Tantrums!: Managing Meltdowns in Public and Private
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A comprehensive guide to effectively handle and diffuse tantrums in children
This practical and insightful book equips parents, caregivers, and educators with proven strategies to manage challenging behaviors and promote positive development, including:
- Proven Techniques: Discover research-backed techniques that address tantrums in both public and private settings, helping you navigate difficult situations with confidence.
- Practical Strategies: Learn step-by-step strategies to prevent tantrums, minimize their intensity, and restore calm during meltdowns, empowering you to regain control and create a peaceful environment.
- Tailored Approach: Understand the underlying causes of tantrums and how to respond to each child's unique needs, fostering a deeper understanding of their behavior and promoting effective communication.
- Positive Discipline: Explore the power of positive discipline and effective consequences, fostering a healthy parent-child relationship and promoting long-term behavioral changes.
- Emotional Regulation: Gain insights into emotional regulation techniques that support children in managing their emotions, leading to enhanced self-control and improved coping skills.
- Practical Examples: Benefit from real-life scenarios and case studies that illustrate effective strategies in action, providing relatable guidance to handle a wide range of tantrum triggers.
- Empathy and Connection: Learn how to foster empathy and connection with your child, building a strong emotional bond and promoting cooperation and mutual respect.
Tantrums! is an invaluable resource for parents and caregivers seeking practical solutions to effectively manage tantrums, creating a harmonious environment where children can thrive. Dr. Phelan's expertise and compassionate approach make this book a must-read for anyone dealing with challenging behavior in children.
Thomas Phelan
Dr. Thomas W. Phelan is an internationally renowned expert, author, and lecturer on child discipline and Attention Deficit Disorder. A registered Ph.D. clinical psychologist, he appears frequently on radio and TV. Dr. Phelan practices and works in the western suburbs of Chicago.
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- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Really quick read with common sense strategies that you can easily implement. Spells the problem and remedy out in plain english without the extraneous psycho-babble of many parenting books!
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Tantrums! - Thomas Phelan
’em!
You’re Not Alone!
As upsetting as they can be, and as difficult as they are to manage, young kids’ temper tantrums are usually simply a primitive response to good parenting. These loud and sometimes violent outbursts of anger do not mean you’ve done anything wrong as a parent or caretaker. Instead, temper tantrums most often mean that you are doing your job. And a difficult job it is! See if any of this sounds familiar …
Feedback from Facebook Followers
Q:Your kid’s into a total nuclear meltdown. What’s the most difficult part of that for you?
Not losing my cool. Mom is tired and frustrated too, but I don’t get to kick and scream. Sara N.
Keeping your calm and ignoring, especially when it goes on for a long time. Jill F.
Mine’s not even 5 yet, but I think she has learned this one through the divatude
in public because at home you know you can’t get away with it. Barkshire W.
Glad I’m not alone. I fear my own inability to keep cool and not allow myself to get to his level. I have days where I feel like the crappiest parent. Karen S.
Dealing with the noise, which is annoying. Controlling the urge to try to reason with them at the moment. Sibyla S.
For me it’s the sound of the scream/cry!! I usually do well with not giving in, but I don’t want to lose control and scream/cry back at them. Ashley F.
Keeping my cool. The feeling that rises up is a mixture of anxiety and anger, and the desperate need to control the situation. Channa B.
Q:How do you feel about managing children’s tantrums in public?
I struggle with being in public. All parents most likely have been there,
however as the mother of a tantruming child you can’t help but feel the stares and judgments being passed to you when you are carrying the child out of the room/store, etc. Jill F.
I must agree with some of the others about children-with-an-audience tantrums. They learn that parents don’t want to be embarrassed and the kids push buttons in front of an audience sometimes. Barkshire W.
Tantrums don’t really bug me, except that I’m embarrassed that people are seeing/hearing my kid that’s totally out of control. I worry that I’m being judged. Heidi D.
Afraid of DCFS!!! Far too many nosey people … You barely raise your voice above a whisper and they call it child abuse
. Shauna N.
Parents are afraid other people will report them for abusing
their kids. I know it’s the first thing that comes to my mind when I have to stand outside a business for a time-out with my kid bellowing. LaCosta L.
Q:How long does it take to recover from a youngster’s major meltdown? For the kid, maybe seven minutes. For the parent, three hours.
So true!! I’m so glad it’s in writing too, so I don’t feel like it’s just my problem. Katie V.
No wonder my day goes to crap with only three fits. Angie S.
Or longer, for the parent! Julie A.
Glad to see I’m not the only one who feels exhausted after dealing with meltdowns. Grzenzia M.
My little boy’s meltdowns do me in for the day. Ella J.
Q:When your child is having a blow up after not getting something they wanted, how effective is reasoning and explaining?
I equal this to them hearing me as the teacher in Peanuts.
They can’t hear words at that point. It’s just noise. Tara L.
You cannot reason with a child that is already tantruming. Diane S.
If she doesn’t get the point when she’s CALM, how on earth will she grasp it during a screaming/crying/kicking FIT? Although, I would actually say the fact that she is throwing a tantrum means she DOES understand, but refuses to accept my decision. So she tries to change the answer with the fit. Allison Z.
About as bad as trying to reason with an out-of-control adult. But you do have a better chance—you are the adult. Cheryl H.
Q:How does your child’s meltdown affect your feelings about yourself as a parent?
Useless, knowing I did something to put her in a situation that led to her meltdown and unsure how to help her. They’re getting more violent and destructive now. Feel helpless most of the time. Corinne K.
Terrible. Like a total failure.