WHEN HIS WAYS MEET YOURS

By DAMON GRAYSON

When His Ways Meet Yours is a book of love and inspiration, written for women who wants the best for their life. Whether you are a twenty five year old newlywed or a fifty year old divorcee, the content in this book will rise your awareness and consciousness of your mental, emotional, psycholo

• Language: English
• Publisher: BEQUEATH PUBLISHING
• Release date: Nov 1, 2021
• ISBN: 9781088006597

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WHEN HIS WAYS MEET YOURS

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Chapter One

CHANGE

YOUR WAY

OF THINKING

Know this: It is a man’s natural reaction to rebel when he feels someone is trying to control him. Many times, you try to make someone do something you want them to do, they just do the opposite. When a man meets a woman, his hope is that she would never change. When a woman meets a man, her wish is that he would change, but change starts with self. Change is good; nevertheless, progress toward personal growth will maintain a constant flow of positive results. God said cast all your cares unto him for he cares for you. Let go and let God is not just an old fashion cliché, it’s a true living statement.  Surrender the fear, hurt, pain, mistrust and all the feelings of betrayal from childhood and former relationships, "it’s not his fault". Yesterday is gone, today is a blessing and tomorrow is not yet here. Enjoy the moment as much as possible with your mate today without the worries of yesterday and tomorrow. Read this paragraph whenever you’re going through emotional discomfort, it will soothe the heartache of expectation.

Thoughts are not feelings; however, thoughts beget feelings and feelings beget emotions. That’s when problems occur. You have good feelings; you have bad feelings and there is nothing wrong with either one. But when you meditate on the bad feelings you invite those feelings to become alive and manifest into your life. Positive thoughts bring positive results; negative thoughts bring negative results. We can change our surroundings by changing the way we think. You will start to feel better at work, home, school and to add to that, you won’t wake up from bed tired anymore. You won’t get angry as much, you will make much better decisions overall. The quality of life that you live today as well as the future will change for the better.

Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change

Dr. Wayne W. Dyer 

Think with Purpose On purpose

Whenever a negative thought comes to you immediately cancel it. These thoughts will usher in pain to your body and if continued, a future that you absolutely do not long for. Your thoughts today cause the events that happen tomorrow. Don’t allow a minute seed to grow into malicious thoughts. If you daydream; make conscious efforts to meditate on exhilarating mental activity. This will stimulate positive energy on your behalf and exercise the spirit in you to bring pure bliss to your daily life. Think with purpose on purpose. Believe in your intentions. Your intent is your will. Intentions are a power that brings thought into fruition whether you want it or not. We must be vigilant over our thinking or it will take over our mind just as it has all these years. (Stop and think about that)

When you start changing your thought process you will notice a change in your living conditions as well as the attitude of others towards you. Your positive energy will permeate through the atmosphere and everyone will feel it, including your boss, your children and most importantly your hubby. It is extremely imperative that you protect your thoughts. Researchers say we have about 50,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day.  It is impossible to monitor every single thought we have. Our feelings inform us to what we’re thinking. If you become sad, mad or feel hurt, identify the thought and take some time out to figure out the next step in overcoming these potentially harmful emotions. Let it go or make a sound decision to get to the root of the problem with the intent of a positive outcome or closure in mind. Never make a decision under the influence of anger, hurt or pain you might regret it.

When a person starts to look at self, their intentions change. Instead of looking at the folly of others they pay attention to their own. This is the prerequisite for change.  I look into my spiritual mirror everyday all day.

I don’t want to waste valuable time, energy or effort on anything that will not help me grow. If I grow, people around me grow. I change people by changing myself. The spirit of change travels through the portal of love. When you look at yourself and see your own faults and short comings, those of others don’t matter as much. The stresses of blaming others disappear. By focusing on self, you are much less judgmental toward everyone else. This first step will make you prone to forgive anybody and everybody for anything that you were offended by or that was done to you. You appreciate people for who they are, not what they are not. Being proactive in this area begets peace. Peace begets contentment and contentment begets good health, financial stability and so on.

Remember this; you have no control over anyone’s actions except your own. It took me fifty-two weeks of anger management to understand this concept. Take full responsibility for your own thoughts and actions without blaming anybody else for them. Our attitude determines our latitude. It’s not what you say it’s how you say it. Psalms 37:11, But the meek shall inherit the earth; and shall delight themselves in the abundance of peace. It took me many many years to finally attain this power, the power of peace. This will take you places money can’t buy, it will give you favor from God and man; it will keep a smile on your face and a glow of glee with you all the days of your life. Think peace and you will receive peace, even under stressful situations. Believe me it works.  A good practice to consider would be to repeat peace be still several times a day, but you must believe in it, in order for it to fully manifest. This does not mean you won’t be faced with opposition; it just means you will have peace and be able to handle the situation much better during conflicts. You will respond instead of reacting. Responsive; being susceptible to the feelings or attitudes of others. While on the other hand reaction means to do something in opposition to another way of doing it that you don’t like. We must be slow to anger and open our minds to the thoughts of others. This does not mean you have to be a doormat. It simply means to listen, process, and then respond with a sober attitude.

Create a space for yourself, a safe haven, a sanctuary if you may. Search for activities you draw comfort and joy from.  It could be the gym, a hobby, volunteering for an organization etc. Many years ago, my grandmother gave me some very good advice. She told me this; when you are young, spend time with older people to gain wisdom, likewise when you are older, spend time with young people to keep you youthful.  Consider those words of wisdom when contemplating on which extracurricular activity you choose to commit to. You don’t want to get burned out on your road to redemption.  You also need a place for your own dwelling, A place in or out the house like a closet, a room, the beach a park etc.  Places where you can reflect, meditate, pray, and or read. Listen to the silence as God speaks to you and bears witness with your own spirit. It is very easy to lose ourselves while concentrating on everyone else. You matter too. 

We rarely take out exclusive time for rejuvenation of our mind, body and spirit. Whether its ten minutes or two hours, it’s very necessary for a well-balanced life (with or without a mate). You will attain a childlike spirit once you discover the power of humility and start spending quality time with yourself.

You will begin to enjoy life as it comes and look forward to each day to interact with all of God’s creations. You will appreciate the universe and all of its facets. You will see beauty in all things, especially nature. Stressful situations won’t leave you stressed out. You will learn to love all of humanity. Negative judgment will disappear and tranquility will be the foundation of your new thought pattern, all through listening to the silence and spending time with YOU. 

  Set boundaries for yourself. It’s ok to say no.  A controlled self and a pure heart is positive energy working toward you, on your behalf and for your benefit. It sets the spirit of the other person at peace and allows open communication to be received by both parties in most cases. You must believe in the information that you are receiving and in the new you, in order to insure maximum, optimal results. Setting boundaries will permit you to escape the difficulties of expressing the truth instead of a lie. WHAT YOU FEEL MATTERS. It may be a little difficult at first but if you reprogram your mind and stay consistent, your life and relationships all around the board will benefit to the utmost. Setting boundaries allows you the freedom to be yourself without giving in to guilt, co-dependency and any other fearful misconceptions that has been imbedded into you from childhood or adulthood till this day. With freedom, you can let your guards down. One cannot truly love with a defensive mentality. Don’t take life so serious and do not take anything personal. That is the key to your own individual joy. Happiness is only at the surface of our core but joy travels deep. Setting boundaries create respect. It may not be liked but it’s to your benefit that you implement boundary setting into your daily life with all of your relationships. It is the ultimate feeling to do things from the heart and not out of obligation, guilt or fear.

There are two ways of meeting difficulties. You alter the difficulties or you alter yourself to meet them

Phyllis Bottome

We all have been conditioned and geared by our parents, teachers, media, religion, tradition etc. These are all influences in each and every one of our lives. We receive information from people we look up to, honor, respect and even fear. Sometime our parents tell us certain things because they don’t want us to know just yet because of our age/maturity or because they don’t know how to explain it or because they simply don’t want you to know the truth. Teachers teach what they have been taught and given to teach us even if it’s not true; for example, the evolution of man, the big bang theory and someone’s manipulated version of history.

Even reality shows are scripted, therefore not true reality. Adam and Eve didn’t have a religion. God created Eve for Adam to be a helpmate, a partner and Adam was to cleave unto to her, that’s it. Most music is exaggerated and glamorizes a lifestyle that the artist doesn’t really live. Friends want to be right and they have been conditioned from other points of views, so who’s word can you trust? Study to show thyself approved. (2 timothy 2:15). For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it