buttercup.

But I want to change that. I want you to see there is another way. I want this book to reignite that flame of desire inside of you that was snuffed out by the lethargy experienced when you spend your life going through the motions and living someone else’s idea of what your life should be.

This book is inspired by everyone who decided to take back control and live life on their own terms. By the end of this book, my wish is that you become a member of that illustrious crowd.

Introduction

Lethargy to Lit!

Every day I sit here, I feel like my soul is being sucked out of me.

I would often say this to a colleague during my last couple of years in BigLaw.

To anyone looking at my life from the outside back then, I was living the dream. Here I was, a man from a council estate in Nottingham, England, whose dreams of pop stardom hadn’t worked out the way he’d hoped they would. Who’d failed numerous exams, been fired a couple of times and dropped out of university because he didn’t see the point. A man who had once been so broke he walked the streets of London in the pouring rain searching for an ATM that would dispense the five British pounds he needed to pay rent that night. That man had flipped the script and ended up as a BigLaw lawyer at an international law firm with his own office in a building that boasted enviable views across Singapore’s Marina Bay.

For the uninitiated, BigLaw is a term used to describe the largest, most successful law firms in the world. The firms that take up residence in tall towers of glass and steel. The firms that have offices in multiple jurisdictions housing thousands of highly qualified, super talented lawyers. The term BigLaw relates as much to the financial size of a firm as it does to its physical size. It relates to a certain type of culture, an attitude, a traditional way of doing things. A typical lawyer in BigLaw works long hours in exchange for a high salary and the hope that one day they’ll join the illustrious ranks of the partnership and reap the financial rewards and personal prestige such an honour can bring.

That’s the glossy picture postcard version.

But if you scratch away the glossy veneer, you’ll find a version of BigLaw that doesn’t appear in any marketing brochure. A world where for that high salary you’re expected to kiss goodbye to any control over your personal time. A world where holidays and weekends can be, and often are, cancelled or interrupted at a moment’s notice. A world where sleeping with your phone under your pillow so you don’t miss an email isn’t an exception but the norm. A world where your needs are secondary to