The Guide to Emotional Intelligence and Active Listening for More Satisfying Relationships

By Paul J. Godbless

Discover the incredible power of your emotions and how to manage them to improve every aspect of your life!

Have you ever thought about how much your emotions influence your relationships? Whether it’s in the business world, romance, friendship, or family, many of the problems we face every day stem from a wrong way of thinking and managing our emotions in critical situations. But here’s some good news: there is a simple solution that is within reach for everyone!

Introducing “Emotional Intelligence: The Key to Serene and Rewarding Relationships”. In this extraordinary book, you will learn:

1. Understand why you react impulsively in critical situations

Yes, those moments when it feels like you just can’t control yourself. You will discover how to identify what triggers your emotional reaction and how to best manage these moments of stress and conflict without causing irreversible damage.

2. Improve your relationships with friends, partners, and colleagues

Recognizing and embracing emotions will allow you to establish deeper connections with others. You will learn to better understand the people around you, creating stronger and more lasting bonds.

3. Develop greater self-awareness

The key to genuine personal growth lies in self-knowledge. This book will guide you through the process of discovering your emotions, helping you increase your self-awareness and achieve better self-realization.

But that’s not all! With “Emotional Intelligence,” you will also discover:

Practical exercises to improve your emotional intelligence: ten exercises that will train your ability to effectively manage emotions and develop a more cohesive and productive team.

Secrets of active listening: learn how to communicate more effectively by enhancing your active listening skills. You will discover how to overcome barriers that hinder authentic and deep communication.

Tips for smooth conversations: if you struggle to talk to others, you will find valuable suggestions to overcome these challenges and establish meaningful connections with the people you encounter.

Furthermore, inside the book, you will find a useful glossary of emotions and human needs. This tool will help you achieve the perfect emotional balance and live a life full of personal fulfillment.

Don’t miss this opportunity to drastically transform your life! Take control of your emotions today. Purchase “Emotional Intelligence: The Key to Serene and Rewarding Relationships” and discover how to create more serene relationships, communicate effectively, and achieve the personal and professional success you deserve!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Arcadia Publishing
• Release date: Feb 15, 2022

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Paul J. Godbless

The Guide to Emotional Intelligence and Active Listening for More Satisfying Relationships

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Contents

Dedication

Introduction to emotional intelligence

Three main definitions

The Emotional Brain

Why do we act emotionally?

What is emotional hijacking?

How to strengthen your emotional intelligence and increase your IQ

Strategies for self-awareness

How to become socially aware

How to manage your relationships

10 exercises to strengthen your team’s emotional intelligence

Final thoughts

Selected Chapters of Active Listening

Improve your active listening skills

Common barriers to active listening

Selected chapters of Communication and Relations

Can you recommend daily exercises I can do to improve my charisma and be more confident?

What does a good conversation consist of?

What to do when you have difficulty talking to people?

Glossary of emotions and human needs

Dedication

To all sensitive beings, like me.

Introduction to emotional intelligence

In general terms, emotional intelligence (EI) refers to the ability to perceive, control, and evaluate emotions, your own and those of other people.

Emotional intelligence is a relatively new area of study. Its earliest roots can be traced back to Darwin’s work on the importance of emotional expression for survival.

In the 1900s, the question of intelligence was discussed primarily in terms of cognitive aspects such as memory and problem solving, although several influential researchers began to recognize the importance of non-cognitive aspects.

In 1920, E. L. Thorndike used the term social intelligence to describe the ability to understand and manage other people.

The term emotional intelligence is usually attributed to Wayne Payne’s 1985 doctoral dissertation, A Study of Emotion: Developing Emotional Intelligence, but mainstream media interest wasn’t really sparked until 1995 after a Time magazine article on Daniel Goleman’s bestseller, Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ.

Peter Salovey and John D. Mayer have been the leading researchers on emotional intelligence since those days, and they define emotional intelligence as the subset of social intelligence that involves the ability to monitor one’s own and others’ feelings and emotions, to discriminate and use this information to guide one’s thinking and actions.

There are currently several proposed models for defining EI, and researchers still disagree on how the term should be used. Some think that emotional intelligence can be learned and therefore enhanced, while others say that it is something innate. This field of study is growing so fast that researchers are constantly changing their definitions as well.

Three main definitions

Ability models EI

Mixed models of EI

EI stretch model

Skill Models EI - This is the ability to perceive emotions, integrate emotions to facilitate thinking, understand emotions, and regulate emotions to promote personal growth.

Perceiving emotions means being able to identify and decipher emotions in faces, images, voices, and cultural artifacts. This represents a fundamental aspect of emotional intelligence, as it creates the opportunity for all other processing to obtain emotional information.

Using emotions is the ability to apply emotions to cognitive activities such as thinking and problem solving. This allows the emotionally intelligent person to use their moods to better manage their lives.

Understanding emotions is how we interpret the language of emotions and thus be better able to handle complicated emotional relationships.

Managing emotions is how we regulate our own emotions and those of other people in order to achieve optimal results.

Mixed Models of EI - This is the model introduced by Daniel Goleman that defines EI as a broad range of competencies and skills that drive leadership performance. There are four main principles:

Self-awareness is the ability to understand one’s emotions, recognize their impact, and use them to make decisions.

Self-management involves controlling one’s emotions and impulses and adapting to circumstances.

Social awareness is the ability to perceive, understand, and react to the emotions of others within social situations.

Relationship management is the ability to inspire, influence and connect with others and to manage conflict.

Trait EI Model - Trait EI is a constellation of emotion-related self-perceptions located at lower levels of personality. Trait