Families, Please Talk Today!: Necessary Household Discussions

By Bruce D. Hugg

The family is the most precious gift granted to mankind. Verbal expression is key to the manifestation of familial enjoyment and contentment. When we genuinely listen to our loved ones’ heartfelt convictions and convey our innermost concerns to them, we accurately and powerfully grasp the soul’s essence of each family member. This is the beginning of love—the foundation of the family.

In an inspirational guide shared to restore the marvelous treasure of the family unit, Bruce Hugg relies on his faith and personal experiences to offer a powerful message about the value of heartfelt communication. Hugg encourages family members to explore and discuss his four chosen topics in order to obtain true unity and peace within the household. Through his guidance, others will learn how to answer the questions, “What am I, and Who am I?,” why we must earnestly aspire to live honestly and in the reality of love, why we must vigorously strive to understand others spiritually, and how we can avoid temptations of the flesh.

Families, Please Talk Today! offers step-by-step guidance that encourages families to conduct candid, faith-driven discussions to help reinforce the family foundation with love, trust, and righteousness.

• Language: English
• Publisher: WestBow Press
• Release date: Jan 12, 2022
• ISBN: 9781664252981

Bruce D. Hugg

Bruce D. Hugg knows what a precious gift family is. After watching the decline of family life over the past forty years, Hugg decided to write this book to uplift and preserve the blessed structure that is the united household to help engender sincere peace, security, and joy in the hearts and minds of each family member. Families, Please Talk Today! is Hugg’s second book.

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WestBow Press rev. date: 1/11/2022

Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1 You Are an Example

Chapter 2 I Love You

Chapter 3 Personal Pronouns

Chapter 4 Sexual Intercourse

Conclusion

Notes

About the Author

Introduction

Over the past forty years, family life has all but disappeared. You know this. I know this. When was the last time you and your immediate family sat around the kitchen table for dinner? Do you even possess a memory of you as a child sitting with your family unit for supper? Unfortunately, the answer for most of you is, No.

Sadly, this has been the case for the vast majority of humanity during the last four decades. This truth is remarkably disheartening indeed. What has happened? Why has the certain constant of the household dissolved so quickly? Why has essential family time vanished into oblivion?

This staple of familial life did not dissipate over an extended period. In the blink of an eye, it simply ceased to exist. For those of you who are unfamiliar with the concept of family dinner, let me share its meaning and importance with you. An actual time of day was set aside for both parents and their children to convene in the home and jointly partake of a meal. Odd as it may sound, this was the one time of the day when we remembered or we were forced to acknowledge that we were part of a family.

Sure enough, there sat my dad in his usual spot. Hi, Mom, I said. Hey, my sisters are alive, I thought. We were all present. This occurred faithfully each and every day. We had to act and speak politely at the table: Pass the butter, please. Mom, may I have more gravy?

We were taught to mind our manners. Can you believe that? Just as a quick aside, where are the manners in youngsters today? We were not allowed to slouch. We were instructed to always sit upright and use proper etiquette as we ate. Obviously, we could not chew our food with our mouths open. Smacking our lips was wrong. Slurping our drinks was certainly discouraged and immediately corrected.

Our parents inquired about our days. How was your day? Where did you go? What did you learn? How are your friends? Did you do anything wrong today? Did you live righteously today? They aided us in our shortcomings. They helped us prepare to do better tomorrow. They praised us for living uprightly. They encouraged us to be our best in all areas of our lives.

Our family communicated both individually and as a whole. We talked to each other. Can you imagine that? We knew one another’s failures and hardships as well as our successes and happiness. We as a family were intimately involved in one another’s lives while we gathered together at that particular time each day. We truly got to know one another more. Plus, we were blessed to fill our bellies with good food.

Believe it or not, this was also a time for family devotions, which is quite a novel concept in our world today. Yes, we read the Bible and prayed together as a family at the dinner table. We not only did that but also discussed the passage that was read. We applied it to our personal lives as well. We grew spiritually both together and personally.

One might think when reading this that we must have been quietly seated as a family for several hours at dinnertime to accomplish so much. The fact of the matter is that we were assembled for only forty-five minutes at the most, each day at the same time. However, you are correct regarding one front. Much was truly achieved. Much was gained. It was always beneficial. Not even one hour of each day was spent together to comprehend familial peace, joy, and comfort. It is difficult for me to know that this is lacking today and that it has been absent from so many families for such a long time.

My heart truly rends for the millions of families who choose not to experience this peaceful, exuberant, and quality family time each day. Please try it. Gather your family for dinner tomorrow. Sit together. Share your lives with one another. Eat, laugh, cry, joke, learn, and talk. I promise that you will be amazed at the bliss you will enjoy.

Your family members will become closer. You will demonstrate concern for one another. You will desire to alleviate one another’s pains. You will delight in one another’s accomplishments. You will learn to know one another better. You will discover how to communicate with one another in a profound manner, based on the revelations of each family member or the lack thereof. You will acquire knowledge concerning your parents and siblings that you would otherwise never gain. Above all, you as a family will talk.

Verbal expression is key to the manifestation of familial enjoyment and contentment. How? Why? When we genuinely listen to our loved ones’ heartfelt convictions and truthfully and audibly convey our innermost concerns to them, we accurately and powerfully grasp the soul’s essence of each family member.

This is the beginning of love. Love is the foundation of the family. Without talking, love is impossible. Words from our mouths spring forth from our hearts. Therefore, if we love our family members, we are unable to withhold affectionate communication from them. If our family members claim to love us, the same holds true from them to us. In other words, talking within the family is the equivalent of love. Thus, silence within the family is the opposite of love. Hence, if you love one another as a family, I say to you, Talk.

Let me be clear. Family love is not limited or confined to only gathering one time a day around the kitchen table. Familial love is constant. It is ever present in the hearts and minds of each family member. It is never absent from the soul of any member of the family. It always begins with the parents of each household. They set this standard. They are the examples. Husbands and wives must be each other’s best friends, without fail. They must always love each other perfectly. They must crave the enjoyment, pleasure, and peace of each other first before themselves. Only in this pure, unadulterated kind of life and marriage should husbands and wives desire to bring