Parenting Siblings: Guidebook for all Parents and Families who are Expecting new Brothers and Sisters – Bringing up Children as a Team, Without Conflict or Jealousy
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Parenting Siblings – Guidebook for all parents and families who are expecting new brothers and sisters – Bringing up children as a team, without conflict or jealousy
Wouldn't it be great, if your children could get along with each other like friends, without conflict or jealousy? If they could build a team and deal with everything together? If you already know, before they are born, that you can do that?
When the family increases, and there is a new sibling in the family, this means changes for all family members. This particularly affects our children. Because they are young, they are possibly about to have the first crisis in their lives as a result of the new arrival.
This book will help you to manage these changes in the best way possible. It will explain what sibling relationships are based on, why siblings quarrel and what you can do about it. How can you avoid the sibling crisis? How does the family constellation change? How do you include your older child, right from the beginning? How do you avoid the classic pitfalls? These questions, and many more, will be explained fully in this book.
About the Author of this book, Johanna Burgstein:
Ever since she studied pedagogy (educational science) more than 10 years ago, she has been addressing subjects related to parenting children. In addition to her main work as a family counsellor, she has been writing an increasing number of papers on these subjects, which is taking up more and more of her time.
In her books, she is particularly interested in subjects where she does not only talk about basic knowledge and theoretical findings, but where she can also share her own experiences. These are not solely experiences from her counselling work, but also include many examples of experiences with her own children.
Read about fascinating background information, scientific findings, experience reports and secret tips, which are tailor-made for you to deal with the upbringing of your children and how to make siblings partners for life.
Get your copy of this book today and discover ...
... What constitutes a sibling relationship
... How siblings are best parented
... How siblings can live together harmoniously and without conflict.
Content of this book:
Preface
Siblings – what there is to know about them
Sibling rivalry versus family harmony
Sibling crisis involving the first-born
The family is changing
Breast feeding – Tandem breastfeeding
"That is MINE!" – The problem with sharing
Non-violent communication
In conclusion – a summary of my tips
Conclusion
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Parenting Siblings - Johanna Burgstein
Parenting Siblings
Guidebook for all parents and families who are expecting new brothers and sisters
Bringing up children as a team, without conflict or jealousy
©2020, Johanna Burgstein
Expertengruppe Verlag
The contents of this book have been written with great care. However, we cannot guarantee the accuracy, comprehensiveness and topicality of the subject matter. The contents of the book represent the personal experiences and opinions of the author. No legal responsibility or liability will be accepted for damages caused by counter-productive practices or errors of the reader. There is also no guarantee of success. The author, therefore, does not accept responsibility for lack of success, using the methods described in this book.
All information contained herein is purely for information purposes. It does not represent a recommendation or application of the methods mentioned within. This book does not purport to be complete, nor can the topicality and accuracy of the book be guaranteed. This book in no way replaces the competent recommendations of, or care given by a doctor. The author and publisher do not take responsibility for inconvenience or damages caused by use of the information contained herein.
Parenting Siblings
Guidebook for all parents and families who are expecting new brothers and sisters
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Bringing up children as a team, without conflict or jealousy
Publisher: Expertengruppe Verlag
CONTENTS
About the Author
Preface
Siblings – what there is to know about them
Sibling relationships in the past and today
Sibling constellations
Siblings
Only
children
Twins
Sibling order of birth
First-born child
The sandwich child
The baby of the family
Step-siblings
Step-siblings in younger step-families
Step-siblings in existing step-families
Step-siblings in older step-families
Sibling rivalry versus family harmony
Competitive thinking between siblings
Why does conflict occur? What is the purpose of conflict?
What are the common reasons for conflict between siblings?
How children quarrel
What children learn through conflict
Apologising
What can I do?
Tips for improving family harmony
Sibling crisis involving the first-born
The dethronement trauma
Understanding different types of behaviour
Hitting, biting and fighting
Regressing to being a baby again
Whining
Provocation
Withdrawal
The family is changing
Planning A family – Is there a perfect age gap?
9 to 12 Months
12 to 18 Months
2 Years
3 years and more
Pregnancy
When do we tell our child?
7 Tips during the pregnancy
The Birth
Childcare
New sibling at home
5 Tips for getting used to the time at home after the birth.
Breast feeding – Tandem breastfeeding
10 Questions about tandem breastfeeding
Long-term breastfeeding and tandem breastfeeding – a taboo in our society?
That is MINE!
– The problem with sharing
Recognising our own self-awareness
What happens when we force our children to share?
What can you do?
Respecting property
Speaking about feelings
Being an example
Non-violent communication
What should you avoid?
The 4 steps
Step 1: Observations
Step 2: Feelings
Step 3: Needs
Step 4: Requests
How can I react to my child in an empathetic way?
Exercise of Power
NVC in everyday life
In conclusion – a summary of my tips
Tips how to deal with your child after the arrival of a new sibling
Additional tips to use in case of conflict between older siblings
Conclusion
Did you enjoy my book?
Book Recommendations
Source References
Disclaimer
About the Author
Johanna Burgstein lives with her husband, Stefan, and her two children Ben (6) and Lena (8) in beautiful Rhineland.
Ever since she studied pedagogy (educational science) more than 10 years ago, she has been addressing subjects related to parenting children. In addition to her main work as a family counsellor, she has been writing an increasing number of papers on these subjects, which is taking up more and more of her time.
In her books, she is particularly interested in subjects where she does not only talk about basic knowledge and theoretical findings, but where she can also share her own experiences. These are not solely experiences from her counselling work, but also include many examples of experiences with her own children.
Every one of her publications, therefore, has its essential scientific basis but is also the result of her own knowledge and experience. With this in mind, she is able to create practical guidebooks, containing a wide range of knowledge and useful tips, which are easy to understand and put into practice.
Johanna Burgstein's easy to read work puts the reader into a relaxed and pleasant ambience, while gaining insight into a subject which most people know something about, but where structure and an experienced analysis has not been available.
Preface
Siblings, that magical band that is impossible to separate. From the first moment, they are bound together for the rest of their lives.
When the family increases in size and a new sibling arrives, this brings changes for all members of the family. It particularly affects our children. If they are young, they are perhaps about to enter the first crisis in their lives.
Our older daughter, Lena, was two years old when her younger brother, Ben, was born. From my studies, I was aware of the subject dethronement trauma
. Theory is very different from practice when it affects you, personally.
At the beginning with both my children, I found it to be a huge challenge. Lena found it extremely difficult to cope with the change. She showed this by pointedly provoking us and she directed her rage occasionally towards her younger brother. Sometimes we just did not know what to do. Our nights were short, our energy was at its limit and the situation was not going to improve anytime soon. We had so much hoped that our children would become inseparable.
Even though I had studied much about this subject during my training, I wanted to find out much more about it during this time. I wanted to understand why my daughter was behaving as she did. I recognised what I had not seen before and began to focus more on her needs. Indeed, the situation between the siblings really did improve. Lena seemed to understand, that her brother was not taking anything away from her and she began to feel happier and more understood. In time, her relationship towards her brother became less tense and she developed loving feelings towards him.
This made me realise how important it is to be sensitive towards your children and to try and understand what they need from us. I would like to share this experience, together with my background knowledge, with all mothers and fathers who have, or will have, more than one child.
One central aspect, which helped me immensely, was tandem breastfeeding. Because I allowed Lena to continue with breastfeeding at the same time as her brother, I had the feeling that she understood that she did not have to give up anything, but that there was enough for both of them. I am convinced that the bonds which were formed at that time strengthened their relationship.
As parents, we often do not understand why there are continual arguments. Just as I would be coming out of the children's bedroom, I could hear Lena ranting at her brother, who would promptly start to cry. I would count silently to 10 and then I would hear the cry Mama
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