Summary of Daniel J. Siegel & Mary Hartzell's Parenting from the Inside Out

By IRB Media

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.

Book Preview: #1 When we become parents, we bring with us issues from our past that influence the way we parent our children. These issues can easily get triggered in the parent-child relationship, and our responses toward our children can be strong emotional reactions, impulsive behaviors, or distortions in our perceptions.

#2 I had similar experiences as a parent, and found that I dreaded taking my sons to the shoe store because it meant that I would have to take them to the shoe store. I would always end up in emotional conflict about shoes.

#3 Unresolved issues are similar to leftover issues, but they are more extreme and involve a more disorganizing influence on both our internal lives and our interpersonal relationships. They are often the root of unresolved conditions.

#4 I used to feel a strange sensation when my son was an infant and he would be inconsolable in his crying. I would become terrified and impatient, instead of being calm and patient. I thought about the possibility that I had been allowed to cry for long periods in my own infancy, but I couldn’t recall this consciously.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Mar 16, 2022
• ISBN: 9781669363736

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Insights on Daniel J. Siegel & Mary Hartzell's Parenting from the Inside Out

Contents

Insights from Chapter 1

Insights from Chapter 2

Insights from Chapter 3

Insights from Chapter 4

Insights from Chapter 5

Insights from Chapter 6

Insights from Chapter 7

Insights from Chapter 8

Insights from Chapter 9

Insights from Chapter 10

Insights from Chapter 11

Insights from Chapter 1

#1

When we become parents, we bring with us issues from our past that influence the way we parent our children. These issues can easily get triggered in the parent-child relationship, and our responses toward our children can be strong emotional reactions, impulsive behaviors, or distortions in our perceptions.

#2

I had similar experiences as a parent, and found that I dreaded taking my sons to the shoe store because it meant that I would have to take them to the shoe store. I would always end up in emotional conflict about shoes.

#3

Unresolved issues are similar to leftover issues, but they are more extreme and involve a more disorganizing influence on both our internal lives and our interpersonal relationships. They are often the root of unresolved conditions.

#4

I used to feel a strange sensation when my son was an infant and he would be inconsolable in his crying. I would become terrified and impatient, instead of being calm and patient. I thought about the possibility that I had been allowed to cry for long periods in my own infancy, but I couldn’t recall this consciously.

#5

The memory of working with inconsolably crying children as a pediatric intern was not a flashback, but it did bring up memories of the panic I felt working with those kids. I had never processed that experience in a way that made it available for later retrieval.

#6

The author’s experience as an intern was so intense that it left him with feelings of helplessness and vulnerability. He was able to understand himself and his emotions, and he was able to see how his intolerance for helplessness led to hostile responses towards his son.

#7

The study of memory reveals that the brain can respond to experience by altering the connections among its neurons. These connections constitute the structure of the brain, and they are believed to be a powerful way in which the brain comes to remember experience.

#8

The human brain develops and changes throughout our lives. The hippocampus, which is responsible for the first form of memory, explicit memory, develops around the second birthday. The prefrontal cortex, which is important for autobiographical memory, self-awareness, and response flexibility, develops around the second birthday.

#9

The brain encodes memory, and to resolve an issue, you must bring resolution