HOW TO TALK SO, KIDS WILL LISTEN AND LEARN: Parents and teachers tool kit to effective children’s conversation, a simple & practical guide to improve communication between you and your child

By MARK CREED

You are a parent or guardian or perhaps work with children. This book “How to talk to kids” will give you an expert guide to how to effectively communicate with children. It has been simplified and contains illustrations so you can easily understand and apply what you’ve read to enhance your interaction and communication with children.
Before going further, I’d like you to bear in mind that effective communication, especially with children is a skill and just like any other skill, it can be improved upon over time and with practice. You definitely don’t want to wait for something to happen before you start learning the process of talking rightly with children.
This book will give you a hands-on guide to effective communication with children. But before jumping right in, this very brief chapter will talk about who a child is. I’m sure you probably know this already but allow me to walk you through for better understanding especially as it relates to some terms you’ll come across as you read further

• Language: English
• Publisher: Lulu.com
• Release date: Sep 7, 2021
• ISBN: 9781329048713

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HOW TO TALK SO, KIDS WILL LISTEN AND LEARN

Parents and teachers tool kit to effective children’s conversation, a simple & practical guide to improve communication between you and your child

MARK CREED

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Table of Contents

Book Description

Introduction

The Stages Of Development In Children

Early childhood

Middle childhood

Chapter 1: How to talk with children

Chapter 2: How to Stay United and Communicate Effectively

Chapter 3: The Keys To Developing Self-Discipline In Children

Chapter 4: Telling the Truth

Teaching Your Child to Problem Solve and be Chapter 5: More Independent

Tips on Teaching Your Children How to Problem-Solve

Give Your Child an Obstacle

Don’t Hover Over Your Child

Make Problem-Solving a Positive Experience

Do-It-Yourself Projects

Problem Solving By Ages

One-Year-Old Problem-Solving Skills

Two-Year-Old Problem-Solving Skills

Three-Year-Old Problem-Solving Skills

Chapter 6: Additional Resources

Language Development

What About Websites?

Potty Training

What’s on the Internet?

Traveling with Toddlers

What’s on the Internet?

Chapter 7: How to set Kind Limits While Maintaining Goodwill

Chapter 8: Punishment Alternatives

Chapter 9: How to Praise Effectively

Chapter 10: Managing Stress In Kids

Chapter 11: Factors Behind Tension

Chapter 12: Tension Symptoms

Chapter 13: Ramifications of Stress

Chapter 14: Stress Administration Tips

Know Your Limitations

Chapter 15: Three Strategies for Teaching Children Self-Control

Adjust the Situation

Adjust Their Mindset

Adjust Their Reactions

Chapter 16: Fun Ways to Help Your Child Learn Hard Lessons

Teach Throughout the Good Periods

Teaching via Play

Family Night

Read to Your Children

Chapter 17: How to Raise a Leader

Encourage Independent Thinking

Develop Leadership Abilities over Time

Make It Significant

Chapter 18: What Can Parents Do?

Trust

Meet the Parents

Have Realistic Expectations about their Social Abilities

Teach Values not Quantity

Don’t Talk Too Much about Painful Situations

Empower Your Child with the Right Questions

Stay Out of the Situation Unless Asked

Listen to Both Sides

You Are Not Your Child

Get Expert Advice

Are They at Serious Risk?

Chapter 19: Raising Happy Kids

Chapter 20: Meditation equals Calm

Chapter 21: Mindfulness Techniques

Chapter 22: Educate Yourself And Your Child About Anxiety

Chapter 23: Parenting With Empathy, Empathy For Confidence

Chapter 24: What Are Common  Fears And Worries?

Chapter 25: Learning About My  Fears And Worries

Study Your Fear Questionnaire

Zoey And The Bees.

Exercises After The Story:

Chapter 26: Basic Guidelines

Chapter 27: Eliminating Stress

Chapter 28: What You Need to Know Before Teaching Your Child Mindfulness

Tips for Teaching Your Child Mindfulness: Before You Get Started

1: Try Mindfulness Yourself

2: Be Mindful During Daily Activities

3: Be Sure Your Expectations are Realistic

Overcoming Common Obstacles to Mindfulness

1; Your Child Does Not Understand Mindfulness

2: Your Child is Not Interested

3: You Are in the Habit of Tuning Them Out

Conclusion

Book Description

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ou are a parent or guardian or perhaps work with children. This book How to talk with children will give you an expert guide to how to effectively communicate with children. It has been simplified and contains illustration so you can easily understand and apply what you’ve read to enhance your interaction and communication with children.

Before going further, I’d like you to bear in mind that effective communication, especially with children is a skill and just like any other skill, it can be improved upon over time and with practice. You definitely don’t want to wait for something to happen before you start learning the process of talking rightly with children.

Like you read in the introduction, this book will give you a hands-on guide to effective communication with children. But before jumping right in, this very brief chapter will talk about who a child is. I’m sure you probably know this already but allow me to walk you through for better understanding especially as it relates to some terms you’ll come across as you read further.

Introduction

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child is a young human yet to get to puberty and just in case you didn’t already know, puberty is the physical change a child passes through to become a mature adult capable of sexual reproduction.

Since the age of puberty varies from one person to another, the term child can mean different age brackets to different persons. For instance, in girls, puberty usually occurs between the ages of 10 and 14 in boys, it usually comes between the ages of 12 and 16 years. In this light therefore, a 12-year-old prepubescent girl can biologically be referred to as a child just the same way a 14-year-old boy who is yet to get to puberty can.

The Stages Of Development In Children

To grasp a solid understanding of how to talk with children, it is important you understand the various stages a child passes through in the course of development, characteristics of each stage with regards to communication and how you can communicate effectively with children in the various stages of development.

There are 2 broad developmental stages that children pass through, these are:

Early childhood &

Middle childhood

Early childhood

This stage starts from the child’s birth till when he/she is 8 years old. This period is characterized by tremendous growth across all areas including cognitive and language development. This is the stage in which parent – child communication is most important because at this point, the child’s brain is developing rapidly and laying the foundation for learning. During this period, the child’s interactions with adults influences how the he/she develops and learns.

Most children, in the first 3 years of life develops a spoken vocabulary of between 300 and 1,000 words. It is during this period that the child learns how to use language to learn about and describe the world around them. By the age of 5, the child's vocabulary will have grown to about 1,500 words. In this phase, he/she will; be able to produce 5 to 7-word sentences, learn to use the past tense and be able tell familiar stories using pictures as cues.

Middle childhood

This is the period between 8 to 12 years. This period has been described as the latency stage as there are no significant personality or cognitive development during this phase. In this phase, the child develops an increased ability to participate in meaningful interpersonal communication. From middle childhood, a child grows into adolescence – a transition phase from childhood to adulthood. Adolescence marks the end of childhood and is characterized by the onset of puberty.

For each of these stages discussed above, the approaches in the next chapter should be used for effective communication.

Chapter 1

How to talk with children

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s a parent, guardian, teacher or anyone who works with children, talking with children is a daily activity. Sometimes, you may be busy especially as a parent and would therefore prefer to keep the interaction with the child as brief and light as possible so you can move on to the next thing on your to-do list. While there is a place for brief interactions in daily life, there are also times the child really needs you to tune in and listen deeply.

The child would probably not tell you this but he/she needs you to dig into their inner life on occasion to find out what they are thinking and feeling. This will help