Don't Give A Fuck: An ironic way of looking at your problems

By Arilson Santos

In this book we will talk about the 'S' moment of shit that happens in our lives with an ironic approach, we will discover how suffering is the best trigger to become a productive person. You will discover that everything is relative, even your own stupidity. If you have depression or any psychological illness, this will be the best medicine for you.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Bibliomundi
• Release date: Jun 30, 2022
• ISBN: 9781526055576

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Summary

Title page

PART I: YOU ARE SHIT

Give It Up

Be Carefull With Your Mind

Morphy's Law

Don't Give A Fuck

The Neighbor's Grass Is Always Greener

Get Rid Of Your Addictions

Love Is A Plage

PART II: SUICIDE IS NOT THE SOLUTION

Your Mind Is Playing A Trick

Fight To The Death

Life Teaches You The Hard Way

Be A Friend Of Loneliness

Be Bold

Reality Shock

The Meaning Of Life

Motivational Lie

Hell Is Full Of Good People

I'm With You

Acknowledgment

Part I: You Are Shit .

If you are looking for a self-help book, this is not the book for you. Many times we live in na automatic way without realizing it, and to connect to that world we either motivate ourselves by looking for things that give us pleasure, be it alcohol, drugs, or that favorite video game of yours.

  Shielding your mind against problems or burdens that you carry throughout your life is not an easy thing to do, but here we will talk about people who have a great control over tragedies that happened in their lives. Only we will not address the fact of their victories, we will focus on the S moment of shit that happened in their lives

Give it up

      If you are a sensitive person you will probably have a hard time following some of these tips. Quitting is always the easiest choice we make, start a workout at the gym and it’s not working out, try that dream college and you can’t pass the test, start a business that doesn’t turn a profit in the first few months, quit. This happens for a simple reason, you are a suck who can’t think and risk long-term plans and wants everything now or as fast as possible. No, it is not like that.

      For example, if you don’t like math or you are not very good with calculus, maybe you shouldn’t be a teacher, but if you dedicate a year to study basic math to evolve little by little you can get good at exact and even become a teacher. In other words, you are wrong again, you didn’t give up because you are not good with calculus, but because you didn’t think about the long-term possibility of evolving in this study.

Albert Einstein was not good at physics when he was in school, he even got low grades. So you too can become a genius, can you? But of course not, all this is a famous motivational lie, the kind of thing that we will eliminate from your life, everything is relative, even your stupidity.

      Motivational lies are those situations that great people in our history have lived that motivate us to believe that we can do the same. But what you need to know is that there is no one in our history who did something so that you were inspired by them to achieve something, they were inspired by themselves.

  We have the habit of planning a lot of things at the beginning of a new year to make more effort to be productive, and what do you really do. Of course nothing, most of what we plan we don’t even start and next year we’ll do the same thing again, but giving up becomes a routine of your own failure, and facing it head on is the best way to change your thinking. A person who can’t make his own bed doesn’t have the capacity to make his own life.

Be carefull with your Mind

        The Stoics had a mental routine to give meaning to our suffering, whatever it may be, they teach you to learn to smile when a wonderful misfortune happens in your life. Stoicism was a philosophy born in ancient Greece and Rome, it had the habit of teaching people to remain calm and brave in the face of the greatest pain and anguish. In the morning the Stoics perform a meditation, to anticipate all the dreadful things that might happen in the hours ahead. For some people suicide is the solution, something extreme and brutal in our minds, the only thing they want is to get rid of that pain, you may be thinking, but my mind is not the problem, I don’t suffer from it. Well, if you have low self-esteem or you worry about what others think of you or you can’t control your emotions when that person you loved so much betrayed you, then you are wrong to think.

How The hell can negative things be my starting point, whenever we have a new problem it seems that everything around us will go wrong. There is a law of Marphy that says that if something can go wrong it will, and in the worst possible way. This is not good because it seems that everything will always go wrong no matter how hard you try.

People usually prepare for good things but they never prepare for when something goes wrong. For example you go to a concert of your dreams in a month you buy new clothes, arrange to see your friends there but the concert is in a month. Think fool, if something bad happens today you will have mental control to support it, I don’t think so.

      We find it very difficult to face loneliness, being alone with ourselves can be difficult for most people. Some can feel the pleasure of being alone with themselves. I don’t know when you will be reading this book, but in the year 2020 a pandemic made the world isolated and even with so much technology people felt alone. And that was a good experience for millions of people around the world because they were not prepared for that, and how to face that, how to see it from another angle by changing your way of thinking.

  When we lie down at night just before we go to sleep, we do something extremely pointless, which is to fantasize about things that are not going to happen. Whether it’s the girl of your dreams, winning the lottery, or being in the wonderful world of Harry Potter, but it’s not going to happen is just your brain seeing what an idiot you are every night before you go to sleep.

      All right, maybe you’re not really enjoying everything you’ve read so far. And that’s the idea, a person who cares about you never tells you only what you want to hear or what pleases you, but rather the naked reality, not that I care about you, of course.

Danilo Gentili comedian and host of the talk show The Noite, before being known had a horrible experience, one night he woke up with the screams of his father, he was having a heart attack and ended up dying in his arms, the pillar that supports his home has just left this for the better.

      Danilo was only 18 years old, unemployed and totally fucked in life, and being a Christian after this moment in his life the first thing that came to his mind was, in everything give thanks Thessalonians 5:18, but after 6 months his sister ended up dying on her first day of work.  A car with 6 people flipped over and she was the only one who died, and with all this burden to carry, her big pillar was in all things be thankful.

We hear a heavy joke and think this guy is clueless. But sometimes in the tragedy of life it’s good to face things in a certain way, it would be comical if it wasn’t tragic, Danilo Gentili didn’t surrender to the pains of his destiny, he didn’t stop on his way and say, that’s it, that’s the end.

      Many times when we hear stories like Danilo’s, our famous existential crisis seems insignificant. Of course it’s not easy, life is fucked, and in the worst possible sense, is it really possible that after facing your problems you can be grateful for life as Danilo was grateful for his suffering?

Morphy’s Law

      Morphy’s law says that if something can go wrong, it will go wrong in the worst possible way. And this is terrible, because everything we do has this possibility. Are you a very anxious person? Do you think too much about your problems, if so you should face this as a big shock of reality. We are all the time thinking about the future, our bills, a better